To ask if your brother/brothers had to help round the house when you were growing up?ere

Yes. Fucked me off big time. I STILL resent it and I’m 70+. I hated my brother for years because of this. Not really his fault.

Both me and my brother were asked to do the same chores (dishes, making beds, some cleaning, taking the rubbish out) and we were both whining about it. I guess I was a bit more compliant so did more. But I can't blame my mum, she tried with both of us. DB is still useless around the house as an adult.

I’ve got an older sister and a younger brother and my brother wasn’t expected to do anything at all. We were always told it was because he was a boy if we asked. He was very mollycoddled by my mother.

We moved when I was 7, but I can remember being in the house before that drying the dishes after dinner at night. Once we’d moved my sister and I took it in turns to dry the dishes or do the packed lunches for the next day, My mother never made us breakfast once we started secondary school because we were old enough to do our own, but she was still making his when he started work.

My parents had their own business so would often work late, either me or my sister would have to cook the tea. In the holidays we’d be expected to clean the whole house and do the laundry while he sat around like Lord Muck.

I’ve got 2 sons, they absolutely were not brought up like that. Having a penis does not stop anyone pulling their weight at home.

They did but more of the burden and expectation was on me as the only girl. Not only was I given more to do but I was also expected from a young age to know what needed doing before I was asked. My Brothers (one older one younger) would be praised for bringing down dirty plates from their rooms or dirty washing and were practically worshiped if they washed their own cups and plates. If I did that I'd have been admonished for not washing any other cutlery, cups or plates in the house that were unwashed, or if I didn't put them away and so on. I was often asked to prep meals before my parents got home form work and if I wasn't finished and tidied up by the time my mother got home she'd call me selfish for making her come home to a mess. This was even though she knew I had Music practice after school a few days a week.

Same goes for putting on washings, putting washings away, hoovering, dusting, going to the shops. It was always me. My parents would say " we expect more of you" as if it was an honour I had to live up to.

I grew up in the 80's and 90's and I'd say this attitude must have been standard given my experience of men my own age as flatmates or dating.

Late 80’s early 90’s it was me and brother as teens and we did the equal amount of chores, cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, you name it, we did it. Both our parents worked. My dad sometimes was on nights. Mum was out from 8-6. The mornings at half term were spent doing jobs.

Yes my younger brother did nothing, I asked my mum and she said “he’s a boy”’! Even though I did cleaning ironing and cooking, not all of it. And the odd thing was that my dad used to cook.

We all had to pull.our weight with the same chores on a rota basis and we were all born in the 60s. Having said that both my dad and his father(born in 1898) were perfectly comfortable doing the ironing and washing up or helping prepare dinner, so.males doing jobs in the house wasn't anything unusual.

Not so much cleaning, he went to the shops all the time for DM and babysat, yes, he was helpful.
1 boy, 4 girls, he is the eldest.

My mum specifically and regularly told me growing up that girls do cooking and cleaning and boys do DIY, put up the tent etc, although she never delegated any tasks to me. She taught me to cook, sew and iron (but didn't teach my brother) but other than cooking occasionally (I could / would cook a roast dinner single handedly from about age 12) I was never expected to do much other than lay the table and help clear. She also said that when dishing up/serving food to always serve the men first. To be fair she's 75 and a) not British born and b) was raised by her grandmother instead of her mother, so was presumably raised herself on the values from her grandmother's generation rather than the one immediately above. DH on the other hand - neither himself nor his sister were ever expected to do any chores at all, so fending for himself come university was an education in more ways than one...

No I don't think so. I'm pretty sure we were all expected to help. things got easier when my parents there first dishwasher and eventually they inherited enough that they employed cleaners. I definitely remember my Mum taught my brother to iron a shirt and later on he married someone who 100% expected him to do half the cleaning.

My dad has been known to get the hoover out on Christmas day and he does quite a bit of cooking sunday roasts and weekday meals - always red meat which my mum isn't keen on but she's happy to let him crack on with the cooking.

My brother sister and I all did chores and shared the animal care growing up in the 1970s.

In the winter for example we'd come home from school and one of us would go round drawing all the curtains to keep the heat in while another filled the coal skuttles and the third set the table and helped prep dinner.

DM didn't do dishes because she did more cooking. DF , DS DB and I all shared the washing up.

From about the age of 10 DB,DS and I took it in turns to make Saturday lunch because Mum worked mornings 6 days a week. Dad always cooked Sunday lunch and we all took it in turns to do Sunday tea.

We were all responsible for our own rooms, and during school holidays we had a chore rota with cleaning jobs on it that rotated around so we took it in turns to clean the bathroom, hoover , clean the brass or whatever was on the list for that week. Mum and dad did most, but we each had something to do as our contribution to family life.

Extra pocket money could be earned for doing other more onerous jobs too like washing the car, helping dig the allotment or helping with the ironing.

My parents never seemed to divide jobs by sex or gender. They both did everything if required and brought us up to do the same.

My brother and I both did everything around the house. Washing dishes, laundry, vacuuming, dusting, deep cleaning, light cooking, animal care, we were both expected to be doing it.

My mom did the mowing because she liked to.

Two brothers here and I was the only girl.
I had to help cook, clean, laundry and ironing, they did nothing.
They could have girlfriends over to sleep in the same rooms. This was not applied to me and my boyfriends.
Boys could eat unchecked, whereas my in take was monitored and I was reminded about gaining weight and "ballooning" if I ever asked for seconds.
As an adult I have to remind DM that men should be expected to contribute equally to childcare and house hold chores equally.
Such backwards views.
Written down it reads much worse than it felt at the time, I just accepted it.

We all did chores. No one got out of it.

I have boys and girls, again no one gets out of it. We all live here so all chip in.

Yes because thankfully neither of my parents acted like they did in the 1950s. Both my brothers had chores to and also my dad cooked meals, did housework and ironed our school uniforms.

I remember someone telling my mum she was lucky that she had a husband that "helped" round the house to which my mum replied that my dad wasn't "helping" given it was his house too and if he wanted to stay married to my mum then he'd be expected to contribute to the upkeep of it!

I was always expected to help with the housework and cleaning and my brother wasn't and there was no ambiguity about it - when I asked why he didn't have to help and I did, the answer was 'because he's a boy'. The jobs I had to do included tidying and cleaning his bedroom as well as my own, btw. This was in the 80s and yes, I did resent it, I did object and was told what an awful child I was for that. My mother admits she still automatically will serve men first at the dinner table and always give them the best cut of meat or the best of whatever food option is available. My father was beyond useless, never did a thing around the house and still believes that's right, and my brother has grown up absolutely fucking useless and selfish. He wonders why he struggles to find a decent woman and I point out that it's because he's a selfish manchild with very little to offer. He doesn't argue that point but still wonders why women aren't madly attracted to that, having been put on a pedestal by my mother all his life. My mother sees her sister behave the same way with her own son and daughter and criticises it endlessly, with no sense of irony whatsoever.

My mother can see now that it's not how things should be but still admits she can't stop herself from behaving that way.

My parents weren't strict on chores but certainly no child was treated any different because of their sex. My sister and I didn't do more than he did, or were expected to. Being the youngest, I possibly got away with doing the least, I dare say!
Editing to add - my siblings were born in the 80s, me in 90.

Wow ... that's really tough. Well done you for standing up for yourself. How old are you (ish) if you dont mind me asking?

He did the bins, fetching coal/sticks for the fire, did dome cooking occasionally. Always seemed to have to go to the toilet when the dishes needed done. I don’t recall him ever having to clean a bathroom.

Im 60+, 1 sister, 1 brother (middle child). All expected to do jobs.
Husband had to make his own sandwiches from aged 3 ... step upto kitchen counter as mum's brothers cod not do anything.

There were 4 of us, only 1 brother, he is the youngest.

He never did anything. Literally didn't even pick his own plate up after dinner.

Hes 48 now and out DM still treats him totally different to the rest of us.
Makes me sick!

No! My dear parents decided when I was 15 that I didn’t do enough around the house (not true - I did the washing up, ironing, cooking, baking and laundry). I told them that I wasn’t born to be their unpaid help and I would stop doing any chores until my brothers pitched in. My punishment was that I wasn’t allowed out unless it was for school. My response was to stay in my bedroom until I left home at 17. We didn’t speak for years.

I grew up in a house where my dad did at least 50% of the housework yet I still feel I was expected to help more than my (older) brother. To be fair he was a bit more difficult (undiagnosed autistic IMO). I now have a similar set up with an autistic son and I am mega conscious of not letting him off the hook!

I was a child in 70s/80s and my brothers did nothing. I had to do dishes, helped with cooking prep, hanging out/bringing in clothes, bathroom. I even had to do their ironing (and I would purposely iron tramlines and other creases down the sleeves of their shirts/trousers in protest 🤣).

All of them, when they left home, managed to work it out themselves pretty quickly.