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To consider redundancy with an unemployed husband

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Anon46 · 13/01/2026 21:13

Background: I've been offered voluntary redundancy from my job working for the Government. I earn £40k with a rise every year. My payout would be in the region of £50-55k after tax. I'm currently on maternity leave. I rent privately in London (£1300pcm) and have approx £260k in my savings account.

Pros of leaving:
£50-55k is a lot of money.
I would need to get childcare if I returned to work (and my husband found a job) instead so a large chunk of my take home pay would be spent on that. Not to mention being knackered from running around doing the nursery drop offs.
I don't really enjoy the job. It's a low skilled job that I fell into about 20 years ago and it made sense to stay as it paid the bills. I was looking forward to going on maternity leave for a long time.
I only have to wait 6 months before returning to a Government job if I want to avoid repaying the redundancy compensation. It's worth noting that it's much harder to get a job nowadays and the majority of jobs tend to get filled by internal candidates.
A HUGE pro IMO: I run the risk of returning from maternity leave and realising that I either don't like what my job has become whilst I was away or childcare costs make going to work a bit pointless therefore leaving at a later date with no payout i.e. I would be better off leaving now and getting a large amount of money instead of returning to work for six months and leaving empty handed.

Cons of leaving:
I have a relatively easy job which is well paid for what I actually do and I WFH for part of the week. I could get a job elsewhere doing the same work as it's non specialised however I doubt I would earn the same. The Government tends to pay quite well for my kind of work.
I have a defined benefit pension, 33 days annual leave plus bank holidays. You get the jist. It's a pretty family friendly & flexible place to work.
I have a laid back manager who doesn't micro manage me. Although she could leave at any moment of course.
My husband is unemployed. He used to have a very well paid job but lost it several years ago. He has spent the past year applying for jobs in his field without success. He's now applying for supermarket jobs to get some money coming in. He's reliant on me financially as he's spent his savings. Ideally he would get another well paid job meaning that he wouldn't be available for childcare anymore. But I have a week to decide on redundancy and who knows how long it will take him to find a job.
Making myself unemployed means even less chance of getting a mortgage.
My aforementioned savings rule me out of claiming any benefits (my husband is also ineligible because of this too).

OP posts:
RandomMess · 13/01/2026 21:32

With £260k any chance you could move away from London and buy a home outright?

Clonakilla · 13/01/2026 21:30

There is no way, no way in hell, that I’d have two parents without an income in a house with a dependent child.

Ihatemondays1962 · 13/01/2026 21:28

Arlanymor · 13/01/2026 21:19

You have a £260k buffer - that's incredible. Plus with the payout it would exceed £300k. I think both you and he can survive on that for quite some time before needing to seek employment!

The £260000 would be better used trying to get on the property ladder rather than living expenses for an unknown amount of time.

MuyPuy · 13/01/2026 21:28

I wouldn’t want to be in a position where no one in the family was bringing in a wage. You don’t know what it round the corner and I wouldn’t want to rely on a savings pot that could go a long way to securing a comfortable retirement.

PrettyBigThings · 13/01/2026 21:27

If that’s £260k and not a typo then I am not too sure what the worry is about. Though am interested that they’re not viewed as joint as you talk about your DH having spent all his savings.

cestlavielife · 13/01/2026 21:27

What size flat do you get for 1300?
Redundancy gives you a bit more than 12 months salary.
Then what?
What is the plan with the 260k?
You are fairly young right?

MermaidMummy06 · 13/01/2026 21:26

I had a similar situation with my last job. Made redundant on mat leave & took it for the money. It was a cruisy job & excellent pension & benefits. I couldn't stay in that role but they did have a vacancy elsewhere I could have filled.

I regret it, tbh. It's too hard to get back into govt now, and I work private for half the money, no benefits unless law, and discrimination and opportunities are terrible because I'm now part time.

So look at what is out there first. If your role is good, stay. I get it, part of my reason for leaving was to see what else was out there & it had gone from a badge of honour to embarrassing to say I worked somewhere for so long. I wish I'd stayed!

Ipsevenenabibas · 13/01/2026 21:23

Sorry who pays rent when they have £260k sat in their account?

Arlanymor · 13/01/2026 21:19

You have a £260k buffer - that's incredible. Plus with the payout it would exceed £300k. I think both you and he can survive on that for quite some time before needing to seek employment!

Ihatemondays1962 · 13/01/2026 21:17

I would keep your job. Whether you like it or not after you go back is pretty much irrelevant when you have bills to pay. If your husband hasn't found a job in several years then I don't think you can rely on him any time soon.