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To be furious at my ‘supposedly’ best friend?

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missblueberrypie · 12/01/2026 23:35

My ‘’best friend’’ is getting married in a few months. We’ve known each other since primary school and we always had an agreement that when we get married we would have each other as our maid of honours. I kept up my end of the bargain when I married my DWife three years ago. I fully expected that I would receive the same honour but apparently not. I found out that I will be a bridesmaid whilst her sister is the maid of honour. I might be overreacting but I am quite upset and frankly furious. I thought we knew each other better than this and I don’t know if the relationship will ever be the same tbh. I was even more heartbroken when she said that the reason behind this snub is the fact that I am pregnant and would not be able to put 100% effort into wedding planning. What should I do going forward?

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Sellingsunsets · 12/01/2026 23:39

I mean ..it's her sister fgs, I don't think she's being unreasonable. It would be more of a kick in the teeth if it was another friend over you but it's her actual flesh and blood. I think you might be a tiny bit over reacting.

PurpleLovecats · 12/01/2026 23:39

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DoIdriveaVauxhallZafira · 12/01/2026 23:39

This is not worth losing a friendship over, especially a lifelong one.

Are you pissed off or are you hurt?

People to do tend to choose their sisters as MOH, imagine being her sister and not being MOH...

It isn't a snub to you.

Oneforallandallforone · 12/01/2026 23:38

You are behaving like a crazy person.

Please do not ruin a longterm friendship over a promise you made in primary school.

OhBumBags · 12/01/2026 23:38

Lol at 'might' be overreacting.

Sisters tend to get first dibs on MOH.

You're a bridesmaid, you should be pleased to be included.

OrangeKettle · 12/01/2026 23:36

Seriously? You’re not at primary school now.