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To think that most women have pierced ears?

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Sweetiedarling7 · 14/01/2026 08:22

In my teenage years (70/80s) my father refused to let me have my ears pierced. He was a very judgemental unpleasant man and it was deemed “common”.

I never did end up getting mine done even after I left home because I went into nursing and the client group I worked with (people with extreme challenging behaviour) made wearing earrings inadvisable.

It seems to me that pretty much every woman has pierced ears now and many girls have them done at quite young ages.

Is there anybody left like me who doesn’t have pierced ears?

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janj52301 · 08/02/2026 21:46

73 now, I was allowed to have mine pierced during the school holiday between juniors and seniors. Don't often wear earrings except in december but the holes never heal over

Deathinvegas · 21/01/2026 09:51

Sweetiedarling7 · 14/01/2026 08:22

In my teenage years (70/80s) my father refused to let me have my ears pierced. He was a very judgemental unpleasant man and it was deemed “common”.

I never did end up getting mine done even after I left home because I went into nursing and the client group I worked with (people with extreme challenging behaviour) made wearing earrings inadvisable.

It seems to me that pretty much every woman has pierced ears now and many girls have them done at quite young ages.

Is there anybody left like me who doesn’t have pierced ears?

I used to but they’ve closed up, cause I didn’t wear earrings for too long.
When I got mine done at 14, my granny who was in her 70s decided to get her’s done too. She lived for another 20 years, wore her earrings everyday and had a great time picking & buying them off QVC.
It’s never too late if you’d like them done.

Illbethereinaminute · 17/01/2026 20:16

I have a ton and would get more if they actually healed well. It's been one hell of a journey for all of my piercings, many have come out but some have stayed.

I do think the majority of women have one set though...

scottishGirl · 17/01/2026 19:59

I first had mine done when I was 5, but my ears didn't react well to the earrings (think my mum bought cheap earrings). So they were taken out and the holes closed over. I decided to get them pierced again age 30. Before this, I felt like you. Someone got me earrings prior to getting them pierced again for my birthday, as they'd assumed every adult female has pierced ears 🙈 was awkward!

Komododragonchocolatecoin · 17/01/2026 19:55

My mum wasn't allowed hers done till she could make her own choice at 18 (back in the 70s). She ended up with 3 in each year, lol.

I had mine done at Claire's accessories in 2000! I was 12.

Dd had hers done age 7, her choice. She's 14 now and still likes earrings.

So yes, I think it's definitely more acceptable now!

ScarletSwan · 17/01/2026 06:39

My mother really didn't approve but told me if I really wanted my ears pierced I could have it done. I think my mother was aware that she was an older parent and had been brought up with rather rigid ideas about what was proper and she had never had pierced ears. However, a girl in my class at high school had some raging infection from an ear piercing that snaked down her neck. It looked awful and she seemed to be left with a lot of scarring afterwards despite what I assume was aggressive antibiotic therapy. I told my mother I had no intention of having my ears pierced. I suppose my real problem though was when you took the earrings out you had rather ugly looking holes in your ear lobes so you were sort of stuck wearing earrings. I collect antique screw earrings - much less painful than clip fittings. Of course I have given birth to one child who now wears a nose ring! The other non-nose ring wearer child is utterly opposed to any piercing of body parts - some sort of atavistic throwback to his grandmother..

Amba1998 · 16/01/2026 22:12

I don’t

I just don’t get jewellery

it took me ages to get used to my engagement and wedding ring

piercing children’s ears is just something I can and will never get on board with. Particularly babies and toddlers. It’s pure vanity from the parents.

when my child wants them doing she can when she gets to high school age.

RafaFan · 16/01/2026 22:10

My parents imposed a kind of arbitrary rule that my sister and I weren't allowed to get our ears pierced until we were 14 (1980s). No idea why this age was deemed okay. We both wasted no time getting them done with great excitement (in Debenhams) when we reached 14! I've had long periods in my adult life where I never bothered wearing earrings though.

My daughter (9) wants hers done, and I'm thinking the time is right -lots of her friends have had theirs done in the last year or so. Our local piercing place won't do any piercings unless the person is old enough to understand and consent.

PricklyPear42 · 16/01/2026 18:34

I'm interested to see where the whole "more than one piercing is common" idea is going right now with the explosion in the popularity of cartilage piercings and all the expensive brands you can buy now. So you still have alternative-style piercings and jewellery and some styles still look tacky, but there are also pretty, dainty piercings from places like Astrid and Miyu and super expensive stuff from Maria Tash. So it's not so easy to make stereotypes any more.

TreeDudette · 16/01/2026 15:26

I had mine pierced as a teenager, found out I am allergic to anything except solid gold, got a nasty infection, let the holes heal. Haven't been able to wear an earing for 25+ years so I'd call myself non-pierced now!

StarlightLady · 16/01/2026 13:55

Squirrel60 · 16/01/2026 13:33

And also clip-on earrings, too, another UGH!

You spelt ouch wrong! 😅
[Lighthearted]

Squirrel60 · 16/01/2026 13:33

And also clip-on earrings, too, another UGH!

Squirrel60 · 16/01/2026 13:31

I'm 60 and never had it done.

I detest piercings of any sort on any part of the body/head/face, it turns my stomach, and also those ''CD's'' in the ears or great big holes in them. UGH!

Pantah630 · 16/01/2026 13:27

Me

PhantomOfAllKnowledge · 16/01/2026 12:44

StarlightLady · 16/01/2026 12:29

I can’t stress the importance of avoiding a piercing gun enough. I have a total of 6 piercings (3 on ears) and they have been trouble free. Friend had 2 gun lobe piercings and lots of problems.

Mine were done with a piercing gun 40 years ago and I've never had a single issue with them. I'd been expecting it to hurt but it was painless. Obviously I have no idea about modern piercing guns. It wouldn't surprise me if the quality of them or the earrings that go with them has deteriorated, like the quality of everything else.

StarlightLady · 16/01/2026 12:29

SpongyNight · 16/01/2026 10:45

I am 52 and wasn’t allowed pierced ears until I was 16. Most of my friends were allowed at 12/13.

I honestly can’t remember if I had them done or not then - if I did I let close up fairly soon as I definitely had them pierced again when I was 22/23. One didn’t seem straight/was hard to get an earring in and I rarely wear any jewellery so it seemed a bit of a hassle…so they closed up.
I am planning on trying again - this time with a needle at a piercing studio rather than piercing gun.

I can’t stress the importance of avoiding a piercing gun enough. I have a total of 6 piercings (3 on ears) and they have been trouble free. Friend had 2 gun lobe piercings and lots of problems.

SpongyNight · 16/01/2026 10:45

I am 52 and wasn’t allowed pierced ears until I was 16. Most of my friends were allowed at 12/13.

I honestly can’t remember if I had them done or not then - if I did I let close up fairly soon as I definitely had them pierced again when I was 22/23. One didn’t seem straight/was hard to get an earring in and I rarely wear any jewellery so it seemed a bit of a hassle…so they closed up.
I am planning on trying again - this time with a needle at a piercing studio rather than piercing gun.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 15/01/2026 18:16

BertieWoostersChaps · 14/01/2026 18:32

I find it funny that some people's parents thought it was "common". The late Queen and all the royal family ladies have all seemed to have had pierced ears for decades now!

I'm in my fifties, it wasn't considered 'common' unless you had more than one piercing where I was growing up.

StarlightLady · 15/01/2026 18:12

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 15/01/2026 16:17

That’s just your observation. Plenty of working class and ‘underclass’ (for lack of better term) women have belly button piercings or lip piercings. Eyebrows. Not just arty types at all.

Assumption. But source and evidence? @BauhausOfEliott do not day “just” arty types.

HarvestMouseandGoldenCups · 15/01/2026 16:17

BauhausOfEliott · 14/01/2026 17:07

multiple piercings is different

Multiple piercings are most prevalent among middle-class arty/alternative types. It's not a 'common' class thing at all.

That’s just your observation. Plenty of working class and ‘underclass’ (for lack of better term) women have belly button piercings or lip piercings. Eyebrows. Not just arty types at all.

Disturbia81 · 15/01/2026 16:10

No I know quite a lot who wear clip ons.

thefamous5 · 15/01/2026 16:08

Thinking about my family - my mum has hers pierced, my nan did, I know for sure my one sister in law does but im not sure about the other one (even though I've known her for 20 years!).

thefamous5 · 15/01/2026 16:05

I have pierced ears, since I was 7 (40 now). Also got my nose, lip and tongue pierced.

My daughter (only 6) has said she never wants hers pierced.

CustardySergeant · 15/01/2026 15:49

I don't have pierced ears (or pierced anything).

StarlightLady · 15/01/2026 15:46

Netcurtainnelly · 15/01/2026 14:29

If there was meant to be holes there would be.

You could say that about anything body wise.

A nice pair of earrings enhances your look.
I mean one pair not loads.

My problem is I lose them.

This.

You could apply the same logic to clothes and walk around naked in the winter.