To think that there are too many judgemental, purposely hurtful comments on MN?!

Totally agree OP. The tone on here is SO different to when I first joined 14 years ago. And I’m on another forum on fb and people there are respectful, kind and offer supportive advice so I’m not sure why mumsnet is like this now.
I posted for some advice when my son was small about something I’d got wrong and I was upset and received nothing but support. I wouldn’t dream of posting a personal issue now as I’d be ripped to shreds and would make me feel 10 times worse.
Think it’s reflective of how much we’re all struggling as a society especially post pandemic.

MN should have a LTB board, a step by step guide board for getting your ducks in a row and a bat shit board!

A recent thread I counted 30 post describing the object of the thread as batshit. OMG, I am laughing at the thought.

No one said they shouldn't be allowed to, did they? I think some of us just wonder what they get out of doing it.

I think it's been awful recently. I seriously considered just coming off MN completely last week as the tone and nastiness was awful. Even had to name change and hide a couple of threads I'd posted opinions on as replies were just nasty and bitchy. Maybe I'm too sensitive.

But my point is, women should be able to post what they like (within legal limits). If they want to be a tosspot then why should they be censored?

🤷🏻‍♀️ OP isn’t kind, she’s come on the forum to lecture women. She doesn’t have to be kind because she’s superior to everyone.

I think they're completely different in real life , backgrounders . They come on here because they want attention .

Well I’m glad it’s amusing because these threads pop up weekly about how women aren’t behaving and well enough and they should all shut up and do what they are told.

There's too many everything on MN.

Too many trolls.
Too many creeps.
Too may beggars.
Too many using AI.
Too many mean comments.
Too many ops that are goody or rage baiting or just pathetic.

I think people are fed up.

Is there a need for abusive names

That's a bit unkind

Sometimes if you post on the appropriate board you’re lucky to get one comment

Not to mention the “this post isn’t real and I’m reporting it for being fake” comments under practically every post even when it’s something extremely unshocking and believable

The nitpicking over grammar is the worst. Many a time a post has been made where someone’s life is falling apart but due to poor SPAG they get torn to shreds.
Soul destroying to see. Sometimes you can tell the poster is quite young and naive asking for advice and getting absolutely slated by what I assume is majority commenters who are twice the ops age.

Yes also to the “leave your husband” comments because he left a coffee cup on the side. Nevermind the mortgage and three kids.

I just think people don't like being told they're wrong or people having a different opinion to them

YANBU - I find a lot of people needlessly unkind on here, more so than other forums.

You forgot 'and leave your husband'. Ps minger is my favourite word ever

I was agreeing with her but if you’ve come here looking for support and kindness you won’t find it abundance. What you will find is some of it mixed in with a whole load of other nastiness, derailing etc. you’ve got to be thick skinned to stick his place, or just read and don’t post.

I don't think that all posters should be sugary and nice if they disagree, but insulting others intelligence and mocking their choices has to be the pits. As is twisting their words.

Yes this was my thought also. After there were some comments made about MN re the “trans debate” in the public arena, it seemed to me there was an increase in the “less supportive/gentle” posts. I did wonder if TRAs or men who don’t like MN generally (because it supports women) had started trying to disrupt the site more. Trying to make the site overall less supportive or welcoming to vulnerable women could be a potential goal for them. For that reason I do tend to ignore all personal attacks now and assume the worst of them (i.e. they are trying to create a fight between women in order to stop us supporting each other). When a thread derails with a side argument that has nothing to do with the OP I also wonder if two “disrupters” have ended up talking to each other! In real life I don’t know any women who would talk to another woman that way. Granted, the keyboard does encourage less polite discourse and I do see it in FB forums (and in those cases women seem to engage in it almost as much as men) but still I do think it could be a deliberate tactic and hopefully MN are able to intervene when needed. Disagreement on the site should be encouraged, robust disagreement even, but it can still be done in a thoughtful and supportive way.

I roll my eyes at all the endless LTB replies to trivia, but if someone asks for random message board opinions, then that’s what they get. 🤷‍♀️

Sometimes, you just have to work it out for yourself. 👍

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Indeed. Sometimes the person posting responds with "I thought Mumsnet was meant to be a helpful place..." Well yes, on the forums designed for specific interests and issues.

AIBU is where people get told they're being unreasonable and many times they don't like it and cry "pile on".

I'm not so sure. There are lots of posters who make up their own imaginary scenarios that were not in the OP and berate posters for them, and lots more posters who are absolutely vile for no reason, as in it's not a case of them just not saying what the OP wants to hear or disagreeing robustly, they are completely disgusting and I think they make a sport of it.

Of course, there are lots of men who do that too and are equally as vile, although thankfully, there are few of them on this particular platform.