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Do people really not know what to eat?

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WilderHawthorn · 14/01/2026 15:16

Watching ‘what not to eat’, and the family they’ve found are just hopeless. Four small children all shovelled full of UPF junk, parents both obese, freely admit to eating crap constantly.

How adults choose to feed themselves is their choice, but to feed four small kids that much junk? It’s bordering on abuse. An apple/banana costs the same as a packet of crisps, jacket potato is one of the cheapest meals you can make, basic porridge oats and milk for breakfast, it’s not difficult to eat whole foods, so why rely on packaged things?

Freely admit I judge those who feed their children this way and truly despair over childhood obesity stats. I work full time, have 4 DC, DH works full time and I volunteer. I’m very time poor and partially disabled, I still feed my kids well and it doesn’t cost me a fortune. Taught myself to cook. There’s no excuse!

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MO0N · 17/01/2026 17:22

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 14:25

Except you’ve forgotten the point of that ‘racket’ which is that the majority of WLI users generally would have remained obese without them. WLI mean they can pay and not be obese… the decision isn’t between being slim through willpower and being slim through WLI. The decision is between being slim and taking WLI or being obese.

The underlying problem driving the rise in obesity is the highly addictive edible food like substances.

RingoJuice · 17/01/2026 17:01

ContinouslyLearning · 17/01/2026 11:58

Unfortunately, a January 2026 Oxford University study published in the British Medical Journal shows that reliance on weight loss injections is not sustainable. The study from 9000 people showed that stopping weight‑loss injections (e.g., Wegovy, Mounjaro) means regain of about 0.8 kg/month—four times faster than those stopping diet/exercise (0.3 kg/month. People in the study often returned to their baseline within 18 months and blood pressure and cholesterol also reverted. This indicates that at a population level without either changing the environment or funding the required support e.g. dieticians, nutritionists, physical support most people unlikely to realise meaningful change. Policy makers just need to listen to the experts and do whats beneficial to the health and wellbeing of the nation. Are we going to keep large swathes of the population permanently on weight loss medication?

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Yes, I think we are going to keep a significant portion of the population on these drugs forever.

Just has to be done.

Kirbert2 · 17/01/2026 16:15

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 15:50

Hope ypu like them. My mum used to make them for when we came home from school so it may be nostalgia but my kids scoff them!

Thanks.

My son doesn't eat much of anything but especially if it involves fruit and veggies, he has a very limited diet due to medical reasons so it's always tricky.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 17/01/2026 16:06

I haven’t watched the programme.

But as a social worker I can tell you that there are many parents who have no idea about food - how to plan, budget, cook etc.

Some of it is generational - brought up on crap, never taught to cook, so they do the same.

what is obvious and easy to many is a complete mystery to others.

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 15:50

Kirbert2 · 17/01/2026 15:15

I'll give those a go, thanks! My son wouldn't eat them but maybe I'll like them.

Hope ypu like them. My mum used to make them for when we came home from school so it may be nostalgia but my kids scoff them!

BatsInHibernation · 17/01/2026 15:40

soupyspoon · 14/01/2026 15:41

I dont think they're in the minority.

I think what no one seems to acknowledge or voice very much is that people like this sort of food. My partner enjoys a bland beige diet. He much prefers something out of a packet. He wont eat fresh cooked, colourful, flavourful food that I cook (and Im an excellent cook), wont eat veg very much unless they're mushy peas and even then most of them get chucked from the plate to the bin, often veg is on his plate as some sort of decoration. He loves things in tins, wont eat my lovely fresh soups for example, wants some rubbish in a tin. Wouldnt eat a fresh pasta or ragu sauce/curry sauce, would want it out of a jar (dolmio or Grossmans)

Theres a processed taste that people like I think. I cant stand it.

I don't know if it's about liking it. UPFs are addictive, they work like drugs on the brains reward system.

Kirbert2 · 17/01/2026 15:15

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 15:03

Have you tried banana fritters? Mash them, mix in egg and flour until itsca very thick gloopy batter and fry. Quick and tasty! I dont like banana bread!

I'll give those a go, thanks! My son wouldn't eat them but maybe I'll like them.

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 15:06

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 14:27

Of course you’re right that most average inhabitants of Asia and Africa have home cooked diets. I was simply addressing the comment on the ‘poorest people’ as though they were in some kind of dietary bliss. Not deadly malnutrition.

Yes I shouldnt have quoted you because its the general narrative I was talking about. When Jamie Oliver does his £1 meals shows its the same thing. They're always whataboutery about ' poor people' not having a tin opener rather than the majority of people who could just do with some information on cheap and nutritious meals.

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 15:03

Kirbert2 · 17/01/2026 15:00

Same.

Gone off bananas just get thrown away because no one will eat banana bread etc so it would just get chucked anyway.

Have you tried banana fritters? Mash them, mix in egg and flour until itsca very thick gloopy batter and fry. Quick and tasty! I dont like banana bread!

Kirbert2 · 17/01/2026 15:00

femfemlicious · 17/01/2026 13:25

I've got two black bananas I really should make into banana bread but I'm most likely gonna throw it in the bin

Same.

Gone off bananas just get thrown away because no one will eat banana bread etc so it would just get chucked anyway.

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 14:27

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 10:31

I think the ' poorest people' narrative isnt helpful either in Africa or Asia or here is helpful. Yes, there are very poor people in Africa and Asia and there are people here without kitchens and who cant afford flour but they dont have problems solvable by watching a telly programme on UPF's. The majority of people eating bad diets have kitchens. They just need help getting out of a rut and being taught how to cook. There are many people in Africa and Asia who arent starving to death. They traditionally cook with local ingredients, foods that their bodies are developed over generations to deal with. Once they get more affluent and reject traditional foods in return for 'western' foods, marketed to them aggressively by Coca Cola, McDonalds, Unilever etc ( often because they are pushed out of countries with better regulation) it leads to huge increases in diabetes and obesity, far faster than in the West, as the risk of diabetes in Black and Asian populations kicks in at a far, far lower BMI, draining precious resources from those countries. A lot of the time, the 'what about people who dont have kitchens' is used to shut down discussion and is unhelpful.

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Of course you’re right that most average inhabitants of Asia and Africa have home cooked diets. I was simply addressing the comment on the ‘poorest people’ as though they were in some kind of dietary bliss. Not deadly malnutrition.

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 14:25

MO0N · 17/01/2026 12:13

This doesn't surprise me at all!
The manufacturers of these drugs are laughing. The people who use them have two choices, either keep paying the money every month or suffer the consequences of being obese all your life.
The fast food industry will never stop making highly addictive food-like substances which most of us are unable to resist, and so thanks to them the glp1 manufacturers will never run out of customers.
It's a racket.

Except you’ve forgotten the point of that ‘racket’ which is that the majority of WLI users generally would have remained obese without them. WLI mean they can pay and not be obese… the decision isn’t between being slim through willpower and being slim through WLI. The decision is between being slim and taking WLI or being obese.

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 14:15

femfemlicious · 17/01/2026 13:25

I've got two black bananas I really should make into banana bread but I'm most likely gonna throw it in the bin

Just chuck them in a smoothie or mash up with cinnamon. Going black doesn’t make them need to be baked.

femfemlicious · 17/01/2026 13:25

flipent · 14/01/2026 15:28

While an apple or a banana cost the same as a bag of crisps, the bunch of banana's brought because someone couldn't get enough last week is now rotting because they don't want that now. The bag of crisps can sit there for months without going off.

It doesn't make it right, and we should all be making better choices, particularly for children - but it is not quite as black and white as you make out.

Meal planning for some is a skill they never learnt - to cook from scratch you need the ingredients, which takes planning.

UPF's have been designed to be the easiest choice.

I've got two black bananas I really should make into banana bread but I'm most likely gonna throw it in the bin

Binus · 17/01/2026 13:03

ContinouslyLearning · 17/01/2026 11:58

Unfortunately, a January 2026 Oxford University study published in the British Medical Journal shows that reliance on weight loss injections is not sustainable. The study from 9000 people showed that stopping weight‑loss injections (e.g., Wegovy, Mounjaro) means regain of about 0.8 kg/month—four times faster than those stopping diet/exercise (0.3 kg/month. People in the study often returned to their baseline within 18 months and blood pressure and cholesterol also reverted. This indicates that at a population level without either changing the environment or funding the required support e.g. dieticians, nutritionists, physical support most people unlikely to realise meaningful change. Policy makers just need to listen to the experts and do whats beneficial to the health and wellbeing of the nation. Are we going to keep large swathes of the population permanently on weight loss medication?

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What you're doing here is taking a known scientific conclusion and then adding things that weren't there. The review indicated that those on WLIs are likely to regain the weight if they stop taking them. There are some limitations, ie most of the studies they looked at weren't the new generation of drugs, and some of it was actually modelling rather than observation. But the broad conclusion, that WLI drugs don't work if you don't take them, wasn't surprising.

However, everything you've written after 'also reverted' is supposition, and wasn't in the review.

In fact, the BMJ review doesn't actually indicate anything at all about whether 'changing the environment or funding the required support e.g. dieticians, nutritionists, physical support' will be effective. There is, in fact, no evidence that any of this will work at tackling obesity on a population level.

That's not to say policy change couldn't do any good things. It's better that people be obese and more active than obese and less active, for example. But it remains the case, however unpalatable, that the only example of a country successfully reducing obesity rates (outside starvation situations) is the US recently. That coincided with the population being able to access WLI. The pp was right, reliance on willpower doesn't work.

MO0N · 17/01/2026 12:13

ContinouslyLearning · 17/01/2026 11:58

Unfortunately, a January 2026 Oxford University study published in the British Medical Journal shows that reliance on weight loss injections is not sustainable. The study from 9000 people showed that stopping weight‑loss injections (e.g., Wegovy, Mounjaro) means regain of about 0.8 kg/month—four times faster than those stopping diet/exercise (0.3 kg/month. People in the study often returned to their baseline within 18 months and blood pressure and cholesterol also reverted. This indicates that at a population level without either changing the environment or funding the required support e.g. dieticians, nutritionists, physical support most people unlikely to realise meaningful change. Policy makers just need to listen to the experts and do whats beneficial to the health and wellbeing of the nation. Are we going to keep large swathes of the population permanently on weight loss medication?

Edited

This doesn't surprise me at all!
The manufacturers of these drugs are laughing. The people who use them have two choices, either keep paying the money every month or suffer the consequences of being obese all your life.
The fast food industry will never stop making highly addictive food-like substances which most of us are unable to resist, and so thanks to them the glp1 manufacturers will never run out of customers.
It's a racket.

ContinouslyLearning · 17/01/2026 11:58

RingoJuice · 17/01/2026 11:31

Relying on individual willpower or mass medical fixes like weight loss injections is not a sustainable solution

Ready access to GLP-1s is probably the most sustainable solution, if we are being totally honest.

Unfortunately, a January 2026 Oxford University study published in the British Medical Journal shows that reliance on weight loss injections is not sustainable. The study from 9000 people showed that stopping weight‑loss injections (e.g., Wegovy, Mounjaro) means regain of about 0.8 kg/month—four times faster than those stopping diet/exercise (0.3 kg/month. People in the study often returned to their baseline within 18 months and blood pressure and cholesterol also reverted. This indicates that at a population level without either changing the environment or funding the required support e.g. dieticians, nutritionists, physical support most people unlikely to realise meaningful change. Policy makers just need to listen to the experts and do whats beneficial to the health and wellbeing of the nation. Are we going to keep large swathes of the population permanently on weight loss medication?

RingoJuice · 17/01/2026 11:31

Relying on individual willpower or mass medical fixes like weight loss injections is not a sustainable solution

Ready access to GLP-1s is probably the most sustainable solution, if we are being totally honest.

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 11:10

fruitfly3 · 17/01/2026 10:38

I’m not going to judge. We have no idea what else the family is battling. My DH and I work full time, both have MH challenges, I have a chronic illness and one of my two DC is autistic and struggles with lots of things. The load is mostly left to me day to day. I hate cooking and prepping food and the children are increasingly fussy. So it’s the thing that has lapsed. They don’t eat nuggets every night but will have beans and scrambled egg on toast, a fridge buffet and pesto/Passatta pasta much more than is ideal. There would be a lot of pearl clutching at our weekly menu. People like this need support, skills and kindness, not our judgement.

Thee is nothing wrong with any of those things though. They arent 2 bars of aero a night!

fruitfly3 · 17/01/2026 10:40

@FurForksSake i think you’re smashing it. Nothing wrong with that

Foodieasfuck · 17/01/2026 10:39

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 14/01/2026 15:27

An apple/banana costs the same as a packet of crisps

Indeed. Just a pity apples/bananas are crap and crisps are awesome.

😂😂😂🤣

fruitfly3 · 17/01/2026 10:38

I’m not going to judge. We have no idea what else the family is battling. My DH and I work full time, both have MH challenges, I have a chronic illness and one of my two DC is autistic and struggles with lots of things. The load is mostly left to me day to day. I hate cooking and prepping food and the children are increasingly fussy. So it’s the thing that has lapsed. They don’t eat nuggets every night but will have beans and scrambled egg on toast, a fridge buffet and pesto/Passatta pasta much more than is ideal. There would be a lot of pearl clutching at our weekly menu. People like this need support, skills and kindness, not our judgement.

RainbowBagels · 17/01/2026 10:31

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 09:53

No the poorest people in Asia and Africa are eating 85%+ cereals (rice and things like sorghum/amaranth). The vast majority of deaths due to / linked to Protein Energy Malnutrition are from the very poor in Asia and Africa. 800k under 5s die with it each year.

Dont imagine that the poor in these nations are eating healthy, home cooked meals. They are starving to death without access to anything but the most limited diets.

I think the ' poorest people' narrative isnt helpful either in Africa or Asia or here is helpful. Yes, there are very poor people in Africa and Asia and there are people here without kitchens and who cant afford flour but they dont have problems solvable by watching a telly programme on UPF's. The majority of people eating bad diets have kitchens. They just need help getting out of a rut and being taught how to cook. There are many people in Africa and Asia who arent starving to death. They traditionally cook with local ingredients, foods that their bodies are developed over generations to deal with. Once they get more affluent and reject traditional foods in return for 'western' foods, marketed to them aggressively by Coca Cola, McDonalds, Unilever etc ( often because they are pushed out of countries with better regulation) it leads to huge increases in diabetes and obesity, far faster than in the West, as the risk of diabetes in Black and Asian populations kicks in at a far, far lower BMI, draining precious resources from those countries. A lot of the time, the 'what about people who dont have kitchens' is used to shut down discussion and is unhelpful.

ContinouslyLearning · 17/01/2026 09:56

WilderHawthorn · 14/01/2026 15:16

Watching ‘what not to eat’, and the family they’ve found are just hopeless. Four small children all shovelled full of UPF junk, parents both obese, freely admit to eating crap constantly.

How adults choose to feed themselves is their choice, but to feed four small kids that much junk? It’s bordering on abuse. An apple/banana costs the same as a packet of crisps, jacket potato is one of the cheapest meals you can make, basic porridge oats and milk for breakfast, it’s not difficult to eat whole foods, so why rely on packaged things?

Freely admit I judge those who feed their children this way and truly despair over childhood obesity stats. I work full time, have 4 DC, DH works full time and I volunteer. I’m very time poor and partially disabled, I still feed my kids well and it doesn’t cost me a fortune. Taught myself to cook. There’s no excuse!

Individual choices alone haven't reduced overweight and obesity in 40 years. Only sustained UK government action can change the environment at scale. Key steps:

  • Boost school activity — fund PE and play in state schools to support children’s health and confidence.
  • Tighten food regulation — limit sugar and ultra‑processed foods; curb aggressive industry lobbying and imports of highly processed products from the USA etc
  • Improve public transport — reduce car use by investing in reliable, affordable networks.
  • Limit fast‑food density — let local authorities cap outlets, especially in deprived areas.
  • Expose true costs — make the economic and health burden of obesity public.

Relying on individual willpower or mass medical fixes like weight loss injections is not a sustainable solution. Most experts are skeptical about sustainability of weight loss injections at population level. Rightly so.

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 17/01/2026 09:53

Centipedeswellies · 16/01/2026 16:54

But the thrift granny would have bought essentials like cooking equipment ahead of all else. Now people would not prioritise a baking tin ahead of a more desirable item.

It's mostly culture and education.

The poorest people in the Asian & African countries are not eating nuggets and chips

No the poorest people in Asia and Africa are eating 85%+ cereals (rice and things like sorghum/amaranth). The vast majority of deaths due to / linked to Protein Energy Malnutrition are from the very poor in Asia and Africa. 800k under 5s die with it each year.

Dont imagine that the poor in these nations are eating healthy, home cooked meals. They are starving to death without access to anything but the most limited diets.

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