I want half in the divorce. Am I likely to get it.

You sound delightful lol

I am gobsmacked at your entitlement. This is not what Divorce is for. Half of everything he has ever owned or amassed? For a six year marriage and no dependents? Behave.

That’s why I phrased the sentence, if you paid the mortgage

This is correct.
They will take into account a long period of cohabitation even if the marriage itself is short so it becomes a longer ‘marriage.
Short marriages and having no children doesn’t matter in terms of equality in asset sharing , this is usually in assets accrued during the marriage however a period of 9 years cohabitation prior to marriage most likely will be taken into account, also if she paid towards the mortgage etc of the flat the deposit money may become a marital asset. Maybe not all of it but a proportion.
Proper legal advice should be sought.

So he was sensible and saved some of his money; you chose to spend all/most of yours....and now you want to take 50% of his savings? You sound pretty despicable, I have to say.

You'll have to fork out for proper legal advice op if you want an objective view of what your chances are for coming out of this as the winner
People on here aren't particularly distinguishing between what's morally right and what is legally right.

I am hoping he doesn't try and hang this out and make it difficult

It sounds like you're the one 'hanging this out' and making it difficult.

I suspect you will make a couple of solicitors very rich and still end up with the amount of money you brought to the marriage (which sounds like nothing).

Poor chap.

And you are why people ask for a pre nup. Your entitlement is breathtaking.

She doesn't actually say she paid any of the mortgage on the flat though

He put down £200k for the house which came from the sale of a flat he owned I his name before we married.

But if you were living in the flat for 9 years and paying half the mortgage - then that needs to be accounted for

As pp stated she is divorcing and the idea is you both leave the marriage with what you brought in

how long was your ex living in the flat before you arrived?

Openly admits she spends all her money and doesn't save, wants enough money for a house, half his savings and half his pension.

And people wonder why fewer people are getting married.

Wow you are one entitled, grabby CF.

There is, and never has been, any hard and fast rule as to what is a “long” marriage. You could have a marriage which was only 5 years for example, but preceded by a 20 year period of cohabitation. That would be considered a long marriage.

There was when I got divorced, under 10yrs is considered a short marriage and over 10yrs is considered a long marriage. Due to having a short marriage all of my house deposit was returned to me, he didn't get any of it.

I think 50k is a fair offer
In all honesty I feel sorry for him if you get your hands on any off the 200k he’s been fucked over

you couldn’t buy a house before you say you couldn’t buy one now nothings changed

Yes what an absolute cheek. She wants to have her cake and eat it

If there was ever an ad not to get married, this is it.

That sounds so satisfying

Its enough for a big deposit. You can't necessarily come out of a divorce and both have enough money to buy a house outright.

But she wouldn't be able to afford to buy her house???

I do believe it’s all a little more complex than “putting bugger all in.” And whether he or she has done anything wrong (I.e. adultery) isn’t really applicable either in most divorces.

Op, let us know what shakes down and I wouldn’t bother posting on MN about this sort of thing. You get too many with an opinion not based on law.

@Divorcein40swoman
I think this belief / thinking is where you are going to get your self stuck.

Marital assets are split 50/50 AS A START POINT that isnt the same as the end point.
(Chatgpt can tell you this!)

You are not entitled to 50/50 automatically.

You will likely get something but it would be very unlikely to be half. If you did it would be with a lawyer and length divorce so you wouldn't retain the half anyway. Again chatgpt will prob tell you the same.

You are much better off adjusting to the reality and doing a quick / clean deal.

How much deposit do you need for a 2 bed in your area? 200k ? If you can service a 120k mortgage i'd look for 80 /90 k cash consider myself lucky and get on with life.

This has to be a wind up. Nobody is this grabby are they? She's admitted he hasn't done anything wrong so there's no reason to screw him for every penny. She's been happily 'living in the moment' spending all her cash whilst he saved but still expects half of his savings. He put £200k in, she put nothing in but she wants half the house. We have to, have to put stricter laws in place to stop spouses attempting to do this. Even though this is clearly a wind up, the law is far too weak on sharing assets when one partner has put bugger all in.

Imagine if the boot was on the other foot. You sound very greedy going after the money he got for the flat heraus for and then his savings as well.

court will look at needs and as he’s older and earns less than you the court will most likely award him more money especially as he can prove his investment and you are younger and earns less than more.

I hope to God you don’t get half as you’re not deserving it and I mean that in the kindest possible way as any divorce should be about fairness.

Oooh, this takes me back about 25 years when my partner was getting divorced. Short marriage, no kids, she was 11 years younger than him, not a lot of assets beyond the flat. She went after his pensions, and her incredibly famous and expensive lawyers even tried to take my assets into account - we didn't live together and I refused point blank to give them any info! It went to court, where the judge rolled her eyes at her retinue of legal representatives, threw out everything apart from half the net proceeds of the flat and - wait for it! - £5k (both of which were already agreed) and refused to award costs. Mr G's costs were £0.00 as he represented himself. I would love to have seen her legal bill!

So, OP, do go for it! You could probably sell tickets.