How would you feel if your partner wanted a career that you didn’t want him to have

Show him people just do nothing. Don’t be that woman

rapping in the shower lol. Does he have a real job OP?

Does he tell other people that he wants to be a rapper? I couldn’t cope. My sisters would disown me.

My fanny curled up and died reading about him. You deserve better.

Are you for real?

I thought this was going to be something actually realistic, not something in someone’s wild dreams

I’d like to be a billionaire and a supermodel. Doesn’t just happen.

is he even talented? Does he move in circles where he would even get produced?

Hes rapping in the shower ffs hardly going to be selling on gigs tomorrow is he

the issue you have is his behaviour towards you and women generally not his career dreams

There would be no coming back from the ick id have if my boyfriend wanted to be a rapper

that’s without the cheating

Well, I thought this was going to be someone who had dreams of becoming a barrister, police officer or stockbroker- something with god awful hours. Definitely did not have rapper on my radar! I’d honestly find it really cringeworthy. If he’s truly talented, I think he should have tried to make it work before starting a family. Now he has responsibilities, I don’t think it’s fair to start following this which in all likelihood will lead nowhere. Most ‘artists’ of any sort don’t make it.

Oh god op 😂😂😂 what on earth?!

My friends DP just wants to be "known" too. Hes done everything - been on reality shows, tried to launch various cologne/fashion/homeware ranges, hes tried being an artist, hes spunked thousands on coaching to become an influencer, done outrageous stunts etc to try and go viral......He just won't accept hes just an average, boring middle aged Joe. Hes utterly convinced hes going to make it one day.

Honestly listening to him just makes me want to cease existing 😂😂 hes been like this for 30 years. It doesnt get any better they just get more desperate.

Of all the people that seek fame, a tiny tiny minority succeed, so him becoming a famous rapper, while not impossible, is very unlikely. So you don't have to worry on that front.
But he's a cheating misogynist arsehole so best get rid anyway.

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Totally agree

This is it in a nutshell!

Is he 12? What a horrible role model for your child!

We’ve had a really up and down relationship, he’s been unfaithful to me in the past and mean and is very ‘me me me’

This, not the rapping, is the problem.

His interest in rapping is neither here nor there. He's never going to be a famous rapper. Forget about that. But what you do need to worry about is the fact that your boyfriend is a complete cunt who has cheated on you, is 'mean' to you and is selfish.

It's not a career, OP, it's a self-indulgent hobby.

Does he have a career as a famous rapper or just sing in the shower?
Because if he hasnt got a career as a rapper after in excess of 10 years of trying it unlikey to happen..
Does he have a career of any kind?
Honestly the lyrics are the last of your worries if he's a cheat and mean to you ,surely that's sufficient to know he doesnt love you and it's over?

I voted YANBU because I think you should do whatever you want. If you want to stay with him you probably can't stop him trying his rap dream (though the chances of him succeeding seem small to me, so if you do decide to stay I would say nothing at all on the subject - don't goad him into it by letting him know you don't approve).

If you decide you want to leave him, that's perfectly reasonable too.

This bloke sounds sad and tragic. Normally both those words aren’t needed but I feel they are here.

He’ll be an AMAZING dad!! OP, what do you love about him?

Leave him for your own mental health.

This is so pathetic, it's beyond words.

You don’t say what he currently does for a living and what he currently contributes financially to the family.

But regardless I think you are asking the wrong question, which should be”how would you feel if your partner and co-parent of your dc is mean and unfaithful”? To which the answer would be “I would feel that I would tell him to grow up and bugger off”

I'm not saying it's not going to happen, lest we forget Buster Merryfield, Uncle Albert in Only Fools did a whole career with Nat West, ending up as a manager before retiring taking up Am Dram and becoming famous.

But

The chances are pretty thin, virtually non existent - so with his rap career gone, what is he, a cheat and a nasty sod, bin him off!

I’m not one to stamp on anyone’s dreams but he’s married and has a child - he needs to step up and get a proper job. If he wants to change careers, he needs to opt for something achieve able and realistic. If he wants to continue with the music, fine, do it as a hobby and if something comes of it, also fine.

Aside from that, you need to dump him. Unfaithful, self-absorbed, and disrespectful.

I absolutely wouldn’t want to be with him.
However- he hasn’t changed. You have.