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To think that most women have pierced ears?

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Sweetiedarling7 · 14/01/2026 08:22

In my teenage years (70/80s) my father refused to let me have my ears pierced. He was a very judgemental unpleasant man and it was deemed “common”.

I never did end up getting mine done even after I left home because I went into nursing and the client group I worked with (people with extreme challenging behaviour) made wearing earrings inadvisable.

It seems to me that pretty much every woman has pierced ears now and many girls have them done at quite young ages.

Is there anybody left like me who doesn’t have pierced ears?

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GarlicSound · 14/01/2026 17:09

Kingdomofsleep · 14/01/2026 08:38

I don't. Even as a child I was always a bit put off by the thought of it, always seen it as a kind of (albeit mild and harmless) body mutilation. Objectively, that's what it is!

Agree - and I got mine done in my mid-twenties so as to have a good choice of earrings.

GivePeaceAChance · 14/01/2026 17:07

StarlightLady · 14/01/2026 16:46

But it’s 46% of 16-24s. Or have l misread it?

l was getting all proud to be one of 46% with non earlobe piercings (I assume that means as well as earlobe?)) then l realised l was too old.

Thanks

I went back to check and you got there before me

BauhausOfEliott · 14/01/2026 17:07

AntiqueVases · 14/01/2026 14:48

Why were so many parents saying it’s “common”? Did they not notice that the queen had them?
multiple piercings is different.

multiple piercings is different

Multiple piercings are most prevalent among middle-class arty/alternative types. It's not a 'common' class thing at all.

MyBrightPeer · 14/01/2026 17:04

Sweetiedarling7 · 14/01/2026 08:22

In my teenage years (70/80s) my father refused to let me have my ears pierced. He was a very judgemental unpleasant man and it was deemed “common”.

I never did end up getting mine done even after I left home because I went into nursing and the client group I worked with (people with extreme challenging behaviour) made wearing earrings inadvisable.

It seems to me that pretty much every woman has pierced ears now and many girls have them done at quite young ages.

Is there anybody left like me who doesn’t have pierced ears?

I was like you until a couple of years ago. Mum wouldn’t let me get mine done until 16 and by then I couldn’t be bothered. I got them done and I do actually love wearing earrings but it took me until about age 34!

GivePeaceAChance · 14/01/2026 17:03

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 14/01/2026 16:17

Those figures don't add up, since 46% of women is already 23% of the population.

Like I said
i googled. Maybe that’s based on two studies

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 14/01/2026 17:02

StarlightLady · 14/01/2026 16:46

But it’s 46% of 16-24s. Or have l misread it?

l was getting all proud to be one of 46% with non earlobe piercings (I assume that means as well as earlobe?)) then l realised l was too old.

No you haven't, it's me. Sorry.

StarlightLady · 14/01/2026 16:46

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 14/01/2026 16:17

Those figures don't add up, since 46% of women is already 23% of the population.

But it’s 46% of 16-24s. Or have l misread it?

l was getting all proud to be one of 46% with non earlobe piercings (I assume that means as well as earlobe?)) then l realised l was too old.

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 14/01/2026 16:17

GivePeaceAChance · 14/01/2026 16:07

Oh dear I clearly have too much time on my hands today
Ive googled the prevalence

‘ Overall Piercings: A British Orthodontic Society study found 10% of UK adults had piercings (excluding earlobe).

  • Young Women: Nearly half (46.2%) of women aged 16-24 reported having a body piercing (non-earlobe) in a 2008 study, notes a UK Parliament deposition.
  • Earlobe Popularity: Earlobe piercings are very common, especially for females, with many starting young (ages 6-10 in the UK).
  • Data Nuance: Most studies focus on non-earlobe piercings to gauge trends in body modification, so earlobe prevalence is often assumed or inferred as nearly universal for females, as reported on Reddit threads.
In summary, while 10% covers body piercings beyond the earlobe, the percentage of the UK population with at least one earlobe piercing is significantly higher, likely encompassing most women and a good portion of men, though precise numbers are scarce. ‘

so not a majority

like you @SassyCow mine were pierced at a very young age. Too young for me to remember or choose
I let one heal over but have kept one ear pierced

no idea why some of my text is bold. It’s been a long day so far

Those figures don't add up, since 46% of women is already 23% of the population.

Bitzee · 14/01/2026 16:16

I only know one person that doesn’t. Except for her I would say I’m in minority only having 2 because everyone else I know has multiples lobes plus cartilage.

GivePeaceAChance · 14/01/2026 16:09

AntiqueVases · 14/01/2026 14:48

Why were so many parents saying it’s “common”? Did they not notice that the queen had them?
multiple piercings is different.

I don’t think multiple piercings is any different
It shows individualism I think

GivePeaceAChance · 14/01/2026 16:07

Oh dear I clearly have too much time on my hands today
Ive googled the prevalence

‘ Overall Piercings: A British Orthodontic Society study found 10% of UK adults had piercings (excluding earlobe).

  • Young Women: Nearly half (46.2%) of women aged 16-24 reported having a body piercing (non-earlobe) in a 2008 study, notes a UK Parliament deposition.
  • Earlobe Popularity: Earlobe piercings are very common, especially for females, with many starting young (ages 6-10 in the UK).
  • Data Nuance: Most studies focus on non-earlobe piercings to gauge trends in body modification, so earlobe prevalence is often assumed or inferred as nearly universal for females, as reported on Reddit threads.
In summary, while 10% covers body piercings beyond the earlobe, the percentage of the UK population with at least one earlobe piercing is significantly higher, likely encompassing most women and a good portion of men, though precise numbers are scarce. ‘

so not a majority

like you @SassyCow mine were pierced at a very young age. Too young for me to remember or choose
I let one heal over but have kept one ear pierced

no idea why some of my text is bold. It’s been a long day so far

SassyCow · 14/01/2026 15:36

I had my ears pierced from a young age but let them heal as I didn't like it. I got them pierced again at 16 ish.

user2848502016 · 14/01/2026 15:16

My mum was a 70s teenager too and didn’t get them pierced until she was 18 and left home because my grandmother thought they were “common”

I had mine done early 90s for my 10th birthday but can’t wear earrings as much as I’d like anymore because I’m allergic to a lot of metals

AntiqueVases · 14/01/2026 14:48

Why were so many parents saying it’s “common”? Did they not notice that the queen had them?
multiple piercings is different.

TubeScreamer · 14/01/2026 14:11

No piercings at all including ears.
My dad felt the same. I wasn’t allowed to have my ears pierced so long as I lived under his roof. By the time I’d left home I’d forgotten that I ever wanted my ears pierced.

coconutchocolatecream · 14/01/2026 13:56

I'm in my mid-40s. I had them done when I was young (before I was a teenager), but within the past ten years stopped wearing earrings for a while (I think I was having trouble with earrings making me sore or itchy), and now the holes have closed back up. Not sure if I'll bother having them done again... I like the look of earrings, but I'm also happy as I am.

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 14/01/2026 13:51

Cherrytree86 · 14/01/2026 12:53

Honestly the whole Peircing as ‘mutilation’ is just weird. Hair cutting and colourings So many things could be classed as self mutilation, I mean pregnancy radically changes your body, is that self mutilation?

Being made pregnant without your consent, including if you are too young or incapacitated to give informed consent, is a crime punishable by many years in jail. Hope that helps.

UniquePinkSwan · 14/01/2026 13:24

I don’t. I’m not a jewellery person at all. I don’t even wear my wedding ring

Zlemonits · 14/01/2026 13:23

Looking back, most girls at school had lobes pierced by about 13 (including me). My usually progressive Dad was fine about girls piercing their ears, but totally disapproved of boys doing the same. Still can't work that one out!

Everythingwillbeokay · 14/01/2026 13:21

I don't. No desire.

JustMarriedBecca · 14/01/2026 13:18

I had them pierced but let them heal up. I think I'm autistic and it's part of a sensory thing. I feel like they are weighing down my body. They make me feel heavy and they feel alien.

ChillyB · 14/01/2026 13:15

No piercings here, I’m 42. My DM always says (still) no need to poke holes in yourself.

Unicorn34 · 14/01/2026 13:12

I dont have anything pierced! Even helping someone put an earring in makes me gag for some unknown reason!

Pickledpoppetpickle · 14/01/2026 13:03

Had mine done last year - also a case of my dad refusing to allow it to happen. I realised my dad had been dead for 15 years and I've been an adult for even longer so did it. Love it! Have had a ball buying earrings from Vinted. Can't see them though - need to give some thought to my hair!

Aliflowers · 14/01/2026 13:01

Mine were done when I was young, maybe one so have no recollection of it being done. I wear earrings 24/7. Small platinum/diamond studs and only take them out to clean or to wear a bigger pair for an occasion

Oldest DD wanted them and got when she was old enough to understand. I think she first mentioned getting them when she was around 4/5 and was 9 getting them dine

Youngest DD had no interest so may never get them pierced and I don’t see it as a necessity. I can’t say I’d find it strange if someone didn’t have pierced ears though I think the majority of the women I know do