With DH Inflexible 6pm gym schedule?

Oh gosh just read more, its EVERY NIGHT?!
sit him down and tell him he needs to find a new time. The hours of 5 til 7pm are madness with young children it doesn't get better when they are a bit older, throw in school, clubs, play dates etc too....he has 100% done this on purpose bet his mates have done too and they are all at the gym thinking how great they all are 🙄

Seems like a bit of a coincidence doesn't it...

Did he 'have' to go gym at 6pm before the baby was born? Or another bizarre coincidence when it only started being 'essential' when he knew he had to do plenty of parenting at that specific time?

Of course YANBU. He is. His friends don't come first and if they do, he can fuck off and live with them.

Also eat when YOU want. He can't demand going to gym AND you waiting until he gets home to eat. Absolutely fucking not. He should be at home making the dinner while you deal with the baby or vice versa.

He can insist all he wants. Eat when you want and he can slot into your schedule for a change!

Absolutely selfishness. Picking his friends over his wife and baby.
How about you need to go somewhere at 6pm another night with your mates.
See how he likes that 😂

Have your gym bag ready, car keys in hand, and as soon as he comes in the door from work go. Leave a note about dinner, so it's see you later bud when I've had my time at the gym now.

Perhaps he could batch cook at the weekends?

Whether anyone is laughing or not I totally agree this should be nipped in the bud

I mean for a lot of people gym is both mental and physical health. I struggle working out alone and don’t get the best out of it compared to when I and with a buddy or in class. So I have specific classes and times I attend.

if it’s the same time then can dinner not be had later or on his days he does it earlier so you can just warm yours up when your ready.

TU of him to carry on his life as if he didn’t have a baby.

I don’t understand why you’re cooking his meals. If he leaves you in the lurch with the baby every night: sort the baby, have your supper and relax.

He can make his own meal when he gets back from the gym. If he won’t prep it he can make it fresh - that’s entirely up to him.

TU of him to carry on his life as if he didn’t have a baby.

I don’t understand why you’re cooking his meals. If he leaves you in the lurch with the baby every night: sort the baby, have your supper and relax.

He can make his own meal when he gets back from the gym. If he won’t prep it he can make it fresh - that’s entirely up to him.

He is unreasonable, but OTOH, I had 3 dc and DH worked till at least 8pm monday to friday. We ate batch cooked meals for about 10 years. No way was I cooking in the evenings.

Only got as far as “because that’s when his friends go” …..your husband is a selfish arsehole.

you could him to cook dinner or have something in the freezer

as an ex single mum - I managed to get in from work , and have our tea ready by 6!

id find the regular times helpful

I can imagine him and his friends all
laughing that their wives are home doing all the grunt work whilst they all play together. This is completely planned OP and you need to nip it in the bud now or accept this is your life.

What time do you get in from work? What time does he? Do you both work full time? I do think going to the gym for an hour and a half every early evening is way too much.

He goes to the gym every day, at 6pm? Or just on the days he goes to the gym, it's 6pm? How many days a week is 'most evenings'?

If it's every day at 6pm - fuck that. I understand he wants to see (and exercise with) his mates. 2 or 3 times a week is fine. Every day? Nope. If that's the scenario, I would be angry, and it would become something we'd need to change about our marriage.

If it's 2 or 3 times a week, I'd explore ways of you being able to eat without him on those days (he puts something in the slow cooker before work, eg), and I'd also be making sure to go out at 6pm a couple of nights a week to a class of his own so you don't end up just dealing with witching hour alone anyway while he magically busies himself with something else.

Hard to tell, I don't think I'd have a problem with the 6pm thing, but I would have a problem with having to wait for dinner because of his "inflexible" schedule.

As baby grows into a child they won't be able to eat at 7:30/8:00pm so it needs sorting out sooner rather than later anyway.

Does he have time to make dinner before he goes? What time does he get in from work?

Why are you making his dinner?!
Fuck that for a game of soldiers.
Crack on and eat your own, and enjoy the time with your baby.

I think YABU a bit just because I go gym at a set time and it works really well for me.

But he is BU to expect you to not eat until he gets back.

His gym time is making your life difficult so he needs to do things to make sure it has less impact on your life.

I would be cooking dinner myself and getting him to wash up afterwards.

As soon as he comes home you can hand the baby over and go to the gym yourself whilst he does bath and bedtime.

This wasn't by accident.
He is playing you for a fool.
Stop eating with him.
Eat earlier and suit yourself with food.
I doubt your marriage will survive such a selfish person, so start organising yourself.
Good husbands and fathers don't behave like this.
Start telling family and friends the truth so you can get support.
Im so sorry.

Wtf. Seriously???

Say you want to go at 6.00pm?

OP cook and make yourself dinner and stop making to for him. He will soon learn.

Once or twice a week I could cope with. Mdot evenings he's having a laugh!

My dp goes to the gym before work, he starts at 7 so he's leaving very early for the gym! I go when my children are at their own sports, which sometimes means a shorted workout so I can get back t collect them. That's what you do when you have a family, you fit it around your family.