My housekeeper is vey religious and it’s causing issues

My nanny, yes I am childless but I have a manic job and a zillion animals, is Catholic and sings to the dogs in the mornings and I notice Alexa is also peddling god stuff now but I dont mind, shes always happy and kind. I wouldnt employ someone born again though, I dont like being hassled about jesus and find that stuff really hypocritical and sleazy. I can handle superstition though, 27 years in the middle east I have heard every tale going.

Agree! Tell them to stop it immediately. It's absolutely not their business. It's the cat's wish, praise be.

Oh my goodness a rate sighting of the four Yorkshireman sketch, ladies auxiliary, UK division!

Sorry this was in reference to the various posts upthread telling the OP that she could easily dispense with all household help as the poster herself had virtuously done. “Well I never would” is so absurd.

I get that staff are much more affordable in other countries and in ex-pat communities it feels like the ‘done thing’, but you still have a choice. I would hate to have full-time staff milling around the house all day long, even if they weren’t spouting religious nonsense. I have cleaners, but they are only here a few hours a week, I make sure I’m not around when they come and they obviously know not to move or remove any of my belongings. Is this not something you could do instead? It would solve your problems I think.

This is an excellent channel 5 drama in the making. I could write it now. 2 members of RELIGIOUS AND SUPERSTITIOUS staff battling for supremacy in a household, the unwitting (slightly oblivious - soz 😬) family in the middle.

The members of staff knock off family members by accident, each thinking the other has killed them.

Starting with elderly grandmother in granny annexe, then an even more accidental member of staff (perhaps a young swarthy gardener)

Then the husband….

Then a kid (the annoying one)

Finally in true channel 5 fashion the mum and remaining kid (always an innocent baby) run for their lives…

Have you tried asking your tarot cards and crystals what you should do?

Honestly? This sort of thing will give you some marvellous stories in the years to come. As long as the nanny and the housekeeper are not actually falling out with each other (or you) then ride it out.

I can understand the OP having a lot of help. Moving to a foreign country is hard work - why make life difficult for yourself if you don't have to? There's a good chance that the driver and housekeeper come with the house and have been there for years - if the OP were to sack them, they would lose their home.

I agree that the cat will protect you from demons.

I am quite sure some higher power sent me my cat to keep my toes warm at night, and that they sent me my dog to kick me out of bed in the morning.
Kids learn so much from world experiences. Nothing compares to it and learning a bit about other cultures is invaluable. Also if I had the opportunity to have all the help OP has and quality time with my kids while they grow, I'd be all in!! But that would be my choice, and I also wouldn't judge someone who decides to home school, it just would not be my choice.

'Jesus is coming'. 'Well, How lovely. Did he say when as we will bake a cake?'. How entertaining.

Get the cat a little Halloween outfit.

You need to tell them both to do the jobs they are being paid to do and keep their religious beliefs tothemsrlves, and if they cant do that, you will accept their resignation.

I think that some of those snarking about OP having domestic help are missing the point that having “staff” is much more affordable in some countries (as a % of income) than it is in Western Europe.

Having lived many years in Asia I know countless families who came back to the UK and continued earning more or less the same/working the same hours as they did in banks in Hong Kong or insurance companies in Singapore.They had nannies and housekeepers there, but do not have them here because they don’t want to pay UK-level salaries to them.

It’s no different to coming back from living in a place where street food costs a couple of £ at a stall, to food trucks in London charging £12 for a curry.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

We moved overseas precisely because we wanted our children to be exposed to wider views and experiences than just the average middle England or mumsnetter's view of the world. The fact that your children have a nanny and you work away a few nights does not mean you stop parenting and in fact it can definitely encourage more thoughtful interactions. It has been hugely culturally enriching for our family to live overseas (my husband and I have different nationalities in any event) and extremely thought provoking for our children. I am often amazed at the things they can discuss and have a valid and thoughtful opinion on in terms of cultures and politics incorporating their experiences and very different education and I am extremely glad they have not grown up solely in the UK with its often very narrow views. And also that they have experienced being an immigrant (which we definitely are).

Tell her to stick to her day job and keep her religious beliefs to herself. Easy.

This thread is making me laugh out loud. Which is ironic as my religious relative would give me (silent) rage when they started spouting their nonsense.

Let the gardener bury the witchy dolls in the garden and light the pumpkin in the porch. Tell the driver to take the housemaid far away then send the nanny to go and work with your friend's butler and cook. Promote the cat as head of household and enjoy high tea with the cat and the children.

Let the gardener bury the witchy dolls in the garden and light the pumpkin in the porch. Tell the driver to take the housemaid far away then send the nanny to go and work with your friend's butler and cook. Promote the cat as head of household and enjoy high tea with the cat and the children.

I can't believe this is real, but if it is, tell them to keep quiet. I wouldn't want that bullshit spoken about around my children. They are entitled to their private beliefs, but they need to remain private.

I’m 99% sure she made them herself but they had a prayer on one side and some bible quotes about Jesus coming back on the other side. Very nice paper as well, Patrick Bateman would have loved them.

Oh now I'm curious where you are and whether I should bid it.

My guess is... Ethiopia?

Go Pagan. I don't know much about it, but am fond of a Green Man and a bit of mistletoe. Adorn your home with shrines to nature. If nothing else this might unite the nanny and the housekeeper, and give the cat some new objects to knock down.

find another housekeeper.
they are meant to make your life easier, not more difficult with their criticism and opinions