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AIBU to offer 15-20k under asking price

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HappyDreamer · 14/01/2026 22:51

We are first time buyers with no chain looking for a 3 bed house.

We viewed one today asking price is £200,000. It has a new roof and decent windows. However the kitchen needs re-doing, as does the bathroom at some point. All rooms need updating by stripping, plastering and decorating as has been in the family since the 60s.

The house has a parking space for one car and is semi detached.

I have looked at other houses in the area that have sold recently and a few that are more modern with a decent kitchen and bathroom are selling for max 220/225.

Son is selling as dad has sadly passed and son is moving away next month and wants to sell asap.

is it unreasonable to offer 15-20k less at 185/187? The kitchen will cost around 10k plus the bathroom and other things that need doing.

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toomuchfaff · 16/01/2026 21:44

QuietPiggy · 16/01/2026 13:33

😂To be fair, I think I'd be put off by bodies in the garden.

Sellers own garden... hopefully the parents house is body free ;-)

Tryagain26 · 16/01/2026 14:10

Offer what you like they can only accept or turn it down. But if houses that are already modernised go for 20 to 25k more it sounds as though the house is already reasonably priced.

District66 · 16/01/2026 14:08

Blacksheepatnewyear · 16/01/2026 12:54

I just think low offers are extremely cheeky. In Scotland the survey is done beforehand & the surveyor sets the market value in its current condition. Maybe it's the done thing elsewhere though.

It’s a great pity that that’s not how things are done here. I do think sellers packs with surveys should be introduced to save people who can probably afford it the least first time buyers wasting money.

QuietPiggy · 16/01/2026 13:33

toomuchfaff · 15/01/2026 10:27

Obligation to a stranger... OP doesn't know them and has no obligations.

The seller could be a mass murdering serial killer with bodies in their garden, the dead parent could have been a pedophile or narcissist who abused their kids and was NC for years and the seller wants it gone.

Stop trying to pour guilt onto OP. They are a stranger to the seller. There is no guilt or Obligation.

😂To be fair, I think I'd be put off by bodies in the garden.

nam3c4ang3 · 16/01/2026 13:32

I mean - offer and see - they either accept or dont. FWIW - out house sold for alot less that what it was worth - but we needed it gone asap as was on the hook for somewhere else so....

QuietPiggy · 16/01/2026 13:28

Lurkingandlearning · 15/01/2026 05:57

You’ve got your discount as the price is that much lower than similar houses that have what you want. Buy one of those rather than squeezing more money out of someone who is dealing with the loss of their father.

Also, you don’t need to replacer walls just to decorate. It’s only necessary if the plaster is blown

The vendor's circumstances don't come into it. It's not the OP's fault that the vendor has suffered a bereavement which, whilst distressing, will happen to most of us at some point.

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 16/01/2026 12:55

Sounds like it has already been priced lower to account for work that needs to be done, so YABU

Blacksheepatnewyear · 16/01/2026 12:54

I just think low offers are extremely cheeky. In Scotland the survey is done beforehand & the surveyor sets the market value in its current condition. Maybe it's the done thing elsewhere though.

toomuchfaff · 15/01/2026 16:16

Lurkingandlearning · 15/01/2026 11:22

Or she could just buy a house she can afford.

If they accept the offer, then OP will be buying a house they can afford... thats what an offer is. Its not a demand, its an offer, the seller isnt obliged to accept.

Blondeshavemorefun · 15/01/2026 15:49

So did you offer lower @HappyDreamer

Binus · 15/01/2026 14:45

TommyAtkins · 15/01/2026 12:54

I’m a bit surprised by the number of people on here saying you shouldn’t make a cheeky offer.

Negotiation is a standard part of house buying and selling houses. The emotional needs to be take out of it.

Good luck with your house hunting

Speaking as a homeowner with some unearned equity myself, I think some people are getting a bit twitchy at the idea of sellers not being able to realise the prices they want.

Cosyblankets · 15/01/2026 14:34

Lurkingandlearning · 15/01/2026 11:22

Or she could just buy a house she can afford.

House buying and selling is all about negotiation. If you don't look a little over your budget you could be missing out because with negotiation they can come down to your budget.

newlycorporategirl · 15/01/2026 13:20

The overinflated prices from COVID and the stamp duty holiday remain in many areas, then people wonder why their houses aren't selling.

It's a business transaction and you have a read the market in your local area.

There is nothing wrong with offering below the asking price. It is not a personal relationship and no reason to worry about causing offence.

For context, we offered 20k under and it was accepted. Estate agents and many sellers are unscrupulously overpricing and profit gouging I'm certain cases.

ReignOfError · 15/01/2026 13:14

My current house - a definite project - was on the market for £215k in a small street where the average selling price was £240k, and a recent ceiling price was £255k. I offered £185k, fully prepared to walk away if it wasn’t accepted (I was buying to fix and sell so no emotional investment, but I didn’t tell the agent that, obviously). It was. Noting ventured, nothing gained.

TommyAtkins · 15/01/2026 12:54

I’m a bit surprised by the number of people on here saying you shouldn’t make a cheeky offer.

Negotiation is a standard part of house buying and selling houses. The emotional needs to be take out of it.

Good luck with your house hunting

bridgetreilly · 15/01/2026 12:44

You can offer that, but I wouldn’t expect it to be accepted. Be willing to negotiate.

Also, plenty of people prefer a house that needs some doing up, because they want to have it done to their own style anyway. I would feel bad taking out a brand new kitchen, but I would hate to live with someone else’s grey and black misery-fest. So I wouldn’t expect a huge discount because it’s a bit shabby.

HappyDreamer · 15/01/2026 12:40

Lurkingandlearning · 15/01/2026 11:22

Or she could just buy a house she can afford.

Honestly could not care less about your opinion

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Lurkingandlearning · 15/01/2026 11:22

toomuchfaff · 15/01/2026 10:27

Obligation to a stranger... OP doesn't know them and has no obligations.

The seller could be a mass murdering serial killer with bodies in their garden, the dead parent could have been a pedophile or narcissist who abused their kids and was NC for years and the seller wants it gone.

Stop trying to pour guilt onto OP. They are a stranger to the seller. There is no guilt or Obligation.

Or she could just buy a house she can afford.

SilverSurreal · 15/01/2026 10:41

MissSookieStackhouse · 15/01/2026 00:10

£200k for a house that needs £20k of work would be worth the same as the other houses that are already done up, so why would the seller accept such a low offer as you’re proposing? Sounds fairly priced to reflect the work needed. You can offer whatever you like, but if you go in too low you’ll look like a piss taker rather than a serious buyer.

Because £20k is the physical cost - not the cost of the inconvenience, and time and effort

SilverSurreal · 15/01/2026 10:39

Why don't you just offer what you want to pay. They will either accept / reject or counter.

You don't need permission from strangers on mn.

LlynTegid · 15/01/2026 10:28

Just be prepared for a no as an answer. I don't like the England and Wales house selling process, but make use of it as it exists.

toomuchfaff · 15/01/2026 10:27

Lurkingandlearning · 15/01/2026 05:57

You’ve got your discount as the price is that much lower than similar houses that have what you want. Buy one of those rather than squeezing more money out of someone who is dealing with the loss of their father.

Also, you don’t need to replacer walls just to decorate. It’s only necessary if the plaster is blown

Obligation to a stranger... OP doesn't know them and has no obligations.

The seller could be a mass murdering serial killer with bodies in their garden, the dead parent could have been a pedophile or narcissist who abused their kids and was NC for years and the seller wants it gone.

Stop trying to pour guilt onto OP. They are a stranger to the seller. There is no guilt or Obligation.

GasPanic · 15/01/2026 10:20

It really depends on what price the house was marketed at as to whether they are likely to accept or not.

Also how long it has been on the market.

If it was priced to sell as a fixer upper and below properties done up in a similar state then it is unlikely to be reduced. Also, if it has only been on the market 5 minutes then someone is unlikely to want to take the first offer that comes along if it is a low ball.

OTOH if it is priced above where the market is for the local area and been on for a month then maybe a better chance they will accept.

I would always offer what I think it is worth to me, and would be prepared to go a little higher to clinch the deal.

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 15/01/2026 09:44

They can only say no. Everyone expects to drop a little on asking price unless it’s on at “offers over”. I made a cheeky offer of £300k on a house which was on at £325k thinking they would ask to meet in the middle. They said yes! I was a bit wary about finding ‘the catch’ when the searches and survey etc were done. But it all looks good. Again it was a probate sale and had previously fallen through so they probably just wanted it gone. If I’d had the funds I’d have definitely paid £350k for this place so I think I got a bargain.

Janey3090 · 15/01/2026 09:29

YANBU to offer what you think it's worth, but at the same time they won't be unreasonable to decline if they want/think it's worth more. Good luck though OP! x