I’m cheating what to do

Although don't end your marriage for this man, who probably isn't as nice as you think he is. Most of them aren't.

Well you need to end your marriage obviously. I think what you're doing is disgusting so there's no cosy wee questions here about how you met. Whether you stay with this man is up to you.

This isn't the place to ask OP. Just do what causes the minimum hurt. It sounds like you're planning to end the relationship soon anyway so the cheating is fairly irrelevant and you don't need to announce it to the whole world. You don't need to walk on your knees for 100 miles through the desert repenting. These things happen.

I would not want to ruin the relationship with my children. Finish with the guy, end your marriage and focus on rebuilding your life.

Honestly I would keep the affair quiet . But definitely leave your husband ASAP.
And then in the future mention you have met someone to your children.
They probably wont think very highly of you if they find out you cheated .
It was a very mean thing to do. You should have ended your marriage and had some self control .

Think about whether you want either of these men. Certainly end your marriage amicably if you consider it is over. Don't mention the affair. Pause the other relationship for several months, get your ducks in a row, then see if either of you you want to resume it.

I’m really sorry and I can’t judge (and don’t mean to) but cheating is just awful. You won’t be the first or the last person to cheat, and I sympathise that people do it for many reasons and it absolutely doesn’t mean you’re a bad person but I do feel sorry for your husband for when he finds out this has been going on.

Falling out of your husband = entirely understandable but you should have told him that, got divorced or separated and then started dating / or started the romantic relationship with this new man.

please tell your husband ASAP, your children will probably be shocked and might be upset / disappointed but you’re still there mother so I’m sure everything will work out in the end.

You stop seeing this other man. You seperate from your husband and start the wheels formally OP.

You can't see this other bloke though, you need to do it cleanly.

It's time to be a grown up and stop running away or distracting yourself with oxytocin l.

1. End your affair.
2. Leave your husband
3. Have a relationship if you want to.

Im single maybe i should sign up.
Seems to be the gym is where the action is 😆.

Tell your husband asap.

What a spiteful little post. Hopefully it will keep you warm for days to come.

I think you have to BE HONEST. You find a time to tell your husband with kindness and then you tell your children individually with the expectation that they will be initially extremely upset and cross with you and may well side with your husband.

I really hope you are independent in terms of finances and won’t be leaning on the new guy for accommodation and a prop up as you try and organise your divorce. My advice would be to move out of the family home and create distance and date the new guy properly.

Good luck.

Admit what you have done to your husband, it's the least you can do for him after betraying him for 9 months. Then wait for Karma to come along, I hope it comes soon.

I'm clearly going to the wrong gym. The blokes at mine are either students, gym bros who can't tear their eyes away from their own reflections, or OAPs.
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This is going to get very messy. Expect your family to side with DH especially if they are religious. You obviously see a future with your man from the gym, but does he see a future with you? 9 months is no time at all, and when your meetings are no longer clandestine, the shine will wear off pretty quickly. Also think about your children and how this break up is going to affect them, although I am not advising staying together for the sake of the DC.

Also get an sti check. And hope it's clear

End the affair.
End your marriage.
Spend some time alone with your conscience.
Relationships that start as affairs have a really low likelihood of lasting, after all both people are pretty shitty.

Against the grain a bit. You're dont have to fess up, no one deserves to know "the truth"

BUT you do owe it to OH to stop fucking cheating on them.

Stop cheating, make the decision whether you stay with OH (doesn't sound like it) or end the relationship. And then when the relationship is over, you are single and can pursue other options. Affair partner being one of them.

Your OH doesnt "have to know" that youve been cheating BUT they do deserve to know that youve fallen out of love, the relationship doesnt make you happy and you want to part ways. They dont need to know youve been screwing around behind their back or anything that will cause them additional hurt and pain!.

Life is messy.

OP since they've now posted about it twice this person apparently wants to know if you're shagging the guy you've been seeing for 9 months? No idea why it makes a difference but have at it, have you been shagging @ashamedclown?