To have had a baby after being with DH for less than six months?

I was pregnant with my first baby after being with ex for 3 weeks! Relationship didn’t last forever but we were together for 12 years which isn’t bad.

My dh moved in with me in the February. 1st child born 9 months later.

FIL too to be fair; dd made him wear an Elsa tiara subsequently forgot about and went to his dentist appointment wearing!

Nah lol

How old were you when you got pregnant?

I used to be against rushing into marriage and kids but all of that went out of the window after 35 😂

I’m 36, been with DP for a year, and would be 100% fine with getting pregnant now (although we won’t because I’m on the coil and we have some life plans first). The plan is to start TTC in 12-18 months.

Younger me would have thought anything less than 5 years together before having a baby was madness, older me is much more relaxed.

if you are both decent humans and no one is abusive , yes, you can make it work out, with or without much romance and a lot of sex

Hi op it doesn’t really matter some people can wait 10 or 15 years and it not work out your doing ok so I wouldn’t worry too much about it no one’s life is guaranteed and if it did fail you’ve got a beautiful baby out of it. My neighbour got pregnant after a month one guy moved out in October the new guy moved in November and she had 2 other kids to 2 different dads so your not that bad.

I could have been you OP. Similar concern around age, I was 35 when I met now DH and knew I wanted children - was already looking into going it alone and if anything meeting him put those plans on hold somewhat.

Bit longer than 6 months but it was just under a year when we moved in together and started ttc in earnest (and if I’m honest we had played it a bit fast and loose with contraception before that too).

It didn’t work out that way for us - took 4 years to get pregnant, and in a way I’m glad because we did have that time together first, and navigating all the fertility stress and disappointments together definitely helped me see the kind of man DH is and that my initial ‘good feeling’ about him was right. But if we’d have got pregnant back when we started trying I’d have been delighted whilst also shitting myself what did I think I was playing at. I hope it would still have worked out and we’d be where we are now - we’ve been married 6 years, DD is 5.5 and we’re happy. Definitely worked out.

Well, I was pregnant within a month of meeting Dh… odd looking back but I didn’t even feel it was a gamble. It was (genuinely) accidental but at the same time we were both ok with the idea. We were married a year later and stayed married until his death.

‘Le mariage est une loterie’

Your Op was vague.

DP and I had our child 11 months into our relationship. I'd gotten her pregnant 2 months in, but we didn't know. In fact we didn't find out until DP went into labour.

We were still living apart when DD was born, we didn't move in together until DD was three months old. And it was hard, we'd never lived together as a couple, and now we had to live together as a family, as parents.

DD is now 18, and heading off to university this September, at which point it will just be me and DP for the first time in our relationship, for anything longer than a long weekend.

And it's slightly scary. I don't know if we'll still be together 5 years from now, I don't really know how we work as just the two of us.

I do know however that I love her, and I love our life over the past 18 years. And that even if for whatever reason we don't work out without DD being the glue that holds us together, then the last 18 years still won't have been a waste, or the wrong thing to do.

@itwasshelter , you may well have had a kid too quick, or got married to quick. There's no way to know, so there's no point worrying about it until / if you find out that's the case.

I got pregnant 4 months after meeting DH. It was a learning curve, but it's been fine overall. DD will be 21 this year.

I think having a baby with someone you had only been dating for a few months was risky but glad it seems to be working out. And you've gone on to get married and have another child?

To be fair OP I think most parents feel this at some stage. Because you moved quickly it's easier for you to pin it on that, but actually you do just lose each other for a bit. It is normal and you have to put effort into finding your way back to each other. Plus things in common is a bit overrated. Opposites attract for a reason.

This thread hurts my head and OPs replies are not helping.
Why the confusing title and why are you asking how much you have in common, when you’ve actually been together for years? Surely you would know by now?

I think the timescale (any timescale) is fine if it works for you. But you are writing on Mumsnet about it which suggests you feel it was too soon. How old is your little one now? Perhaps you could start trying to get more time together again to date.

When you say you were ‘with DH for less than 6 months’ that implies you met him less than 6 months previously.
Personally I would want to be with someone for longer than that before I had a baby. Once you have a baby with someone you are tied to that person forever. A marriage can be ended and you can walk away.

She’s got to still be pregnant, I think she means child was conceived after they we’re together 6 months. No it’s not unreasonable you have married him it’s a bit quick but as long as your happy that’s all that matters.