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Partner wont live with me

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Foxylady210 · 12/01/2026 16:36

Partner of 3 years has just told me he never wants to live with me (or anybody) ever. He's divorced i am widowed. Aibu to now think if someone else comes along who wants more i should jump ship? I feel like im not good enough for him and almost like FWB. I told him I wanted a proper relationship right from the start. He wants me to buy a house near to him, but nit with him

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OriginalSkang · 12/01/2026 16:41

He's not being unreasonable and neither are you

Soonenough · 12/01/2026 16:40

I think this is fine . At an older age it is more complicated with inheritance, adult children , etc. But if it is something you really desired then it's time to end the relationship.

ChikinLikin · 12/01/2026 16:40

I'm like him, but if you want to live with a partner, then he's not the one for you.

Christmaseree · 12/01/2026 16:38

If you want to eventually live with a partner then this relationship isn’t right for you.

JHound · 12/01/2026 16:38

Foxylady210 · 12/01/2026 16:36

Partner of 3 years has just told me he never wants to live with me (or anybody) ever. He's divorced i am widowed. Aibu to now think if someone else comes along who wants more i should jump ship? I feel like im not good enough for him and almost like FWB. I told him I wanted a proper relationship right from the start. He wants me to buy a house near to him, but nit with him

Not everybody wants to live with their romantic partner.

Neither of you is wrong - you just need to decide whether this incompatibility means the relationship has to end.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 12/01/2026 16:37

Sounds like he has had enough after the divorce.