To be furious at my ‘supposedly’ best friend?

Maybe she was strong armed into making her sister her MOH and your pregnancy just an excuse?

Frankly, if this is how the OP responds to a minor setback, I imagine Beelzebub would take a step back, saying 'Oh, you know, never mind the whole deal with the devil thing -- just stop shrieking.'

Try to think of your friend. She may well be thinking of the family fallout of snubbing her sister in favour of you, and expects that you will understand this. My husband was best man at all 3 of his groomsmen's weddings, but his brother was his best man. Blood is thicker than water at the end of the day, and it is far easier to justify choosing the sibling.

I know you are hurting, but this is about the bride and groom and their families. If you can't get past this I'm not sure you're being a true friend.

Ate you seriously expecting her to honour a deal that she made when she was six and probably can't even remember saying?

IIRC I had a deal with my BFF in primary school that when we were grown ups we'd live together in a mansion with a swimming pool and make and sell friendship bracelets for a living. We are still very good friends but that hasn't come to pass. Guess I'd better let her know that she owes me.

This is utterly ridiculous. Crying all day? You are about to become a parent and you haven’t learnt how to regulate your emotions?
Why is being a maid of honour so important for you? Don’t you have enough going on in your life?
You have some serious growing up to do.

Oh for God's sake. Unless this 'deal' was made at a crossroads at midnight in the presence of Beelzebub himself, it means bugger all in the grown-up world. I don't mean to be nasty but have you lead a fairly sheltered existence to date? Because if you're like this over this, I dread to think how you'll cope with the actual setbacks and adversity that life throws everybody's way. You're going to be a bridesmaid and can still be very involved in stuff, let it go.

I don’t think you need to be upset. You have a thoughtful lovely friend who does not want to stress you out. She has still made you a bridesmaid. And the person she chose is not some random stranger but her own sister whom she is obviously very close to. I think you are being very unreasonable, might be the pregnancy hormones.

How old are you? 14? Let her choose who she wants. Jeez

What even is maid of honour anyway?! I had 2 bridesmaids and neither was more bridesmaidy than the other, as was the case when I was their bridesmaid along with other friends they had.

You’re literally a bridesmaid!!

As a single child I don’t think you can truly know that…
Blood is thicker than water. Life isn’t fair sometimes. Promises made as children can’t be held onto. Let it go, accept her decision and grow up a bit. There are so many bigger issues in life

That's easy to say when you don't have a sister so didn't have to make a choice.

Try to imagine how her sister would have felt if she had been the one deprived of the opportunity to be maid of honour to her own sister.

That would have been your decision but you can't say that 100% because you can't say what sort of relationship you would have had with a sister.

Your friend doing it though didn't mean she had to follow through on giving you the same role for her wedding.

Well, your friend chose differently.

And of course you can help how you feel. Tell yourself you're being ridiculous, like a six year old being told she can't come to a sleepover.

Think you're over-reacting. Most women choose sisters first to be MOH. Just be happy you were included as bridesmaid and don't ruin a lifelong friendship by spitting the dummy.

Ah, but did you seal the deal with blood, that´s what makes the difference...

So, sister as maid of honour, "distant cousins" as bridesmaids. This is a family wedding.

Sorry OP, but you're coming across badly here, with the whole "But we had a deal" - struck at secondary school, so as teenagers.

I am so sad and feel bereft in a way I’m never going to have the chance of being ‘chief bridesmaid’ (don’t meant to get into the terminology again) for anyone. I’m never going to be able to organise a hen-do or be the have that special place in helping the bride get ready on the big day itself.

There is an infinitely broad range of human experiences. We don’t all get to experience every single one of them. And that is ok.

Are you old enough to take care of a baby ? Time to grow up.

Some people get super pressured by family for wedding things. I had to have dh cousin as she was probably never getting the chance to be a bridesmaid 🙄🙄🙄🤣🤣🤣🤣 Maybe her family have said it should be her sister and she’s going along with it.

I've never heard of a bridesmaidzilla until now. If it was my wedding and I got wind of your feelings (it's not your day!) I'd run a mile from your main character syndrome bullshit.

You may be long term best friends but do you seriously expect her to choose you over her sister?