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To expect DH to put toddler to bed/wake up for her beyond two days?

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Artmumcreative · 15/01/2026 19:59

I'm utterly exhausted. My DH is supposed to be sleep training our toddler because I'm pregnant with our second baby. After two days of being quite successful he told me that I need to get used to settling her myself because he's working (more than) full-time, including late evenings in a job that he isn't even happy in. I breastfeed our toddler twice a day, maybe three times, and when I try to settle her in her room she just wants milk (mornings, evenings, and for naps unless she falls asleep in the pushchair).
AIBU to think that sleep training is the job of the parent that isn't breastfeeding/attempting to wean their toddler off breastmilk?

Any tips/advice?

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Zanatdy · 15/01/2026 20:08

In my opinion, he needs to do it for a lot longer than 2 days. Clearly just cba and wants you to do it again.

Jellybunny56 · 15/01/2026 20:07

YABU to say its not your job, he’s unreasonable if he’s saying it is solely your job. It’s BOTH of your jobs- alternate.

Artmumcreative · 15/01/2026 20:07

Spoodles · 15/01/2026 20:05

You'll have to put her to bed at some point though and she's going to want milk whether that's after 2 days or 2 weeks so I think this is one of those situations where it would be best just to bite the bullet.

If he's at work then what's the alternative?

Ok, so how do I do it? My expectation was that she'd get into a routine of going to bed and then I could step in

OP posts:
Spoodles · 15/01/2026 20:05

You'll have to put her to bed at some point though and she's going to want milk whether that's after 2 days or 2 weeks so I think this is one of those situations where it would be best just to bite the bullet.

If he's at work then what's the alternative?

AutumnClouds · 15/01/2026 20:01

Pregnancy fatigue trumps the working tiredness I reckon, milk provider issues aside

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