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Little superstitions

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Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 18:51

What little superstitions do you and your family follow? My aunt died today (we didn't think she would make it until Christmas and I got to see her very recently so I am feeling sad, but fairly fortunate in that regard, she really was not well) - my mum was with her and sent me a text to let me know. I responded with my sympathies (it was her sister) and I said: "Don't forget to open a window." And mum said she already had - do you do that too? To let their soul out?

I don't care about walking under ladders (I look up first!) or putting shoes (new ones, I'm not a grot!) on tables or anything like that. And I think it's lucky if a black cat crosses my path as nine times out of ten I get to have a cwtch! So I don't consider myself superstitious, but the window thing is second nature.

So what do you do? (I think I am trying to cheer myself up a bit with distractions).

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DisposableName26 · 12/01/2026 22:36

If I see a magpie I have to say “hello Mr Magpie, hello Mr Magpie, hello Mr Magpie” - in a welsh accent. This is a family tradition which stems from my welsh godfather. None of the rest of us are welsh.

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:34

TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:26

I've always thought superstitions were light hearted and taken with a pinch of salt, but to think that councils deliberately avoid numbering houses 13, and on a recent cruise there was no floor 13, maybe they're not wanting to tempt fate 🤞

Hotels do it too!

13 is actually my second lucky number - 26 is my first because it's my birthday and it's in my personal mobile number AND my work number!

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Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:33

Ticktockk · 12/01/2026 22:22

I think I’m quite a sensible creature but I’d be horrified if I broke a mirror, I ALWAYS say hello to magpies, I’d never ever put new shoes on a table (and always question if eg. the island counts as a table!!). And I’d never give a purse without a penny.

I break EVERYTHING! I have gorilla hands! Came in handy when I played rugby - less so in normal life! So I ignore anything relating to breaking as it's an inevitable consequence with me! But I am taking my life in my hands if I ignore a magpie - height of rudeness!!

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Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:32

DC555 · 12/01/2026 22:15

Another magpie greeter here. It’s funny where we gather these from, my family didn’t do it but I lived at university with a good friend who always said ‘hello mr magpie, say hello to your wife’ and it’s a habit I’ve got into myself. We have a pair of magpies that live in our front garden and I’m always much happier when I’ve spotted the second one. DS is 4 and now he does it too. Not sure how healthy it is passing on superstitions but it’s quite sweet the way he picks these things up, like a little shared ritual.

I think provided no one thinks it is a portent of doom then it's sweet and nice. Where my mum lives she feeds the birds and when the cat doesn't finish his dinner my mum whacks it between two pieces of bread and gives the magpie a catfood sandwich! She did check with the NSPCB (is that the bird one?) and they said it was very nutritious!

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Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:30

Nofksleft2give · 12/01/2026 21:39

That’s a Scottish one…the first person over the doorstep on NY day should bring you a piece of coal.

I think we used to have that, but all my family were miners so it kind of lost its gloss if that makes sense?!

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TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:26

I've always thought superstitions were light hearted and taken with a pinch of salt, but to think that councils deliberately avoid numbering houses 13, and on a recent cruise there was no floor 13, maybe they're not wanting to tempt fate 🤞

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:24

CheeseandFigs · 12/01/2026 22:09

I didn't think I was superstitious untill I started writing this list
Salute and greet magpies "Hello Mr magpie" said 3 times. I say it very quickly under my breath and my salute looks like I'm pushing my hair behind my ear because I feel self conscious about the nonsense!

Never walk on a set of 3 manhole covers. Sets of 2 must be walked over because they bring good luck

Don't cross on the stairs

Umbrellas can't be clicked open to dry in the house, need to be semi open at maximum!

No shoes on tables

Chuck spilled salt over both shoulders because I can't remember which is the correct shoulder

Put a silver coin in a wallet or purse if giving it as a gift

Cross a new born baby's palm with a silver coin when you meet them

Touch wood. My head will do in the absence of actual wood

Never say tempt fate by saying things out loud like "what could possibly go wrong" or "everything's going so well" etc

Don't break a mirror

Don't throw a bible away

Say "white rabbits" on the 1st of every month

Although I love them, peacock feathers bring bad luck. I won't have them or representations of them in the house or on clothing

Edited

Wow! You might win the prize - I mean, sorry, there is no prize, but the kudos?!

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Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:23

TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:06

I thought it was rabbits, rabbits, rabbits

White rabbits, white rabbits! And then you do the ears and then you punch someone (lightly!) on the arm...

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Ticktockk · 12/01/2026 22:22

I think I’m quite a sensible creature but I’d be horrified if I broke a mirror, I ALWAYS say hello to magpies, I’d never ever put new shoes on a table (and always question if eg. the island counts as a table!!). And I’d never give a purse without a penny.

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:18

Tillow4ever · 12/01/2026 22:13

Thank you. You know what was really odd though - all the way to and from the hospital I saw single magpies EVERYWHERE. Like there preparing me for the worst. I remember telling a friend at the time and she commented how sad that was as magpies sally mate for life so they must have all lost their mates. No comment on my ongoing miscarriage though (and she had been through 2 herself in the months before that).

Superstition is definitely something we cling to - either to blame when things go wrong or to give us hope.

I hope life is better now? I really sympathise, that must have been the worst day.

I think people really struggle to find words in the worst of time - most people anyway - I seem to just have verbal diarrhoea and spurt out all my thoughts.

When my Nana died, there was a single magpie that would come and sit in the hospital window (she was in a ward in the corner next to the window) and we used to talk to him. The day she died he flew away.

Yes I completely agree - it's to make sense of the non-sense. Deliberately put that hyphen in there. Because so much of life is inexplicable and often unfair.

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DC555 · 12/01/2026 22:15

Another magpie greeter here. It’s funny where we gather these from, my family didn’t do it but I lived at university with a good friend who always said ‘hello mr magpie, say hello to your wife’ and it’s a habit I’ve got into myself. We have a pair of magpies that live in our front garden and I’m always much happier when I’ve spotted the second one. DS is 4 and now he does it too. Not sure how healthy it is passing on superstitions but it’s quite sweet the way he picks these things up, like a little shared ritual.

Tillow4ever · 12/01/2026 22:13

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 21:18

Thanks lovely, I appreciate it.

Oh that's so very sad - I do think that superstition is part of how we try and make sense of the world when there are no answers. You definitely didn't cause it and neither did she. It was rotten, horrible and unfair, and nothing anyone could have done. Sending love.

I slightly worry with the salt thing that I am going to hoof it directly into someone else's eyes...

Thank you. You know what was really odd though - all the way to and from the hospital I saw single magpies EVERYWHERE. Like there preparing me for the worst. I remember telling a friend at the time and she commented how sad that was as magpies sally mate for life so they must have all lost their mates. No comment on my ongoing miscarriage though (and she had been through 2 herself in the months before that).

Superstition is definitely something we cling to - either to blame when things go wrong or to give us hope.

CheeseandFigs · 12/01/2026 22:09

I didn't think I was superstitious untill I started writing this list
Salute and greet magpies "Hello Mr magpie" said 3 times. I say it very quickly under my breath and my salute looks like I'm pushing my hair behind my ear because I feel self conscious about the nonsense!

Never walk on a set of 3 manhole covers. Sets of 2 must be walked over because they bring good luck

Don't cross on the stairs

Umbrellas can't be clicked open to dry in the house, need to be semi open at maximum!

No shoes on tables

Chuck spilled salt over both shoulders because I can't remember which is the correct shoulder

Put a silver coin in a wallet or purse if giving it as a gift

Cross a new born baby's palm with a silver coin when you meet them

Touch wood. My head will do in the absence of actual wood

Never say tempt fate by saying things out loud like "what could possibly go wrong" or "everything's going so well" etc

Don't break a mirror

Don't throw a bible away

Say "white rabbits" on the 1st of every month

Although I love them, peacock feathers bring bad luck. I won't have them or representations of them in the house or on clothing

TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:06

I thought it was rabbits, rabbits, rabbits

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:06

Linnet · 12/01/2026 22:00

My granny always said not to put new shoes on a table or bed. It was bad luck to bring lilac into the house. Green cars were unlucky. Always put a coin in a new purse.

She was given a corn doll once, which she considered unlucky, but as it was a gift she kept it. Well, three things happened. I broke my arm, I think someone in the family died and I don’t remember the third thing but she got rid of it after that as she believed it was the cause of all that bad luck.

I speak to magpies, touch wood, throw salt over my shoulder, don’t walk under ladders. If I drop my glove I get my husband to pick it up for me. Don’t do washing on New Year’s Day.

The glove thing is interesting... what if you are alone?

Oh I know who you are - you are the person whose dropped glove adorns those little bollards on the street, right?! I always wondered who you were!

Yes I think I heard the same about lilac and also lillies because the latter is a funeral flower?

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TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:05

Pinch, punch, first of the month

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:04

Tenofcups · 12/01/2026 21:54

Most of the above plus your first word on waking on the first of the month should be ‘rabbits’ to bring good fortune. No idea where that comes from !

I think you'll find it's 'white rabbits!' and then you punch someone on the arm!

Not sure why the racial profile of the rabbit is important, but apparently it is!!! As is the mild violence!

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TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:04

Exactly 😂

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 22:03

TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 21:53

It's unlucky to cross on the stairs, which can be awkward deciding which one of you will go back down or go back up 😂

I am totally imagining an "after you", "no, after you!" scenario!!

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TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 22:03

I was told that corn dollies were a fertility symbol, I wouldn't touch them 😕

Linnet · 12/01/2026 22:00

My granny always said not to put new shoes on a table or bed. It was bad luck to bring lilac into the house. Green cars were unlucky. Always put a coin in a new purse.

She was given a corn doll once, which she considered unlucky, but as it was a gift she kept it. Well, three things happened. I broke my arm, I think someone in the family died and I don’t remember the third thing but she got rid of it after that as she believed it was the cause of all that bad luck.

I speak to magpies, touch wood, throw salt over my shoulder, don’t walk under ladders. If I drop my glove I get my husband to pick it up for me. Don’t do washing on New Year’s Day.

Tenofcups · 12/01/2026 21:54

Most of the above plus your first word on waking on the first of the month should be ‘rabbits’ to bring good fortune. No idea where that comes from !

TheSunRisesInTheEast · 12/01/2026 21:53

It's unlucky to cross on the stairs, which can be awkward deciding which one of you will go back down or go back up 😂

Arlanymor · 12/01/2026 21:53

skilpadde · 12/01/2026 21:50

Lang may yer lum reek!

My friend Suzanne says that! Reminds me it's Burns coming up!

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skilpadde · 12/01/2026 21:50

SmotYci · 12/01/2026 21:18

Ive remembered another one! An elderly neighbour used to put coal on our doorstep after midnight on new years eve. It was to bring good luck!

Lang may yer lum reek!