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mumma224 · 14/01/2026 09:45

Why are gp receptionists so rude? And why do we just act like that’s standard? Every time I’ve called up recently I’ve been met with some condescending women acting as if me calling up is inconvenient for her. I don’t want to hear nothing about how awful they get treated because to be honest, I don’t feel like being so polite after I am instantly met with rudeness from them. It’s at the point where I get stressed whenever I need to call up.
I get the job is stressful yes but retail workers, others in customer facing jobs, we don’t get to treat customers like crap just because we can’t emotionally handle the job and everything that comes with it.

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mumma224 · 14/01/2026 21:04

Kindafreakingouthere · 14/01/2026 20:54

I’ve always had a mixture…some are definitely rude for no reason at all though…like you politely ask to make an appointment and they are so snappy and tut etc.
My local Asda has a woman that always works customer service desk and she is legit the rudest person I’ve ever met…to the point that it really makes me want to giggle when I speak to her 😂 I’m always extra extra polite to her to see if it makes a difference but she just cannot be nice back. Im determined to crack her one day!

This is the issue I have with them, it’s uncalled for. I can completely understand a receptionist being rude to someone who is being rude to them, but my experience 85% of the time has been them having attitude and acting like I’m an inconvenience before they even know why I’m calling. And then that attitude and annoyance is even more apparent when they find out what I’m calling for.

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Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 21:02

Catza · 14/01/2026 20:48

In my particular example I needed a skin lesion examined. The GP I saw could do a visual examination but wasn't trained to use the magnifying equipment. So I had to be rebooked with someone else.
Some GPs can insert coils, others can't.
Every GP does core training and then some go on to complete separate training in various specialties in addition to their GP role.

Oh ok. Fair enough. I’d see a gynecologist for a coil and a gp then a dermatologist for skin I suppose. It’s good that that’s available but it does mean GP’s have alot of work .

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 20:57

3point5 · 14/01/2026 20:26

The point is they acted like I definitely wasn't going to be able to have a discussion but I knew (because my knowledge of my rare condition is infinitely greater than theirs) that the GP would need to chat to correct the note. All sge needed to say was she would pass on my request. She didn't have to promise a call but she was acting outside her knowledge and authority to say the GP "definitely wouldn't" call. It's that bumped up idea of their power and knowledge that some receptionists have that is problematic

This is partly the issue I had this morning. I called up for some medical information about my daughter, that I knew they had as I had been given it less than a year prior. They told me they don’t hold them and that I must be lying about being given them before. The second you question their knowledge they turn patronising and condescending, it’s infuriating. Reality is they just can’t be arsed to do their job.

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Kindafreakingouthere · 14/01/2026 20:54

I’ve always had a mixture…some are definitely rude for no reason at all though…like you politely ask to make an appointment and they are so snappy and tut etc.
My local Asda has a woman that always works customer service desk and she is legit the rudest person I’ve ever met…to the point that it really makes me want to giggle when I speak to her 😂 I’m always extra extra polite to her to see if it makes a difference but she just cannot be nice back. Im determined to crack her one day!

CoffeePleaseBlack · 14/01/2026 20:49

Catza · 14/01/2026 10:07

I moved eight times up and down the country in the last six years so changed a lot of surgeries and I have never encountered a rude receptionist. Can you specify what exactly they are saying to you that you deem rude?

Me too.

Catza · 14/01/2026 20:48

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 19:14

I didn’t realise that GP’s in a surgery are specialised in different things? Like what for example? Not being funny just curious.

In my particular example I needed a skin lesion examined. The GP I saw could do a visual examination but wasn't trained to use the magnifying equipment. So I had to be rebooked with someone else.
Some GPs can insert coils, others can't.
Every GP does core training and then some go on to complete separate training in various specialties in addition to their GP role.

slapmyarseandcallmemary · 14/01/2026 20:36

The ones at the surgery I go to are lovely. Some of the GPs on the other hand aren't.

3point5 · 14/01/2026 20:26

WickedWitchoftheDesk · 14/01/2026 20:08

They wouldn’t have had an appointment to book you into in order to speak to the GP but are able to send them tasks/messages with some information. It is then up to the GP whether they need to discuss it further with you, as they did on this occasion. Receptionist did exactly the right thing here.
If every patient who “just wanted a quick word with the doctor” was able to be put through or given an appointment, nothing would work!

The point is they acted like I definitely wasn't going to be able to have a discussion but I knew (because my knowledge of my rare condition is infinitely greater than theirs) that the GP would need to chat to correct the note. All sge needed to say was she would pass on my request. She didn't have to promise a call but she was acting outside her knowledge and authority to say the GP "definitely wouldn't" call. It's that bumped up idea of their power and knowledge that some receptionists have that is problematic

WickedWitchoftheDesk · 14/01/2026 20:08

3point5 · 14/01/2026 11:23

I had a receptionist tell me the other day that I couldn't ask for the GP to ring me regarding an issue with a sick note they had issued. They agreed to pass on a message and surprise surprise the GP realized they needed to call me. I don't think the receptionists should talk in definites when it isn't there decision to make. I have a very rare condition that GPS tend to understand really well which impresses me but which means receptionists are not likely to understand why something is a problem for me

They wouldn’t have had an appointment to book you into in order to speak to the GP but are able to send them tasks/messages with some information. It is then up to the GP whether they need to discuss it further with you, as they did on this occasion. Receptionist did exactly the right thing here.
If every patient who “just wanted a quick word with the doctor” was able to be put through or given an appointment, nothing would work!

ScaryM0nster · 14/01/2026 19:57

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 19:09

It’s not about asking questions, obviously we need to give them the basics for them to book us in with the right person etc, that’s not rocket science. It’s about complete invasion of privacy, there are some things that they just don’t need to know yet think they’re entitled to that information.

It is very unlikely that theyre asking for sensitive information that isn’t prompted as part of their protocols.

Very very few practices these days run on a model whereby the receptionist decides what to ask for when people ring up with enquiries. There are generally flowcharts or protocols for them to follow, with defined questions and responses.

Most calls are also recorded. Data protection is taken incredibly seriously. So if sensitive information is being asked for it’s either:

  • within their protocols (so they've been told to ask, rather than they as an individual have decided they’re entitled to know)
  • them breaching data protection requirements (Theyre requested sensitive information they have no valid purpose to request).

The latter is a serious issue for the practice, which is why they tend to use flow charts and prompt scripts.

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 19:50

Quine0nline · 14/01/2026 19:41

Yes, if a GP calls a patient in and it turns out they have a sore tooth, or eye problems then the receptionist who booked them in will have her arse ripped by the doctor.
Dentist for teeth, opticians for eyes.

Also, patients think that if the nurses who would take blood or give injections then a go is as good. Heaven forbid.

Don’t most people know that?
( Actually I suppose if someone had a tooth abcess and couldn’t get a dentist appointment a GP could prescribe antibiotics and painkillers while the patient waited for the dental appointment and it would avoid them going to A and E in intense pain but I digress)
The receptionist could just say is it for vision or tooth problems if the answer is no then make an appointment?

stichguru · 14/01/2026 19:43

I feel your pain to an extent but honestly it must be a horrible job. Like basically everyday they repeatedly have to tell people there are no appointments, then either know they have exacerbated a polite and understanding person's pain or worry, or get abuse for not given a rude, unkind person something that it is just not in their power to give! Plus, most of the time when it goes well they won't see it. When the GP tells you your test results are back and it's nothing to worry about, or the scan showed the cancer has cleared or whatever, you celebrate with him or her even if it just a "thanks for getting that test sorted doc", who actually goes to the receptionist and says "thanks for booking that appointment or phoning me about those results". Not many, and I don't know that we should, but it's a pretty grim task.

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 19:43

Quine0nline · 14/01/2026 19:34

"I'd rather not say". "It's personal, thank you"

Not unreasonable to say.

Yes it should be enough .

Quine0nline · 14/01/2026 19:41

LemonTT · 14/01/2026 12:36

Maybe you are the issue.

IME They are generally assertive in their gatekeeping but that will be what the practice has told them to do. They work for the practice and it isn’t a customer service job. Your retail analogy is perhaps why the interaction goes wrong. They won’t apply the customer is always right principle.

Yes, if a GP calls a patient in and it turns out they have a sore tooth, or eye problems then the receptionist who booked them in will have her arse ripped by the doctor.
Dentist for teeth, opticians for eyes.

Also, patients think that if the nurses who would take blood or give injections then a go is as good. Heaven forbid.

Quine0nline · 14/01/2026 19:36

J578 · 14/01/2026 19:15

My GP once told me to go and book another appointment with the dragons at the desk! Says it all! 😂

Lovely support from above. Says a lot as to what little the doctor has done to improve and issues.

wand3rer · 14/01/2026 19:35

Same experience as you OP @mumma224

I’ve been registered with the same GP practice for over ten years, and because of ongoing health issues I need to book appointments several times a year. Every receptionist I’ve dealt with at this GP practice has been consistently rude, condescending, and prone to talk over patients. On one occasion, a receptionist even gave me dangerously incorrect medical advice. She told me I no longer needed a heart medication, which is absolutely not their decision to make!

There was one receptionist who was initially friendly, but within three months she was behaving like the others 😂

One star on Google map. No better option around unfortunately...

Quine0nline · 14/01/2026 19:34

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 18:44

I respectfully tbink that is absolutely mad. I know its not your fault at all and you were just doing your job but I just can’t Imagine someone, say a middle aged man having to explain to a woman receptionist over the phone that he was having prostate trouble. It just seems crazy that people should have to answer medical questions asked by a receptionist to get an appointment.

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"I'd rather not say". "It's personal, thank you"

Not unreasonable to say.

Kingscallops · 14/01/2026 19:30

I do know I will be taking some chocolates into the gynaecology ward because the staff treated me really well. They know you're nervous but they are so kind and caring.

Netcurtainnelly · 14/01/2026 19:28

They arent rude I bet alot of people are rude to them though.

Stressful job.

ThatUmberCritic · 14/01/2026 19:28

Agree, there seems to be a culture of contempt for patients. it is a common theme . Same with a&e staff. Amusing that they have posters up saying not to be abusive to them then first thing they do is give you a mouthful.

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 19:26

Cosyblankets · 14/01/2026 13:17

Maybe you could have put that in your title instead of slating the doctors

Or maybe just read the post??😂 GPS are generally pretty crappy these days either way, and that’s why A&E is constantly overloaded with people that don’t need to be there.

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Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 19:25

IamnotSethRogan · 14/01/2026 12:01

Then how else do they prioritise patients ? Just give everyone with the sniffles an appointment meaning there are none left for people with say, infections or a concerning lump ?

They may not be medically trained but they do have a procedure to follow.

Well I suppose really it should just be easier to get an appointment . If you could get an appointment within a few days for anything then there would only be a need to explain if you feel you need an urgent appointment that day. I’m in France and that’s the only time I’d explain and have rarely ever had to. I normally just phone and make an appointment no explaining needed.

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 19:21

Iamsoraven · 14/01/2026 12:53

It’s a stressful job they usually do burn out, it’s min wage, they get a lot of abuse, not even occasionally - most of the day. I don’t think it’s as easy to say just go get a new job when it’s min wage…really? GP receptionist hours often suits people who can’t work in retail. Retail hours are really shit. You can’t compare retail with healthcare AT ALL because someone being a bit rude about a trolley or some bread is not the same as someone screaming at you about their unwell elderly parent, the context is completely different, it’s not emotive and deeply personal in Aldi is it? Patients are afraid they might die and get abusive and threads like this perpetuate how it’s acceptable to speak to GP receptionists badly because they deserve it.

The most I have spoken to are just quite firm and have clear boundaries and limitations of their role - they are not there to ask you if you had a lovely Holiday, it’s not the hairdressers. Just tell them what you need and get the info. Plus people speak to them as if they are mini GP’s and expect them to know everything when they do not, and blame them for things they don’t do.

I know it’s not the most comparable but if you’re that miserable in your job that it is reflecting in your work, that revolves around vulnerable people, you need to leave that job instead of making it everyone else’s problem.

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J578 · 14/01/2026 19:15

mumma224 · 14/01/2026 09:45

Why are gp receptionists so rude? And why do we just act like that’s standard? Every time I’ve called up recently I’ve been met with some condescending women acting as if me calling up is inconvenient for her. I don’t want to hear nothing about how awful they get treated because to be honest, I don’t feel like being so polite after I am instantly met with rudeness from them. It’s at the point where I get stressed whenever I need to call up.
I get the job is stressful yes but retail workers, others in customer facing jobs, we don’t get to treat customers like crap just because we can’t emotionally handle the job and everything that comes with it.

My GP once told me to go and book another appointment with the dragons at the desk! Says it all! 😂

Parisienne123 · 14/01/2026 19:14

Catza · 14/01/2026 11:30

Well there you go then. We found a common denominator.
Not once did it occur to you that receptionist have been given instructions from a medical professional to ask you these questions in order to book you in with the right person. You think everyone should bend over backwards for you when you refuse to give them basic details about your needs.

I didn’t realise that GP’s in a surgery are specialised in different things? Like what for example? Not being funny just curious.