To think that there are too many judgemental, purposely hurtful comments on MN?!

If you post in AIBU then some people will probably tell you that YABU.

Oh no are women not being kind enough for you 🙄🙄🙄

You originally wrote "Other forms of entertainment are available" before editing your post @TeenToTwenties and I think you'd struck on the heart of the matter originally.

@JacquesHarlow No I didn't, it was a different poster who wrote that.

Absolutely. I've just read the most patronising response I've seen in a while about how to dispose of household waste. (which was not what the poster was asking for).

I'm not articulate enough to explain how I view it, other than to just say it's easy to be a "perfect" version of yourself when nobody knows who you are, and with that comes the opportunity to remind people why they aren't. If these were real life interactions, they'd be totally different.

Edit to add - it's the internet. You have to learn to take everything with a pinch of salt and laugh at the nonsense. There's no benefit to taking things personally.

Yes, this again. I think it needs to be said and I respect @Glitterballofdreams for saying it.

Off you trot then?

Not this again.

AIBU is robust, and yes does have blunt comments, but no one has to read threads on it.

Yeah ok....except that every week I see people who post in AIBU "for traffic" and who treat AIBU as if it is Mumsnet in its entirety. So there is that too - it's not that I disagree, but I think many people come here first or often in their Mumsnet browsing journey.

But I also think this is a bit of a specious argument. So many people over the years have tried to portray AIBU as some sort of arena of battle, and if you don't like the heat, get out of the proverbial kitchen.

Does it have to be that way?

You originally wrote "Other forms of entertainment are available" before editing your post @TeenToTwenties and I think you'd struck on the heart of the matter originally.

That AIBU has become entertainment to people. They want to see an OP torn down, made to feel silly etc.

So certain posters feel emboldened to get in first on a thread and give the person's "head a wobble" as soon as they can.

I hate it personally - I think you can do so much more for a person by just showing them where they could have faulty thinking, rather than saying "You sound delightful" or "You sound awful to live with" etc.

Yes, this post gets made every couple of weeks and yes people have gotten nastier on here over the last few years. I honestly think some people take pride in being part of the "vipers nest" and think making sly, bitchy comments makes them look ever so cool and clever.

Not sure why or what causes it, but when I see it I just feel sorry for them. Imagine having such a miserable life that you get your jollies by kicking someone when they're down. And you know these people wouldn't be able to look you in the eye and say hello at the same time in real life, they're only so nasty and smug because they think this forum is anonymous and they're safe from repercussion.

I'll give it to Mumsnet though I actually took a break for about 4 months because I was so sick of how rude and horrible people are, and since coming back it does seem they're cracking down on it more - I'm definitely seeing a lot more rude comments being removed. So that's something.

To expand on my comment.
I don't see this so much because I mainly use boards such as Education where people try to be helpful.
AIBU is robust, and yes does have blunt comments, but no one has to read threads on it.

Men get dragged down just as fast on here.

I object to your framing of 'women dragging down other women'. I seeing more as a wide range of personality types commenting. No one is forced to create a thread.

Other forms of entertainment are available.

I think it's the internet/social media in general. It's very very easy to reply in that manner when you're relatively anonymous. It's pathetic really.

If you read the "comments" sections on news it's equally as awful.

Ahaha it didn't take long @Glitterballofdreams .....

I've noticed it increase in the last three years. Very much so @Glitterballofdreams

It's the case that if someone comes on and says something in a vulnerable or "is this fair?" tone, you'll get loads of people queuing up to say "why would you ask this OP?", "you sound judgemental" etc

posts worded in polite language but designed to crush and humiliate the OP.

What you'll ironically get on this thread however are lots of those "I haven't noticed this OP you must be sensitive" posts.... so there's that!

Yabu. Read a wider range of boards.