AIBU - Grandparents?

I have this issue too (constant unsolicited advice and related purchases) from mother and mil. The only reason I don't shut it down completely is that occasionally, there is a helpful nugget of advice in there. Something I've not thought of. Because I don't want to lose out on those, I've been quietly tolerating/ignoring the other bits. It is irritating, and I have felt really undermined at times. Especially when the advice is either super obvious, or outdated or nonsense. I believe they are trying to help, but that doesn't always stop me feeling irritated or bored when sitting though another litany of what to do.

Wait to get it. Then tell them that you showed it to the doctor who has said not to use it on your baby. Throw the doctor under the bus in the interest of familial harmony (they won't mind). You can then tell them any old guff - the doctor said it's only for use on adult skin, the doctor said it's not any use in your DDs case...etc etc.

Then if they start up, you do the 'we're just following doctor's orders.'

You know your own parents. If it’s a symptom of a wider issue you want to try and nip in the bud now, go for it. I do also agree with other that it doesn’t seem a hill worth dying on if it’s not happening all the time.

I think you need to tackle it head on. My parents were like this and they don’t understand anything but a firm no. If this were my family my acceptance of the cream would be the signal that they could also use it on my DD. For some reason saying no thank you wasn’t enough. I learnt the hard way that I had to literally spell it out for them every time as unless I specifically said we don’t want you to do that they would assume it was ok

Since its your parents yes talk to them and be very clear that you will only use prescribed medication on your baby and give them the cream making it clear that they must not use it or anything else that isn't specifically prescribed for him

It doesn't sound controlling. It sounds like they want the best for their grandson and believe this cream will help him.

I wouldnt worry about it. They are obviously thinking about it and trying to help. Just dont use it if you dont want to. I dont feel this is controlling!
I have had eczema since i was a child and at some point one of my great aunts told my mum to make me drink my own urine to helpmwith it 😁 my mum wasnt offended/ upset. In fact we all had a laugh about it for a few years!
However there are great "natural" creams available.
Also if you breastfeed I would recommend putting some breastmilk into the bath water....its really good for their skin!
But you do your thing and only what you are comfortable with! Id just ignore the cream and not use it and if they ask just calmly tell them youve decided to stick with what the doctor prescribed and are happy with this and dont want to change this at the moment.

I don't think it's sweet for them to just completely ignore OP's message asking them not to buy this cream as she is using one prescribed by her GP and doesn't want to introduce any other creams.

What works for an adult wouldn't necessarily work on a child and as there are no ingredients listed, it may not even be safe on baby skin.

OP, you're right to be concerned. Prescribers are advised to not signpost patients to buy over the counter medications from online unregistered sources available through Amazon etc due to safety concerns.

If your parents provide childcare, perhaps check with them that they haven't also bought some of the cream to keep at theirs to use on LO.

www.nhs.uk/tests-and-treatments/medicines-information/

There are so many bigger reasons you could be annoyed with your parents. They could be totally uninterested with your child for one.

Yes it may be annoying and as a new mum you can be fiercely over protective or take things the wrong way and that’s ok, it will ease in time.

When these situations happen just take a breath, remind yourself they’re only trying to help and bin the cream when it arrives.

DD14 has severe eczema, we have had this her whole life - suggestions, people buying stuff for us, sending random articles, “my best friends auntie’s third cousin four times removed tried this and it cleared it up overnight”

Smile say thanks then ignore and don’t mention it again. If they ask in the future say “oh we didn’t find it helpful”

people think they are being kind and helping. They aren’t but it won’t stop so just let it wash over you.

I think it’s sweet that they care.
just don’t use it and be thankful that they’re trying to be helpful.

Just ignore

Be cautious that you don’t leave your DC alone with them.

Not sure there is a need to address it ‘head on’, they’ve sent it in the post it’s not like they’re applying the cream behind your back. Just say thanks but we’re going to stick with the GPs advice, and carry on

Just thank them and don’t use it.

Not a hill to die on.