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To consider reporting this dog owner?

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AInightingale · 15/01/2026 19:31

Once a week for the last couple of months, I've had to walk a particular route with my son (re. an activity he's been doing). We pass a house on our way, and the owner has a Doberman dog kept in the garden. Every time we pass, this dog comes charging across to the fence (a high metal one) barking like mad. Naturally, given the breed, it's a bloody terrifying sight if it catches you unawares. I'd forgotten about it today and it scared the living daylights out of me. The house is next to a busy road.
It made me think back to my son when he was about four or five and petrified of all dogs, when he would just scream and run if he saw one. I had to keep a pretty tight hold on him because of it, was a stressful time. We now have our own dog and he's okay with them. But the way this animal behaves is concerning me for the safety of other children - the traffic on this road is non-stop. Surely dog owners aren't allowed to let animals roam about their gardens behaving in this way? No doubt the owner would say it's a guard dog just doing its job (god knows why, the house is a shit tip). I don't like dogs being penned but I don't like having the bejasus scared out of me either.

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JackGrealishsCalves · 16/01/2026 22:49

As the mum of a now adult ds who was terrified of dogs when he was younger.... bloody behave

Barrellturn · 16/01/2026 22:44

Id probably ask the owner if it's ok to give it a treat now and then. After 2-3 times of lobbing a dog biscuit at it it won't bark at you.

DameOfThrones · 16/01/2026 22:41

Blimey

First time I've seen a dog moaning thread where the majority have disagreed with the OP!

These threads are sooo 2025 it would seem 😁

bridezillaincoming · 16/01/2026 22:37

FFS, absolutely ridiculous 🙄

PerksOfNotBeingAWallflower · 16/01/2026 22:34

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 20:07

No it can't get out obviously, but it is just unpleasant, to say the least, to have that couple of seconds of sheer panic when an enormous aggressive dog comes bounding towards you out of the blue. People shouldn't have to cross the road to avoid triggering it.

Dog generally bark when they’re scared, you even have mentioned that the dog is triggered by your passing. Why would you willingly walk past knowing that the dog is triggered when there’s an alternative. It’s the lesser of two evils. Cross the road or get barked at. You can’t complain about being barked at if there’s an alternative route that you aren’t prepared to use. Who would you even complain to about the dog?

JanuaryJasmine · 16/01/2026 22:17

YABU

The dog is contained in its own garden. Walk the otherwise if the road & leave it ti di others, if they, like you, are SO traumatised they don't even think about doing so.

I'd love to see a response to your complaint.

'🤣🤣mate, listen to this, this nightmare is complaining a dog is barking in its own garden where there is a 6ft secure fence it can't get out of 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣'

Isit2026yet · 16/01/2026 20:29

@AInightingale if the dog is safely contained YABU. A dog barking on its property does not mean it is aggressive.

CinnamonBuns67 · 15/01/2026 22:21

Yabu. Dog was secured in the garden and whilst I appreciate the unexpected noise will make people jump, the dog isn't behaving in a way that would concern me by what you have described and you and your son weren't in any danger so theres nothing to report. Dobermans can be quite barky, like alot of those kind of protection breeds, there's a german shepherd down the road from me that does that, barking does not equal aggression, it's communication. Walk on the other side of the road when you approach that house in future.

blythet · 15/01/2026 22:03

XenoBitch · 15/01/2026 21:56

YABU, what exactly are you going to report? A dog barking in its own secure garden...

A child that is scared of dogs could also potentially run out in the road when passing a house that has a yappy dog in the window. If the dog is secure, then it is up to the parent to manage their child's fears.

Managing a child’s fears to stop them being afraid of a dog barking at its own window or passing in the street is one thing but I’d imagine the vast majority of children would get a fright from a Doberman charging at them, jumping and barking at a fence would catch anyone completely off guard.

I’ve had dogs my whole life, mostly large breed and if I experienced that unexpectedly I’d be a bit taken aback so it would be much worse for young kids.

my Dd is the biggest dog lover and has zero fear of dogs. We have a lab ourselves and and she also sees her gran’s Rottweiler 3 or 4 days a week - doesn’t even flinch and they chase her round the garden and play with her etc. However if she were to walk past the scenario OP has described she’d get the fright of her life. It’s more the being caught off guard from an aggressive dog charging at you as opposed to a general phobia of dogs

DogsandFlowers · 15/01/2026 22:01

Report what and to who? You sound very classist

NeverDropYourMooncup · 15/01/2026 22:01

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 20:07

No it can't get out obviously, but it is just unpleasant, to say the least, to have that couple of seconds of sheer panic when an enormous aggressive dog comes bounding towards you out of the blue. People shouldn't have to cross the road to avoid triggering it.

You'd have more to worry about if it were a Doberman that was absolutely silent in a garden without a massive steel fence.

vodkaredbullgirl · 15/01/2026 21:59

Report and then come back and tell us how you got on. Doubt you will get far or just go a different route or cross the road.

XenoBitch · 15/01/2026 21:56

YABU, what exactly are you going to report? A dog barking in its own secure garden...

A child that is scared of dogs could also potentially run out in the road when passing a house that has a yappy dog in the window. If the dog is secure, then it is up to the parent to manage their child's fears.

blythet · 15/01/2026 21:49

A child could get a fright and run out on to the busy road.

I agree with PP that it’s not illegal but it feels like very irresponsible dog ownership to me. It’s not fair on the dog, the neighbours or the passers by.

and yes the OP could take another route or cross the road but what about anyone else walking past who’s not aware and experiences this for the first time?

I have a large dog breed myself and would definitely not accept this from my dog. My own dog used to bark and growl at next door neighbours dog through the fence if they were both in the back garden at the same time. A few weeks of training and it’s no longer an issue. If I hadn’t managed to train my dog not to be reactive in that situation I wouldn’t have left her out the back alone - it would drive my neighbours insane!

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 21:48

So, people can keep vast aggressive dogs which they don't need for any real purpose and if it makes life unpleasant for their neighbours or passers-by, they can just suck it up or get a life.
Sorry, I forgot this was mumsnet, where a child not clamped to their parent's hand until the age of eight or who behaves unpredictably for any reason is a feral lowlife and improperly parented. Silly me!

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bridgetreilly · 15/01/2026 21:29

Get an actual life. HTH.

PollyBell · 15/01/2026 21:27

Report them for what?

SD1978 · 15/01/2026 21:18

You’ve got nothing to report. The dog is contained and looked after. You don’t know if there is a noise issue because you see it once a week and only the neighbours could lodge one. What would you tell the RSPCA? A big contained dog is barking at me and gives me a jump every week? They will not action that as there isn’t anything to action. If a child is young enough it runs across the road, then that child shouldn’t be unsupervised, it isn’t the dogs fault if it’s properly contained

Catza · 15/01/2026 21:16

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 20:58

No, it looks healthy enough though the house is a bit of a dump (rubbish, old cars up on bricks etc). Wouldn't imagine the people that actually live around there are happy living next to them, or about a massive dog charging towards them every time they walk down the road, but it's not illegal I guess - though putting people in fear might be something councils take a dim view of, I'm not sure. It's the safety aspect of potentially putting a child in danger if they panic and run towards the road that concerns me tbh. Some young children are petrified of dogs.

This is all highly hypothetical. Some young children are indeed petrified of the dogs. So what can we do about it? Absolutely nothing. It's the job of the parents to deal with their child and it's the job of the dog owner to keep the dog contained as he, indeed, is doing.
The option to cross the street is still available to you. And no, it's not to avoid triggering the dog. It's to avoid triggering yourself and your child.

dadtoateen · 15/01/2026 21:03

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 20:58

No, it looks healthy enough though the house is a bit of a dump (rubbish, old cars up on bricks etc). Wouldn't imagine the people that actually live around there are happy living next to them, or about a massive dog charging towards them every time they walk down the road, but it's not illegal I guess - though putting people in fear might be something councils take a dim view of, I'm not sure. It's the safety aspect of potentially putting a child in danger if they panic and run towards the road that concerns me tbh. Some young children are petrified of dogs.

Nothing fir the council to get involved with.

young kids/child out on the streets on there own without adult supervision?

Elektra1 · 15/01/2026 21:00

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 20:07

No it can't get out obviously, but it is just unpleasant, to say the least, to have that couple of seconds of sheer panic when an enormous aggressive dog comes bounding towards you out of the blue. People shouldn't have to cross the road to avoid triggering it.

Don’t walk past that house then. What a ridiculous post. “Report this dog owner”? For what? Keeping their dog safely contained in their own garden?? What next? Your neighbours “reporting” you for your offensive Christmas illuminations they don’t like?

Nicknacky · 15/01/2026 21:00

Who are you thinking of reporting it to?

AInightingale · 15/01/2026 20:58

No, it looks healthy enough though the house is a bit of a dump (rubbish, old cars up on bricks etc). Wouldn't imagine the people that actually live around there are happy living next to them, or about a massive dog charging towards them every time they walk down the road, but it's not illegal I guess - though putting people in fear might be something councils take a dim view of, I'm not sure. It's the safety aspect of potentially putting a child in danger if they panic and run towards the road that concerns me tbh. Some young children are petrified of dogs.

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