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Just been abused on the school run.. parking!

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Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 17:01

My three children attend two separate schools on the same road. I always make sure I park somewhere that isn’t blocking someone’s drive etc. DH parked in the usual spot today and I waited in the car today (I have a disability and get flare ups in the colder weather). She pulled up to the window effing and blinding then she got out the car and started recording me swearing in front of all the school kids. DH returned back and she started to recording DH and the kids. It was her dad’s property and she had accused us of blocking him in. We left more than enough space for him to get out I even offered to move the car.

I have attached a pic (the silver car wasn’t in front so if her dad needed to get out he had more than enough space. We parked on the white mark and there are other parents parked behind us.

I am trying to move my kids to a nearer school so I can walk and finally put the parking drama to bed. However currently going through the appeals process as the local school has stated that they have no space.

Were we unreasonable? I’m at the stage where I don’t even want to take them to school now because of lack of parking and the dirty stares and arguments being caused by this. I can appreciate it’s frustrating living near a school!

Just been abused on the school run.. parking!
OP posts:
SarahAndQuack · 14/01/2026 18:19

Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 18:17

I wasn’t parked over the dropped kerb I said if anything we might have just been the teeniest bit over if I reversed 2cm she still wouldn’t have been happy. There is more than enough space for her dad to get out I wasn’t blocking anything.

So ... if you weren't over the dropped kerb, how come you said you were parked on the white mark, which is over the dropped kerb?

Isekaied · 14/01/2026 18:17

YABU

Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 18:17

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 14/01/2026 18:13

Why have you said it like you are doing her a favour and won’t park there again?

You don’t park over dropped kerbs. It doesn’t matter how much space you leave, or that you are doing the school run.

Park further and walk.

I wasn’t parked over the dropped kerb I said if anything we might have just been the teeniest bit over if I reversed 2cm she still wouldn’t have been happy. There is more than enough space for her dad to get out I wasn’t blocking anything.

OP posts:
Laura95167 · 14/01/2026 18:17

Road tax doesnt give people rights to the road. You werent on the dropped curb so fine. Also swearing and aggression is never really OK she was U

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 14/01/2026 18:13

Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 17:53

No not me I’ve always parked there or behind if someone else is parked there I haven’t met her before. There are always parking dramas here but I do sit and witness people park in peoples parking spaces or blocking there access so I get it. If anything my car was the teeniest bit over but I did say I wouldn’t park there again anyway. So now to find another spot.

Why have you said it like you are doing her a favour and won’t park there again?

You don’t park over dropped kerbs. It doesn’t matter how much space you leave, or that you are doing the school run.

Park further and walk.

SarahAndQuack · 14/01/2026 18:11

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 14/01/2026 18:02

I read that as she parked on the white mark that looked to have been added on the right of the driveway. It’s a little confusing.

Yes, it's the white mark, over the dropped kerb on the right-hand side. She's drawn on a google maps picture, hasn't she?

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 14/01/2026 18:08

Sorry op, as soon as you mentioned "parking" and "school" I have deduced that you are unreasonable and you deserved a talking to.

Lucelulu · 14/01/2026 18:04

Was your engine running OP? That was what used to really wind me up about school parking outside my kids primary school and near our house, I’d have got (unreasonably maybe) cross if so!

jamandcustard · 14/01/2026 18:04

Topseyt123 · 14/01/2026 17:57

I think you need to re-read the OP's post.

Her car is NOT the silver car in the picture, which I would agree is encroaching onto the dropped kerb area. Her car is NOT in the picture. It was parked back from the white marked area, so not encroaching at all and probably fine.

I assume she went back after the event to take the picture in case needed.

No. OP parked on the white mark.

The photo is an old one from Google.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 14/01/2026 18:02

SarahAndQuack · 14/01/2026 18:00

No, she says she parked on the white mark. Go read it again.

I read that as she parked on the white mark that looked to have been added on the right of the driveway. It’s a little confusing.

OneShyQuail · 14/01/2026 18:01

Just park a bit further away and walk? Next street or something, nowhere near a driveway.
I would HATE to live on a road by a school. People are so inconsiderate

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 14/01/2026 18:00

I would guess the woman is on her last nerve and you got the fall out from that.

Literally why I am absurdly careful when I park anywhere not to accidentally piss anyone off, as I think lots of people are so stressed out at the moment. Just park further away in the future.

SarahAndQuack · 14/01/2026 18:00

Topseyt123 · 14/01/2026 17:57

I think you need to re-read the OP's post.

Her car is NOT the silver car in the picture, which I would agree is encroaching onto the dropped kerb area. Her car is NOT in the picture. It was parked back from the white marked area, so not encroaching at all and probably fine.

I assume she went back after the event to take the picture in case needed.

No, she says she parked on the white mark. Go read it again.

Changename12 · 14/01/2026 17:59

Even if you think a car can get out, you are not allowed to park any bit of your car over a dropped kerb, including the slopping edges of the blocked kerb.

fashionqueen0123 · 14/01/2026 17:58

Looks like you’re infront of a garden gate not a driveway. That looks like an electrical substation.

Topseyt123 · 14/01/2026 17:57

SugarCoatSandwich · 14/01/2026 17:25

You are blocking the driveway.

How would someone get out if someone else had parked exactly the same as you?

How could they safely get in and out Without risking kocking over pedestrians.

Flip the question for a moment... if someone wanted to park on that driveway and pretended your car wasn't there, could they park without hitting you?

What's on the other side? Are they having to navigate off the drive, turn into oncoming traffic or near a corner?

Terrible parking on you part. Shameful.

Not excusing the abuse but take responsibility for being a responsible driver. Its unsafe.

I think you need to re-read the OP's post.

Her car is NOT the silver car in the picture, which I would agree is encroaching onto the dropped kerb area. Her car is NOT in the picture. It was parked back from the white marked area, so not encroaching at all and probably fine.

I assume she went back after the event to take the picture in case needed.

SarahAndQuack · 14/01/2026 17:55

Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 17:53

No not me I’ve always parked there or behind if someone else is parked there I haven’t met her before. There are always parking dramas here but I do sit and witness people park in peoples parking spaces or blocking there access so I get it. If anything my car was the teeniest bit over but I did say I wouldn’t park there again anyway. So now to find another spot.

I agree with the poster upthread then - if you're both there, why not drive around while he picks up the children?

jamandcustard · 14/01/2026 17:54

Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 17:53

No not me I’ve always parked there or behind if someone else is parked there I haven’t met her before. There are always parking dramas here but I do sit and witness people park in peoples parking spaces or blocking there access so I get it. If anything my car was the teeniest bit over but I did say I wouldn’t park there again anyway. So now to find another spot.

So you were blocking her drive.

No wonder she got pissed off.

EchoesOfOurDreams · 14/01/2026 17:53

Don't think you were blocking the drive but you were on the dropped kerb. No excuse for her behaviour but you were in the wrong with your parking.

Notthedreadedschoolrunagain · 14/01/2026 17:53

Ferrissia · 14/01/2026 17:47

"...finally put the parking drama to bed."

Does this mean this is not the first time your parking has resulted in drama OP?

No not me I’ve always parked there or behind if someone else is parked there I haven’t met her before. There are always parking dramas here but I do sit and witness people park in peoples parking spaces or blocking there access so I get it. If anything my car was the teeniest bit over but I did say I wouldn’t park there again anyway. So now to find another spot.

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jamandcustard · 14/01/2026 17:53

Louielove · 14/01/2026 17:44

It’s hardly an actively used drive

white lines are not enforceable

plenty of room to get out

can’t understand how anyone can conclude your blocking drive!

How much can one person get wrong from one post? 😳

The photo is an old one from Google.
The only white line/mark is the one OP drew on herself to show where she parked.
There absolutely isn't plenty of room to get out as OP was parked over a dropped kerb.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 14/01/2026 17:51

SugarCoatSandwich · 14/01/2026 17:25

You are blocking the driveway.

How would someone get out if someone else had parked exactly the same as you?

How could they safely get in and out Without risking kocking over pedestrians.

Flip the question for a moment... if someone wanted to park on that driveway and pretended your car wasn't there, could they park without hitting you?

What's on the other side? Are they having to navigate off the drive, turn into oncoming traffic or near a corner?

Terrible parking on you part. Shameful.

Not excusing the abuse but take responsibility for being a responsible driver. Its unsafe.

Shes not the silver car!

HurdyGurdy19 · 14/01/2026 17:49

I was told this by a highways officer that I used to work with. (I don't know if he was winding me up, of course)

A householders driveway "ends" at the outer curve of the edge stone. I'll attach a picture, hopefully showing what I mean. If your car's front/back is over this line, then you are not blocking a driveway, but you are classed as obstructing it.

Quite what anyone could do about it, I don't know. But as someone who has to put up with diabolical parental parking on a daily basis, I can understand the frustration of the person who approached you.

I don't condone her behaviour. But I can understand it.

Just been abused on the school run.. parking!
lovemyboyz247 · 14/01/2026 17:49

I understand people don’t like getting their driveways blocked by parents, but there really is no excuse for abuse.

my mum used to live opposite a primary school and parents used to park in her driveway (actually fully in her driveway) and if she used to go out to tell them they shouldn’t be doing that, they used to say it’s only five minutes. She never once shouted at them and certainly never abused them.

I know school pick ups and drop offs can get stressful but all you can do is try and avoid parking near that house or close to driveways near the school as some residents take photos so they can send evidence to the school

Ferrissia · 14/01/2026 17:47

"...finally put the parking drama to bed."

Does this mean this is not the first time your parking has resulted in drama OP?