How would you feel if your partner wanted a career that you didn’t want him to have

Is he white British? If so he’s probably got a better chance of spontaneously combusting than he does of becoming a famous rapper.

Omg he sounds like an absolute tosser. He's fantasising about being young, cool and desirable. Hes already been unfaithful. His lyrics are revealing his inner thoughts about other women. Yuk.

Yanbu

You’ve out grown him. Leave with your head held high !

what is his day job? I’m assuming he doesn’t actually make any money off rapping?
But, yes….obviously leave he’s sounds like a right dickhead

I'd be extremely embarrassed if my partner was musician/entertainer of any sort. But he wouldn't, so...re first poster, as most of the time.

Many boys I went to school with are still trying to “make it as a rapper”. They are all in their 40’s, single and alone.

run. Run away.

I doubt his music is going to blow up passed the age of 30

I was with someone like this for a few years. He wanted to be a rock musician and he certainly had the talent and charisma, but was also a bit of an arsehole like your DP, and very unfocused. Years on, his life has gradually disintegrated. Part of growing up is getting to understand how much effort is required to realise your dreams, and learning which dreams no longer serve us.

Sorry op he sounds a bloody awful selfish twat tbh. Op he cheats is mean to you and tells you to leave and you still love him. He doesn’t respect you or love you. He wouldn’t treat you badly if he did. He’s obviously not scared of losing you.
He would hook up with loads of women if he was famous maybe that’s why he’s wants to be. Do you love yourself op? Because I don’t understand why you keep going he’s a proper bellend. When people say how they love someone so much it hurts if he eventually left you for someone else you wouldn’t have a choice your love would mean nothing to him. You would get over him eventually. so you could consider this now while you’re able to.

You have a man-child. He's not really grown up, and is still chasing a pipe dream. He's not going to be a rapper; he's living in cloud cuckoo land. On top of the immaturity, he's a cheat and can be nasty towards you. Why exactly are you still with him????!! He sounds utterly dreadful. You can do far better than him and you definitely deserve better. I'd take him at his word, and leave!!

You dont have to stay with him you can choose not too but if a man tried to control a woman like this people would go on about red flags galore, it is not different when a woman tries to control a man no matter how you dress it up into something fancy

My OH does some flight instruction as a hobby and always says he would love to jack in his job and do it all the time. I make my feelings quite plain on it that I would not be happy about him leaving me and DC for days at a time, making me do all the parenting, irregular work patterns and constant monitoring of health which drives me insane.

He sounds like Grindah from People Just Do Nothing.

This.
Why would you want to stay with this unpleasant man and especially, have your daughter learn from him what is a man?
Please, get some self respect and get him out of your life

This isn’t a joke OP. You’ve got a daughter? And this is what she is learning about relationships from him and from you?

Yep this is key honestly - I wouldn’t care about singing in the shower (I often sing along to inappropriate songs, doesn’t mean anything).

I would care deeply about the cheating, and would also care if DH was basically a deluded cocklodger refusing to get a job in case he made it big one day. Both of those are worthy of slinging him out.

Poor child with a misogynistic twit as a father.
He sounds like a deluded narc.
Cut your losses.
Your daughter deserves better and so do you.

We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’ sometimes.

When you say you love him do you really? Or are you just used to saying that? If we’re not careful we do tend to believe our own shit. I only ask because you don’t seem to like him (and I don’t blame you, he sounds awful). You’d be doing your DD a huge favour by ditching him and getting her out of this ridiculous environment.

He sounds like an immature twat. Unless he's actively making money now he hasn't got a hope in hell of doing it now.

Given his less than stellar behaviour to date I'd be seriously giving the relationship serious consideration. How much does he contribute, both financially, practically and emotionally to your lives?

LOL

Is he contributing to the family finances - or are you supporting his pipe dream all these years?
Wanting to be a famous rapper - is not a career choice. It's a dream. If he hasn't made much progress toward realising that dream by 29 - it's not hugely likely to happen, as you probably know.
So - in your case - I'd not get hang up on the lyrics he raps in the shower. I'd be looking at your family budget and cutting off supporting the aspiring raper.

Reminds me that f that old meme…

Whenever I’m having a bad day I just remember that somewhere, someone I went to school with is still trying to make it as a rapper.

I feel like I've heard this before.

If he did , by some miracle, make it big as a rapper, do you think for one minute he’d stay with you?

You’ve been with him since you were very young, so you’re a blind to what a crap man he is (or sounds like) through lack of experience.

He cheats, is mean to you and tells you to leave him if you share an opinion he doesn’t like - none of this is good,

There is also something deeply tragic about an almost 30-year old man believing he is going to be a famous rapper. Incredibly unlikely, innit?

Please tell me this man child has a day job?