I want half in the divorce. Am I likely to get it.

Your taking the absolute piss if you think your entitled to half of everything he put 200k down for the house so he gets that back and then you split whatever is left between you both because if he hadn’t decided to sell his flat you wouldn’t have the house to argue over because you wouldn’t be entitled to any of his flat. Stop being a greedy gold digger.

From what I understand, any assets he was in possession of prior to meeting you will not count as marital assets. Similarly, anything either of you acquired after the date deemed to be the separation date won’t count either. I’m not a lawyer though

Clearly YANAL as both your statements are wrong. Marriage means all money and property are joint assets up until a financial order has been granted in the divorce. If OP's husband didn't want that, he shouldn't have married her.

Those saying 6 years is a short marriage, the 9 years of cohabitation will also be taken into account. Financial negotiations will start from the basis of 50/50 split and then look at needs. The £200k and ISA will be in the pot - they belong to husband and wife.

Morality doesn't come into it.

Ignore most people on here who have no idea how family law works in the UK. The first thing a family lawyer will say is that morals and exact calculations who put each penny in are totally irrelevant. This is a law that works to prevent both of you from becoming precarious private renters, to avoid you being potentially homeless and a massive burden on the taxpayer in the future. You each need to get what you need to rehouse yourselves as securely as possible. That is considered fair and reasonable in the 21st country, not “I put in exactly x so I get exactly that back” which makes a mockery of the essence of marriage which is a joint endeavour and fusing of resources

yes but it’s a moot point as she didn’t change work pattern…stay home with dc or help to save towards the house. She was just…there…

But it won't be considered a short marriage. The 15 years living together prior to marriage will be taken into account.

OP, assuming you are 42 or 43, you have a full 25 years until retirement and earn more than him. You can get a full mortgage. With a £50k deposit, you will be able to buy a decent flat.

He has 10 years less time, and the £200k was his from the beginning. There are no children to consider. You haven't sacrificed your career. He will likely keep his deposit and most of his pension.

You both need legal advice but he would be crazy not to use a solicitor.

If you have only been married 6 years and have no dc you probably won’t get 50:50…sorry. I mean you’ll come out better than marriage an he’ll come out slightly worse but I doubt given length of marriage and the fact that neither of you need to house children you will get 50;50. Get a solicitor and expect to pay at least 10k.

You keep saying you paid half…..but you didn’t, you paid half after he paid the large deposit. Legal fees are a killer and mount up very quickly.

You’re saying, basically, that you live in a
”community property” state like California.
Now I’m unfamiliar with how the UK splits up its areas and I’m unfamiliar with UK law, whether it’s the same all over the UK or if it’s different in say, Yorkshire than it is in London.
I got divorced in California in the 90s. I had stopped working at my husband’s insistence. He phoned me one evening out of the clear blue and told me he wanted a divorce.
He was living in a different state than our marital home and I got frightened that he’d file in that state - so I filed in California.
I never wanted a divorce.
But my filing for divorce - like he wanted?
That (for reasons known only to him) made him furious. No - beyond furious. Incensed.
Long story short, I got half of everything plus alimony - and my ‘93 attorney fees were $85,000. Shocking even today - right? In 2025 money, that’s $164,000.
My husband was soooo angry that I got an attorney and filed for divorce, that he kept me in court to the tune of $85,000. That was $25,000 more than my profits from the sale of our home.
He crippled me. Because he could.
That’s just my story.
Oh - and the kicker? He’d had a lover AND a toddler in that other state.
He’d been.cheating on me for years.
I’d tread carefully.

This has to be a joke post right? You’re not being unreasonable you’re being incredibly incredibly unreasonable. You didn’t put anywhere near as much money into the house. And the savings are not yours. Grow up!

NEEDS

You both have equal needs, that being (as far as I can tell) a 1-bedroom property bought in the area you are broadly in (unless you plan to move), which you can afford. The property should be roughly in line with your marital living standards, where affordable.

so look on Rightmove. Let’s say avg property of this kind is £250k.

then find out your mortgage capacity. Let’s say is £150k based on your salary.

This means you NEED £100k in order to rehouse and he does too (unless he needs a specific type of property like disability adapted for example).

Work from what each of you need out of the liquid assets (everything netted down, apart from pensions which are not liquid). You should get what you need, or as close to it as possible if less. That overrides whatever he put in as extra, because both of your housing needs take priority.

Present him with your Rightmove properties and mortgage capacity to explain the maths. Divide, move on.

Fighting for what you think you’re legally entitled to isn’t the same thing as being fair and honest. The man’s £200,000 that he put into it is his money. You saying £50,000 isn’t enough to buy a home really isn’t his problem.

Agreed.

Vile.

There's no way you're getting half of this.
The marriage is only 6 years long and you've co-owned a house for 4 years.
Not a chance you'll get anywhere near 50%.

And pension and 50% equity on the house.
@Divorcein40swoman why would a judge give you half? I'm sure both your future financials will also be considered so don't think a judge will take your side because you aspire to be a free loader on the back of your ex dp.
Get real.

Why on earth should you get 50% of his deposit??

Absolute golddigger.

I hope he gets one hell of a lawyer.

Well thats your problem, not his. This is what is fair and just and will be what you are entitled to.
Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot...

Wow. You are disgustingly grabby. Where’s your self-respect?! Why on earth do you think he should fund your lifestyle with his savings after you’ve left him?!

You chose to spend on things you "liked", he chose to save.

You sound grabby and, frankly, a crap life partner, he's well rid. You won't get 50/50 and nor should you.

Short marriage and no children? You don't deserve anything that you didn't put in. I sincerely hope that no court would award you anything like 50/50. The system shouldn't reward gold diggers.

This is disgusting.

You werent even together that long to be honest.