I’m cheating what to do

It's different. She can't stand being in the same room as her husband, and those feelings preceded her affair. Life IS too short to be married to someone you can't stand. The poster you're replying to didn't say, leave for another man. She just said, leave.

What do you want to do? Carrying on as you are clearly isn't an option for the man you are having an affair with, and rightly so. He deserves better.

It also isn't fair on your husband. He also deserves better.

If you want to continue the relationship with the man you are having an affair with, you need to end your relationship with your husband. You don't need to tell him why - or your parents and kids for that matter. You can just leave, if the man you are having an affair with is happy for the secrecy to continue for longer. This is the coward's option and still leaves you open to judgement from your parents and children. However, that's no reason to stay in an unhappy relationship.

If you don't want to continue the affair or stay with your husband, you need to end the affair and your marriage, and manage the fallout with your parents and children.

If you want to avoid any conflict with your parents and children, you need to end the affair and go to marriage counselling with your husband in order to get to a place where the rest of your life with him is one that you want.

I don't really understand why you're asking what to do.

If you're asking what you SHOULD do, that's entirely up to you and what you want from the next chapter of your life.

Think of you ... I think life is too short to stay in a dead marriage .
Your children have their own lives yes they will be upset maybe shocked in the beginning but as time goes on they wil understand.
Don't waste anymore time you can't help your feelings .
Just do it as gently as possible .
Good luck x

If you can’t stand to be in the same room as your husband you should either work on changing that or leave him. The other guy is irrelevant to this.

Then you should decide if you want to be with other guy or if he was just a fun distraction.

Either way, stop cheating on your husband now. It’s a profoundly shitty way to treat him.

We can only assume that we are going to have to wait for the OP to come back from her gym session to get an update?

I get it OP. Just tell your husband. Yes you’ll have to admit what you’ve done but you’re leaving him anyway so what is he going to do?

it’ll hurt him but it’s the way of life. You only get one so put yourself first. If the other guy makes you happy go for it. And yes I’d say the same to a man before anyone asks.

Kindly, although anyone is free to post on any thread - this is a like a man posting on a cervical screening thread - it’s a bit irrelevant.

You are too young and inexperienced to be able to grasp certain concepts.
Thats not a negative thing - we’ve all been there.

But when you’re older and you get your first bf then threads like this will make more sense to you and therefore your posts will make more sense too, as at the minute they’re not really making much sense 💐

😂

“He says you have to tell your husband” What do you want to do? It sounds like you got bored and ended up having an affair. Do you actually want to be with him? If you leave, leave for your reasons not because someone is telling you to. Although this going to cause a lot of hurt to a lot of people.

Yeah, I’m not sure he’s the best example of how to be a good person

I fucking hate cheaters.

She hasn't mentioned what he is like, so we don't know. It doesn't require someone to be an abusive alcoholic. If he has cheated himself, it's a factor. If he is emotionally abusive, it's a factor.

None of these things make cheating right, but there is a world of difference between cheating in an otherwise happy, loyal and loving relationship versus cheating in a relationship where you have been hurt. One is significantly less of a moral failing than the other.

Until OP shares her background, I am not going to assume she's an a-hole, I will give her the advice she came for.

WTF?

A girl I know did, with a man who knew she was married. They're still together 20 years later despite the fact she'd been married for 6 months at the time. Walked away with nearly 100,000 from a 6 month marriage, and is now living the high life even though she met her lover when on holiday with her husband. Again, ask me why I have no faith anymore.

Go with what you want to do.

Makes me angry not going to lie. Seen so many examples of people cheating and then they run off into the sunset leaving people heartbroken - decent people who would never cheat. I've no faith in relationships or people anymore.

Thank you, maybe you could take a leaf out of my book and have a bit of righteousness yourself.

You didn’t ask for correction, but I would be remiss not to let you know that your affair partner is not a kind person. Kind people don’t have affairs with married people.

Kind married women don't have affairs full stop.

Oh, I forgot , silly me , we're in MN where we prefer to bring men down, and never blame the women 🙄

Found out before Christmas that my husband cheated on me 11 years ago, it was a kiss and a grope on a stag do so not as disgusting as having an affair like you're doing - and I cannot put into words how much it has destroyed me and everything I thought was my past, present and future. Stop being a selfish cunt and leave the poor man.