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itwasshelter · 2026-01-14T21:17:39+00:00

Absolute insanity really. I think it’s worked out, hard to say. I do wonder how much we really have in common?

Firefly1987 · 14/01/2026 21:49

How does he feel about it all?

AbovetheVaultedSky · 14/01/2026 21:46

itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:45

No, it was very much now or never in terms of my age. I knew I’d either have a baby or I wouldn’t be a mum. I went into it knowing there was a chance I’d be doing it alone; obviously hoping I wouldn’t but acknowledging it as a possibility. It was hard in some ways as we had to navigate the newborn days whilst also being semi strangers to one another. But we’ve grown together and that has helped.

The main thing is (and this is what I mean about things we have in common) is that the main thing we have in common is obviously our children. So I do sometimes wonder what we’ll talk about when they are older and have left home!

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Well, come back to us in 20 years, I suppose?

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:45

Brightlittlecanary · 14/01/2026 21:41

Ok so with him and planned a baby very quickly and were pregant by six months as you had a good feeling about him?

No, it was very much now or never in terms of my age. I knew I’d either have a baby or I wouldn’t be a mum. I went into it knowing there was a chance I’d be doing it alone; obviously hoping I wouldn’t but acknowledging it as a possibility. It was hard in some ways as we had to navigate the newborn days whilst also being semi strangers to one another. But we’ve grown together and that has helped.

The main thing is (and this is what I mean about things we have in common) is that the main thing we have in common is obviously our children. So I do sometimes wonder what we’ll talk about when they are older and have left home!

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Newname71 · 14/01/2026 21:45

DH and I got married 10 weeks after meeting. I was pregnant 5 months after that. We celebrated our 27th anniversary 2 months ago

SeanutBrittleOnToastedCoral · 14/01/2026 21:42

If you don’t have much in common, as per your OP, then it sounds like you settled. That’s the part that sounds less than ideal to me.

Brightlittlecanary · 14/01/2026 21:41

Ok so with him and planned a baby very quickly and were pregant by six months as you had a good feeling about him?

NewLifter · 14/01/2026 21:39

Fends · 14/01/2026 21:32

It’s not March yet. How the fuck did you meet him in October, already marry him and get pregnant in March?!

Because miraculously there have been other March's, before this year

Loobyloolovesandypandy · 14/01/2026 21:38

InterestedDad37 · 14/01/2026 21:35

It's easy - 6 months into a four month marriage, they met in Octember, with the baby being born before she got pregnant 👍🙂

😂

DameOfThrones · 14/01/2026 21:38

Anyway OP

It's far too soon to say whether or not it's worked out when you've not made it to your 4th anniversary yet.

But I wish you both the best of luck and a long and happy marriage

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:37

Legomania · 14/01/2026 21:34

Logic would presumably suggest that she's not talking about this autumn just gone...

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You’d think …

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Scarydinosaurs · 14/01/2026 21:37

I had a similar situation to you. Pregnant within six months. Got married. Went on to have two more children. Ten years in and I wouldn’t say everything is perfect but I’m very happy with my choices.

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:36

Goditsmemargaret · 14/01/2026 21:34

So you got pregnant at six months. I mean yes it's risky. Did you plan the pregnancy? I got pregnant intentionally after eight months. I also look back and wonder were gremlins at the controls. And yes i think it has also worked out.

It was planned but not without a certain amount of devil may care. I’m normally quite a cautious person. I did have a good feeling about now-DH and I think I’ve been proved correct (although he drives me bananas!)

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InterestedDad37 · 14/01/2026 21:35

It's easy - 6 months into a four month marriage, they met in Octember, with the baby being born before she got pregnant 👍🙂

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:35

Slothey · 14/01/2026 21:34

It’s becasue people think that you got met, got married, and gave birth all in the same 6 months.

I think you mean that you met and got pregnant in 6 months, and later gave birth (obvious) and got married.

FWIW, my parents got married within 3 months of meeting mostly for immigration reasons, and are still together 45 years later. Some things just work!

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That’s a nice story

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:35

DameOfThrones · 14/01/2026 21:34

Ahh ok gotcha.

Probably because you asked: "Am I being unreasonable to have had a baby after being with DH for less than six months".

That's what made it confusing.

Like it was actually born after you were together for less than 6 months.

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No but I’ve got a feeling the thread will continue with cancel the DH …

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Slothey · 14/01/2026 21:34

itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:31

I met DH in October / November and got pregnant in march. I’m not sure what there is to ‘get.’

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It’s becasue people think that you got met, got married, and gave birth all in the same 6 months.

I think you mean that you met and got pregnant in 6 months, and later gave birth (obvious) and got married.

FWIW, my parents got married within 3 months of meeting mostly for immigration reasons, and are still together 45 years later. Some things just work!

Goditsmemargaret · 14/01/2026 21:34

So you got pregnant at six months. I mean yes it's risky. Did you plan the pregnancy? I got pregnant intentionally after eight months. I also look back and wonder were gremlins at the controls. And yes i think it has also worked out.

TheAutumnCrow · 14/01/2026 21:34

itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:31

I met DH in October / November and got pregnant in march. I’m not sure what there is to ‘get.’

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So you didn’t in fact have a baby after being with your DH for less than 6 months?

Legomania · 14/01/2026 21:34

Fends · 14/01/2026 21:32

It’s not March yet. How the fuck did you meet him in October, already marry him and get pregnant in March?!

Logic would presumably suggest that she's not talking about this autumn just gone...

DameOfThrones · 14/01/2026 21:34

itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:31

I met DH in October / November and got pregnant in march. I’m not sure what there is to ‘get.’

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Ahh ok gotcha.

Probably because you asked: "Am I being unreasonable to have had a baby after being with DH for less than six months".

That's what made it confusing.

Like it was actually born after you were together for less than 6 months.

Jk987 · 14/01/2026 21:34

It takes 9 months to grow a baby but you’ve only been together 6!

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:34

Legomania · 14/01/2026 21:32

As pp, she got married to him later. The title should read 'now-DH'
Assume they're now some years down the line and op is wondering whether they rushed into it

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Yes, just thinking out loud really: I was half-watching a film and someone said something about rushing into marriage and children being a bad idea. Normally I’d agree to be fair but it does seem to have worked although was definitely a gamble.

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itwasshelter · 14/01/2026 21:33

Scarydinosaurs · 14/01/2026 21:30

So what is the timeline?

met, six months later pregnant, had the baby, then got married?

How long have you been together now?

It’s our fourth wedding anniversary this spring. Dd was 15 months. So I guess we’ve been together for around six and a half years. It’s early days in a lot of ways but I do feel I’ve been with him a lifetime! It could easily have gone very wrong though.

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Fends · 14/01/2026 21:32

It’s not March yet. How the fuck did you meet him in October, already marry him and get pregnant in March?!

Legomania · 14/01/2026 21:32

DameOfThrones · 14/01/2026 21:30

I still don't get it unless the baby is very premature?

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As pp, she got married to him later. The title should read 'now-DH'
Assume they're now some years down the line and op is wondering whether they rushed into it