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Ex wife still has husband’s surname

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ByCyanPlayer · 15/01/2026 11:31

Am I wrong to be peeved that my husband’s ex-wife still uses his surname, despite them being divorced 28 years and they were only married for 2 years? They share a son who is 30 but I fail to see why she can’t go back to her maiden name, plus she isn’t the type to be bothered about her and her son having the same surname.

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DaisyChain505 · 15/01/2026 11:34

I can’t say I would let this bother me or be giving it any thought.

FaceEatingLeopard · 15/01/2026 11:34

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offtothegymagain · 15/01/2026 11:33

I don’t think it’s your business. It’s her name now. Why does it bother you? One of my friends is divorced and she’s kept her married surname. The new partner gets annoyed too which we slightly chuckle about (as they had an affair). But it’s her name and has been for years.

FrenchandSaunders · 15/01/2026 11:33

Why does it bother you?

GreenPoms · 15/01/2026 11:33

It’s her name. She doesn’t have to change it.