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Rude gps

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mumma224 · 14/01/2026 09:45

Why are gp receptionists so rude? And why do we just act like that’s standard? Every time I’ve called up recently I’ve been met with some condescending women acting as if me calling up is inconvenient for her. I don’t want to hear nothing about how awful they get treated because to be honest, I don’t feel like being so polite after I am instantly met with rudeness from them. It’s at the point where I get stressed whenever I need to call up.
I get the job is stressful yes but retail workers, others in customer facing jobs, we don’t get to treat customers like crap just because we can’t emotionally handle the job and everything that comes with it.

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Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 19:10

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 11:16

I have this issue too. I phone in to book an appointment and that’s it, receptions are not doctors, I should not be having to explain in extensive detail what my issue is, that’s what the doctor is for.

I agree I think that’s shocking tbh

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 19:09

jackstini · 14/01/2026 11:32

But how do they know who to book your appointment with if you don’t tell them what it’s for?

All GPs cover ‘general’ but many of them also have specialties. Our practice has one in skincare, one gynae, plus if it’s something a practice nurse can do, you can sometimes get an earlier appointment

Agree they should not be rude, but asking questions to get you in with the right person is their job!

It’s not about asking questions, obviously we need to give them the basics for them to book us in with the right person etc, that’s not rocket science. It’s about complete invasion of privacy, there are some things that they just don’t need to know yet think they’re entitled to that information.

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mumma224 · 14/01/2026 19:05

PuppyMonkey · 14/01/2026 12:42

Oh come on OP, surely you know they have to ask more details so that they can make sure you get the right sort of appointment. There are signs all over my GP surgery reminding people of this. Has your surgery not moved over to online booking? Just be aware, if they have, you need to give the details of what’s wrong.

I wasn’t booking an appointment, I was calling up to get medical notes about my toddler. That however is my general opinion, I shouldn’t be having to give EXTENSIVE details on my issue to make an appointment, it’s unnecessary and an invasion of privacy in certain circumstances.

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CrystalSingerFan · 14/01/2026 18:44

Throwitback · 14/01/2026 10:09

Thought this was going to be about an impolite car sat nav

This!

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 18:44

BearPear · 14/01/2026 18:32

“They” don’t think they can act as a triage system, they are trained to do so by the practice, and it’s an expectation of the manager that this will be done. It doesn’t take a genius to work out that a child with an ingrown toenail is not as high priority as a 90year old with suspected cellulitis.
I speak as a former gp receptionist who was always polite despite dealing with some truly unpleasant people all whilst on minimum wage.

I respectfully tbink that is absolutely mad. I know its not your fault at all and you were just doing your job but I just can’t Imagine someone, say a middle aged man having to explain to a woman receptionist over the phone that he was having prostate trouble. It just seems crazy that people should have to answer medical questions asked by a receptionist to get an appointment.

ohyesido · 14/01/2026 18:35

Were they rude or just a bit firm?

BearPear · 14/01/2026 18:32

3point5 · 14/01/2026 11:06

I get frustrated when they think they can act as a triage system. They have no medical training and should not feel that they can do this

“They” don’t think they can act as a triage system, they are trained to do so by the practice, and it’s an expectation of the manager that this will be done. It doesn’t take a genius to work out that a child with an ingrown toenail is not as high priority as a 90year old with suspected cellulitis.
I speak as a former gp receptionist who was always polite despite dealing with some truly unpleasant people all whilst on minimum wage.

Concretejungle1 · 14/01/2026 18:01

Mine are all lovely Confused

Serencwtch · 14/01/2026 18:00

I think it's because it's tolerated. Businesses put a lot of effort into giving decent customer service. I'm a supermarket manager & I'm constantly managing & coaching customer service that falls below standard (which it often does when you pay a smidge above minimum wage & have a high number of neurodiverse & disabled employees).

It's not something that NHS & GPs in particular value & give importance to so it's very dependent on individual staff. Many poor staff who are rude & lack customer service skills are never pulled up on it. It makes their job a lot easier. There's some things on a CV that are a massive red flag when I'm recruiting & working for the NHS is definitely one of them.

Customer service training is extremely important as it boils down to effective communication skills, empathy etc. A lot of professionals stick their noses up at it as they believe their skills make them above basic standards. Many professionals now offer customer service training but re-named as things like 'advanced communication & problem solving' to get around that.

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 17:26

Kingscallops · 14/01/2026 17:22

Thank you, that's very kind of you ❤️ while I was waiting to be seen on Monday, I was called in 15 minutes late by the nurse. I went early in the morning and no other patients were even being seen. Another lady turned up to reception as she'd also been referred for a blood test. She was told 15th February. Just ridiculous. It's a 5 minute job.

Exactly. That’s just ridiculous.

Kingscallops · 14/01/2026 17:22

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 17:12

Its absolutely ridiculous that people need to wait for blood tests. You can get a prescription in the afternoon from a dr in France and turn up the next morning at a ‘labo’ and have your test with results usually back within 24 hours . I just don’t understand why the UK government cant at least sort this out.
Glad you got your slot in the end and fingers crossed everything turns out well for you.

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Thank you, that's very kind of you ❤️ while I was waiting to be seen on Monday, I was called in 15 minutes late by the nurse. I went early in the morning and no other patients were even being seen. Another lady turned up to reception as she'd also been referred for a blood test. She was told 15th February. Just ridiculous. It's a 5 minute job.

ThatsRoughBuddy · 14/01/2026 17:22

Boo, it’s not a thread about stroppy guinea pigs. I thought you were getting attitude from them for daring to rustle a packet and it wasn’t for them!

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 17:19

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2026 17:14

Not everyone needs to wait for blood tests. I got mine the same afternoon and the results 24 hours later. I seem to be very fortunate with my GP surgery.

Glad to hear that 😊

TicklishMintDuck · 14/01/2026 17:17

Try a different practice. Mine used to be rude a few years back, but now they’ve seen the light!

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2026 17:14

Not everyone needs to wait for blood tests. I got mine the same afternoon and the results 24 hours later. I seem to be very fortunate with my GP surgery.

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 17:12

Kingscallops · 14/01/2026 15:34

I kill mine with kindness and it works every time. I didn't need to tell the receptionist I was on the two week cervical cancer pathways when she wouldn't fit me in for a blood test. She said there weren't any slots until February and she didn't exactly say it in a polite manner. I was very kind in my response and she managed to find a spot this week.

Its absolutely ridiculous that people need to wait for blood tests. You can get a prescription in the afternoon from a dr in France and turn up the next morning at a ‘labo’ and have your test with results usually back within 24 hours . I just don’t understand why the UK government cant at least sort this out.
Glad you got your slot in the end and fingers crossed everything turns out well for you.

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 17:06

I’ve not lived in the UK for a long time but have always visted alot especially while caring for an elderly close family member. What I found astounding is the medical questions you get asked by the receptionist ( was helping incapacitated family member ) when we phoned to make an appointment. Not the receptionist’s fault at all but it feels so strange to me to have ti explain why you want the appointment to someone who isn’t medically trained.

BillieWiper · 14/01/2026 16:57

00Platinum · 14/01/2026 12:46

Ehhh they have this reputation for a reason. There must also be reasons why they’re always pissed, though, so most of us have some sympathy. Having to deal with unpleasant people over the phone is horrible and probably sets them in a bad mood.

Yeah I get that. I've just never had one that was outright rude. I think until we've worked as one we can't really say how much crap they have to take and how much internal rules and targets they're forced to adhere to.

I worked on reception in quite a few places and was always treated with the utmost respect. But I guess it wasn't the NHS which is a different animal altogether.

Itiswhysofew · 14/01/2026 15:48

DM loves the receptionists at the surgery she goes to. They're very accommodating and always follow through for her. At the surgery I go to they're fine.

We were talking the other day about the surgery we used to go to when we were kids. There was one tartar of a receptionist. Even when you saw her in the street, you'd be terrified. The other receptionist was a lovely lady who'd always be accommodating.That was at a time when you could just walk into the surgery and get an appointment there and then - not always, but a mostly; and they opened Saturday mornings.

dizzydizzydizzy · 14/01/2026 15:45

I think most of them are good but like in any job there are always some bad apples. I think you have to bear in mind that they are on low pay so that is not necessarily going to attract the best people.

I did have trouble with one at my last GP surgery. I had a stress fracture which needed an urgent referral to the hospital. I discovered that she had been lying to me about not having received my x-ray report, although she was perfectly polite. The doctor was supposed to do a same day referral and it took a week - only because the hospital phoned them and asked for it because they were fed up of me ringing them to see if they had received the referral. The GP may well have been at fault too.

The GP was, however, VERY rude to me. I had a telephone appointment and when they called I told them that the health problem that I had reported to them and discusssed various times was getting worse. The GP said to me “There’s nothing more I can do. Bye” and with that she slammed the phone down. I was always very polite to her. I was absolutely outraged by her behaviour and changed
to another surgery. The GP I saw there was absolutely lovely and did a referral for me. I then got referred from that consultant to
another one and the second consultant knew what my problem was and how to treat it. Thank goodness!

StephensLass1977 · 14/01/2026 15:39

I had a lovely lady this morning when I called up at 8am today. But I get your point. Some of them before I left London were shocking. They just looked so annoyed all the time, and would audibly tut in your face.

When I turned up for my GP appointment today, one elderly gentleman decided to tell his life story to the poor girl on reception. He would tell a full story about "the time I..." then would say bye, then would quickly hop back to the window and start a new story. I watched it as I waited for my appointment. Large queue formed behind him. I guess she felt unable to ask him to move on, but I can see why so many of them get fed up!

I wouldn't dream of being rude, or even "off" with them. I did a lot of reception work in my younger days and it was HARD. Always getting yelled at and talked down to.

Kingscallops · 14/01/2026 15:34

I kill mine with kindness and it works every time. I didn't need to tell the receptionist I was on the two week cervical cancer pathways when she wouldn't fit me in for a blood test. She said there weren't any slots until February and she didn't exactly say it in a polite manner. I was very kind in my response and she managed to find a spot this week.

SassyCow · 14/01/2026 15:32

Throwitback · 14/01/2026 10:09

Thought this was going to be about an impolite car sat nav

Same 😂

S251 · 14/01/2026 15:30

I used to agree with you, however my mum now works in gp practice as receptionist/admin and now I hear the flip side that they are so unbelievably busy. I don’t think they mean to be rude just stressed.

LouXx12 · 14/01/2026 15:20

Yep ours are rude too! I was at the drs with dd last week, dr had requested that I quickly nip to reception and get a urine sample pot for dd so she could do a sample for him to dip there and then. Two receptionists one on the phone so I approach the other one, she would not stop what she was doing on the computer to deal with me, and kept huffing and puffing as if me standing there was interfering with her in some way