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How would you feel if your partner wanted a career that you didn’t want him to have

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Daisychain67 · 12/01/2026 20:10

I’ve been with my partner since we were teenagers (now 29) and his ultimate dream has always been to be a famous rapper, I’ve known this since I first met him but was obviously really young back then and thought it was ‘cool’.

We’ve got an 8yo daughter together and the older I have got the more mature I have got and the more I just want a quiet life with my family, no fame, no dramas, just me and my family. We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes.

I heard him earlier today in the shower and some of his lyrics were about women and how they basically want him and how attractive they are, I’ve told him before that I’m not comfortable with things like that but it’s always brushed off and I’m told if I don’t like it leave him. I haven’t said anything to him yet as I’m not sure whether to or not.

I’m just not sure if this is what I want but I love him and want him to do what he loves. Am I being unreasonable as I’ve known this is what he’s always wanted for a long time?

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SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 14/01/2026 18:52

Hatty65 · 12/01/2026 20:12

We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes.

Just dump him. He's not going to be famous and he sounds dreadful! It takes more than shouting shit about women to be a rapper. He's getting on a bit in years, too, to make it in the music industry.

Indeed.

This in spades.

MibsXX · 14/01/2026 18:51

Daisychain67 · 12/01/2026 21:15

I’m dead😂 this has actually cheered me up thank you 😂😂

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Be sure to print that verse out and pop it in his lunchbox/strategically drop on bathroom floor, or somesuch

Sallyssn · 14/01/2026 18:47

Please send the rap!! to him and tell us the response.

BoxingHare · 14/01/2026 18:45

titchy · 12/01/2026 21:59

Let me guess - he’s a great dad right? 🙄

They always are aren't they, these deadbeats?

CheeseyOnionPie · 14/01/2026 18:42

He sounds like the male version of Honey G.

mindutopia · 14/01/2026 18:42

He sounds like a turd, frankly.

Also if he was going to have a ‘career’ as a ‘rapper’ 🤣 he’d have it by 29. That ship has sailed.

TheAverageJoanne · 14/01/2026 18:41

Whizz him out the window.

I know it's not laughing matter but I did laugh at how ridiculous he is.

Let him rap off down the road.

Mugtree · 14/01/2026 18:40

I agree with others, it doesn't sound like the rapping is the issue.

catlover123456789 · 14/01/2026 18:36

29 and wants to be a rapper..... LOL.

Crushed23 · 12/01/2026 22:37

MasterBeth · 12/01/2026 20:14

Well, he's not going to have a career as a famous rapper, is he? So your dilemma is actually "How would you feel if your partner was a juvenile, sexist twat?"

This.

I know of a woman who is trying to make it as a pop star at the age of 32, out of nowhere. She has a 1 year-old baby that she’s the primary carer of and no history of singing, although she did go to dance school. I wish her the best of luck and admire her for trying, but I can’t imagine thinking I can become successful in an obscenely competitive industry in my 30s with no history/background. How great it must be to be that delusional….!

BonneMaman77 · 12/01/2026 22:05

He has told you to leave if you don’t like his path, so why does it matter if you want him to have the career or not?
Your question surely is whether you should stay with a man who doesn’t respect you?

Alltheyellowbirds · 12/01/2026 22:05

While he’s dreaming of being a rapper, does he have an actual job? Is he contributing to the household or are you supporting his dream?

Pinkissmart · 12/01/2026 22:02

Is there any chance of him ‘making it’? Is he starting to earn money with his music, or at least gaining momentum?

titchy · 12/01/2026 21:59

Let me guess - he’s a great dad right? 🙄

StCuntyMcCunterson · 12/01/2026 21:58

Respectfully, I really don’t think you have to worry about him getting a career you don’t want him to have. Sounds like he’s never grown up… unless you’re about to tell us that he has an agent and a tour booked.

he’s cheated - that’s reason enough to leave. Does he pay bills or is he a struggling artist too?

you deserve more Flowers

QuietLifeNoDrama · 12/01/2026 21:33

I voted YABU but only cause your still with someone who has cheated, is mean to you, is selfish and has told you to leave if you don’t like what he’s saying. He has no respect for you. Is this the kind of relationship you want to model for your DC?

coconutchocolatecream · 12/01/2026 21:31

Yeah, I don't think you need to worry about him making his big break and becoming famous. The cheating, poor relationship skills, and cringe-inducing lyrics are the real problems here.

aCatCalledFawkes · 12/01/2026 21:31

Is this actually likely to happen? Does he actually do any sort of gigs etc.
Just saying that my 14yr old has finally conceded he's not going to be rapper after thinking it was an easy career choice at school but still wants to have music lesson etc....

grumpygrape · 12/01/2026 21:27

Daisychain67 · 12/01/2026 20:10

I’ve been with my partner since we were teenagers (now 29) and his ultimate dream has always been to be a famous rapper, I’ve known this since I first met him but was obviously really young back then and thought it was ‘cool’.

We’ve got an 8yo daughter together and the older I have got the more mature I have got and the more I just want a quiet life with my family, no fame, no dramas, just me and my family. We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes.

I heard him earlier today in the shower and some of his lyrics were about women and how they basically want him and how attractive they are, I’ve told him before that I’m not comfortable with things like that but it’s always brushed off and I’m told if I don’t like it leave him. I haven’t said anything to him yet as I’m not sure whether to or not.

I’m just not sure if this is what I want but I love him and want him to do what he loves. Am I being unreasonable as I’ve known this is what he’s always wanted for a long time?

'I’m just not sure if this is what I want but I love him and want him to do what he loves. Am I being unreasonable as I’ve known this is what he’s always wanted for a long time?'

Well, you've given us reasons not to love him and why he doesn't love you so now tell us why you love him.....

UnhappyHobbit · 12/01/2026 21:22

Does he have a rapper name and is it MC Grindah?!

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Daisychain67 · 12/01/2026 21:15

SoScarletItWas · 12/01/2026 20:30

I’m sorry to use ChatGPT in a flippant, resource-wasting way, but sometimes it comes up with the perfect answer 😌🎤

You talk big bars, but you live off lies,
Claim you on the come-up, but I don’t see the rise.
While you chase groupies, I was holding you down,
Now you just another mixtape nobody found.

You said “don’t like it? Leave!,” and you stay off beat,
Can’t stay faithful, can’t stay making rent or heat.
I’m the realest verse you’ll never get back,
I evolved - meanwhile you still blaming the track.
Mic check: I’m gone, no encore, no plea,
I’m platinum in real life, you SoundCloud-free. 🔥

I’m dead😂 this has actually cheered me up thank you 😂😂

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CarrierbagsAndPJs · 12/01/2026 21:14

We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes
Surely this is the issue. You have low self esteme and poor boundaries. You don’t feel worthy of a decent partner.

Have him leave.

HippopotamusForChristmas · 12/01/2026 21:04

A famous rapper 🤣

Nomorebullshitnotavailable · 12/01/2026 21:00

Ok I voted YABU because I thought the question was “AIBU to stay with this absolutely embarrassing twat”.

To be clear - I am cringing from afar, please leave this cheating, sexist, fart and no poo of a human. You and your daughter are actual people in their own rights, you both deserve a happy, secure and humiliation free life

goldenloafs · 12/01/2026 20:54

I wouldn't worry about it he's not going to be a famous rapper, not in this lifetime.

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