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I’ve never had a smear test and I don’t want one either

958 replies

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:18

Controversial I guess, I’m 36.
I don’t think it’s necessary, as I’ve read about my risk factors and I don’t meet the criteria. All the men I’ve slept with (without protection) were virgins and yes I know they were for sure.
I also have no family history of any cancer.
My partner has prostate cancer in both sides of his family, his dad has it currently and he’s not even been offered a screening test for this.
I find this so frustrating and contradictory when women and men are treated so differently and if you refuse smear or breast screening you’re seen as an awful person, and those who do are morally superior.
Men aren’t coerced into invasive internal examinations.
I have an aversion to having things inserted in me internally and feel I have a right to that decision regarding my body.
There are home tests for HPV available, which I have done myself in the past - all clear.
My question is why do they persist with this archaic procedure when there are other options available?

I keep getting phone calls from my GP surgery trying to persuade me to book a test. I don’t understand why they’re always pushing it, but just totally dismiss other medical issues, which has been my experience several times.
Do they get extra commission for this or something?
There are even pop up ‘clinics’ and drop in sessions going ahead near me.

Of course I know I’ll be bombarded with replies saying I’m selfish, stupid and uneducated. I’ve even read other women saying that those who refuse should be denied any medical care!
But I have done my research and I am more than aware of the implications.

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Didimum · 13/01/2026 18:23

All the men I’ve slept with (without protection) were virgins

Condoms don’t offer protection against HPV. So yes, you likely have been exposed to HPV.

Look, it’s your right not to have it. But your dislike of it doesn’t mean it’s any less of a sensible idea.

NHS are always going to be focused on prevention, so of course they will try to insist on a preventative test.

Cookingupmyfirstbornson · 13/01/2026 18:22

Thanks for informing us I guess

Pallisers · 13/01/2026 18:22

My favourite phrase: "I've done my research"

Not sure what your AIBU is. You can do whatever you want with your own health. Just ignore the GP etc.

SwanRivers · 13/01/2026 18:21

Errrrm....ok?

Crack on?

Not really sure what we're supposed to say to this announcement?

It's your life, not ours 🤷‍♂️

Millindugu · 13/01/2026 18:21

I don’t think anyone thinks you’re awful person. It’s your life and it’s your body that it affects. If you don’t want screening don’t have it. But I’m glad the option is there for those of us that do

ContentedAlpaca · 13/01/2026 18:21

Its useful for people to know there are less intrusive alternatives.

Dartmoorcheffy · 13/01/2026 18:21

What do you want us to say?

Its your choice. I agree its an unpleasant thing to have done but its very easily treatable when caught early.

Wingingit73 · 13/01/2026 18:20

🫣