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To ask though I probably know the answer

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Whyohwhy88 · 15/01/2026 00:30

I used to talk to this guy we meet on some app at the time called “Ki he was three year younger I was 17 when we started talking obviously nothing sexual was talked about due to the age gap at that time. Fast forward a few years and our last messages to each other was 2023. He’s now deleted me from Facebook so I guess that’s a certain he wants nothing to do with me. I did think about him in that time but just had so much other stuff going on and didn’t message neither did he he mind. I’m tempted to message him for clousure but I guess deep down it’s not right. Forgot to say they had been light flirting over the years but never meet in person mainly to do with ne

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MelonFlan · 15/01/2026 08:11

What closure more than being deleted? The friendship was wrong from the start. Why would you even befriend a 14 year old boy and to still want closure 2 years and a block or delete later, I think you need to talk to a professional because this is not a normal social and emotional development on your behalf.
Don't search him up, don't contact him again, go to therapy.

Gnarab24 · 15/01/2026 08:05

OP, you’ve not spoken/messaged this person for at least 2 years and now that you’ve discovered he’s deleted you on FB yoh suddenly need ‘closure’.
This just sounds like an example of the scarcity principle. You have no access to him so suddenly he’s a lot more interesting. He’s moved on, you should move on too (and clearly
you had until you realised he wasn’t interested in maintaining any relationship with you.)

ThatCosyDreamer · 15/01/2026 07:58

I've tidied up my friends list a few times and deleted people I knew in real life/used to speak to regularly. You're talking about someone you've never actually met. I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. The fact he's deleted you already gives you closure.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 15/01/2026 07:44

He’s deleted you, there’s your closure.

Don’t be a stalker.

Catza · 15/01/2026 07:40

Whyohwhy88 · 15/01/2026 01:39

No but we talked daily at points

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So what does this closure look like for you? What would you message to say? How do you expect him to respond?
You've never met. You haven't talked for two years. You didn't want to talk (as we all know, nobody is too busy to type a 10 seconds message), neither did he. He now did the normal January FB cull of people he doesn't talk to anymore. What would you like to happen next?

Katflapkit · 15/01/2026 03:17

Don't read too much into it. He was probably just having a digital tidy up. I don't see the point in having a long list of people who never respond or react

You haven't been in contact for nearly 3 years. You don't need closure, you're just curious and it's too late now.

tuvamoodyson · 15/01/2026 03:07

You’ve got ‘closure’ he’s deleted you from FB…what more do you he’d to know??

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Whyohwhy88 · 15/01/2026 01:39

mondaytosunday · 15/01/2026 01:25

So two almost three years ago? Just let it go. You don’t need ‘closure’ - you weren’t in a relationship.

No but we talked daily at points

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mondaytosunday · 15/01/2026 01:25

So two almost three years ago? Just let it go. You don’t need ‘closure’ - you weren’t in a relationship.

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Whyohwhy88 · 15/01/2026 01:21

JuliesName · 15/01/2026 00:47

...why? He was 14, what could you want to talk about now?

Only last spine 20203 he was in his 20’s

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JuliesName · 15/01/2026 00:47

...why? He was 14, what could you want to talk about now?

Jambags · 15/01/2026 00:44

I wouldn't reopen whatever that was to be honest. Id just let that be a thing that was over - particularly if they have removed you from their socials

tobesuretobesureagain · 15/01/2026 00:36

When you say closure what do you mean?

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