To ask if your brother/brothers had to help round the house when you were growing up?ere

1960s Stay at home mum and a dishwasher. None of us had to do much, boys or girls. Certainly not on an enforced regular basis.

This is such a shock. I was raised in the 80's, mum and dad worked full time, no brothers.

I was pretty crap at housework tbh but I never had this sexism drip fed into me as both parents did stuff around the house.

I am from a family of 2 boys 2 girls all born late 70s early 80s. Girls older two boys younger two. Same expectation on all of us for chores. Middle two (me and my brother) always out and about with friends and have to admit used every trick in the book to try to get out of it but definitely no difference between chore list for boys and girls. However my mum was a sahm and dad worked full time and often travelled with work. He did very little chores in the house and still doesn't although retired and in his late 70s, which does irritate me but that is my parents marriage and dynamic so I keep out of it.

Yes, of course. He is very tidy and an excellent cook and baker, which was handy when he got married and had 3 boys!

I'm 61 with 2 older brothers. I clearly remember my DF announcing after mealtimes that "I need 2 volunteers. One for washing, one for drying", then walking away whilst we fought argued it out amongst ourselves. I was only 10 when eldest DB left home for Uni and 13 when 2nd DB did. I remember I did my own laundry if I needed something turning around quickly (I played sport so got through quite a lot of kit), but other than that, I don't remember any of us having specific tasks. My DF did a lot of the housework as DM was never in particularly good health so there was no sex discrimination regarding chores anyway. In all other ways they were quite old fashioned/traditional parents.

My brothers weren’t expected to help at all. I had to.
However, my mum never ironed their clothes or made breakfasts or lunches, even packed lunches except occasionally breakfast as a treat on weekends.
My brothers would sort out their own ironing and do school shirts and make their own packed lunches.
Because of this, they pull their weight at home and have a great work ethic.

No my brothers never did anything in the house. They were expected to work though, even as children. They do pull their weight at home as adults so I think it's work ethic that's important. We're all retired so older generations.

Yes, actually they got the worse jobs like hoovering and polishing the floor while we just cleaned out the cupboards/ tidied!! They were also pulled out to do weeding and picking up rubbish more while we just swept a tiny patch of concrete!!

Apart from keeping my room tidy, I had no chores ( this was the 60s). We weren't allowed in the kitchen...I wasn't taught to cook. My siblings were a lot older than me by 15/ 12 years and I dont really remember them living at home.

My brother never lifted a finger. Even as an old lady in her nineties my mum would put him first and tell me to get him a knife and fork, or ketchup, or a drink if we were eating a family meal. She also would not only serve him the biggest portion, but if she and I were sharing a portion of chips and he had a portion for himself, she would tip half of our shared portion on his plate!

Around 65 years I used to be asked to go to the local shop for a neighbour, because she only had boys.

I remember seething there and back.

hence I became a feminist.

No, never. I was the one cooking family meals (one parent in hospital, the other visiting) at 11, and responsible for looking after all pets and domestic chores on the one occasion when a parent went away for a few days with work. My brother just did bits of cooking for himself.

What really irked me was how the women did all of the rushing around cooking, serving food and washing up on Christmas Day, while all of the men sat around drinking, watching James Bond and falling asleep all over the sofas. This was how it was up almost 2020.

If I ever have a son, he will be as domesticated as his sisters. As one woman with grown sons put it, "I'm not having my daughter-in-laws doing all of the work when they move in together!" They all worship their MIL, but it's probably not just for that reason 😁

I was given chores and made to keep my room to a higher standard to my brothers. I do remember her cleaning it up frequently but never mine. I was also given babysitter duty to younger brother while my mum worked. Elder brother had all the freedom to go out and socialise. Her ex husband didn’t help around the house when he finished work. I suspect the religious group she was involved in encouraged this behaviour. Still to this day both of them sit there relaxing while myself and my mother clean up after gatherings. One brother won’t even clean his plate up after eating. He has a long term gf who I suspect does everything. They plan on having children. She’s in for a shock when he barely lifts a finger. I raise my children different to my mother. My son knows better and I hope he doesn’t go into adulthood like my brothers. Younger brother lost his house mate and is only worried about who is going to keep the place clean and cook food. I do wish my mother didn’t create this issue. Both successful men but severely flawed.

I was raised in the 70s. Saturday morning was very much help with household jobs. Not for my brother though (2 years older than me) , for some reason he was allowed to lie in bed until noon.

4 of us. 3 girls, 1 boy.

My Mum created a list of jobs/chores and a monetary value against each. I was the savvy one and jumped right in and did as many of the higher value jobs asap. Always got the most pocket money at the end of the week.

Joint bottom with earnings/pocket money - my brother (lazy t**t) and the youngest sister, who spent most of her time crying about jobs and then not getting any pocket money.

I have 1 son and he 100% has jobs/chores. Today he has done a light wash, hung it out to dry, emptied and filled the dishwasher and ironed his jeans. Tomorrow he is changing the bedding.

I always tell him that I am raising a man, not a wimp. I am not as daft as my Mum - he doesn’t get paid.

The OP seems to be focusing only in indoor household chores. My brother was the eldest, then 2 younger girls. He didn't have to cook but he was expected to do heavy lifting of shopping, get coal in from the bunker outside and he also had to clean all the shoes and help Dad with the gardening and car maintenance. I actually think the dusting and vacuuming that my sister and I did was actually lighter and easier.

Yes.

He was 4 years older than me, so probably did bits before I remember, and then left when I was 12 so I can't compare our teens.

I do remember I washed & he dried & put away after meals (I preferred washing up to drying).

We didn't have set chores or responsibilities growing up but we did do help around the house as things needed doing (food shopping, tidying, cleaning, washing up, ironing, cooking, fixing things, washing the car, looking after pets). We did about the same but my brother would usually do the harder stuff. I think it helped that my dad was also very hands on at home, he probably did more cleaning than my mum.
I never bothered giving my own children jobs to do at home but both DD and DS help around the house without prompting.

Yes there was no difference between what me, my brothers and sisters had to do. Likewise here sons and and daughters treated the same.

We both had to do the washing up and jobs like washing the car. But I think my mother taught me practical things like how to use the washing machine or things like how to clean around taps, etc. I don’t think she taught my brother these things. This was partly because I was happy to learn and used to follow her around the house, and he was around and available far less than I was.

Chires were split. I recall my brother having to do as much as me. My uncles kften doing the dishes if they had been cooked for at grandmas house. It was just expected everyone chipped in.

In my Paternal grandparents house my grandma did it all. Should be said there they were farmers so grandad had been doing the farm. When they retired it just remained this way.

Me and 4 older brothers - we all had to do housework and had a pretty fair chore rota but when my oldest brothers moved out and it was just me, parents, and one brother, then when mum was away I was expected to do all the cooking. But dad was helpless in the kitchen back then and I was definitely the better choice out of me and my brother but still, but sexist. (Said brother now does the majority of cooking for his family so he learnt eventually)

My older brother and I had to wash up and dry the dishes after dinner and keep our rooms tidy. Whenever we were not at school we were sent into the garden to pick vegetables such as runner beans. We also had to dig up potatoes and then wash and peel them. He got a paper round at 13 so DM said as he was having to get up early he wouldn't have to do any chores. I also had to vacuum and dust through the downstairs, prepare dinner on Saturdays and help with Sunday lunch. My Dad would have considered it women's work.

Rarely, I have two sisters one brother, he occasionally washed up when nagged/and even more occasionally mowed the grass. He never had to do anything else apart from make his own bed and keep his room tidy which he did. He got more pocket money than us too.
Us three girls were made to do everything from a young age including chores for my gran at her house, gardening, shopping etc as both parents worked full time and OP we had the same excuse trotted out whenever we complained about fairness "because he's a boy" He was " mummy's special little soldier" and a bit of a bully towards us but he could do no wrong in her eyes & he always got his own way. I so wish my dad had spoken up more. I love my brother now but he was a lazy pig for many years.
It was very unfair at the time but I'm glad I can fend for myself so I suppose I'm kind of grateful in a way.

6 siblings in the 60/70s. 3 girls 3 boys, I was the oldest (girl). When mum started working full time, it was the girls that were expected to help out - I remember mum coming home from work and being angry if the house was a tip. The boys seem to get away with a lot

However we are all in our 60s now, and they all contribute in their own home. I can't get too worked up about how it was then, my children's relationships are all different and all the males contribute - which is they way it should be.