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I want half in the divorce. Am I likely to get it.

258 replies

Divorcein40swoman · 12/01/2026 00:39

Posted here for traffic ..

Just looking for some legal advice.
Married 6 years . Together 15
I left him... moved out the house when he was away .. tod him afterwards
No children
He put down £200k for the house which came from the sale of a flat he owned I his name before we married.
Joint mortgage each paying half.
I continued to pay after I left which was last year
I want the divorce
I have no savings ... he has savings in an account in his name around 30k
He has an isa opened in his name after we married
We each have a pension. He can take his pension 10 years earlier than me as he's older
I earn slightly more than him and will be at work longer than him due to our ages

I want 50/50 of everything. The savings. The ISA and especially the house.
He's upset as he's not going to get a decent mortgage at his age . He also wants the £200k he put it to be given back. Us clear the mortgage and come away with about 50k each. I want half !!
What's likely to happen

OP posts:
Divorcein40swoman · 12/01/2026 00:48

Squiggles23 · 12/01/2026 00:44

Doesn't sound like you deserve half OP considering you've not put in half (or anything close). Why do you earn more and have no savings?

The house we didn't buy until we had been married a couple of years . It's classed as a marital asset .

He's asked me to leave his pension alone and he wont touch mine and asked if I will take 50 grand. That won't buy me anywhere.

OP posts:
80smusicandavoulevant · 12/01/2026 00:47

Going after his savings too?! Wow!

LighthouseLED · 12/01/2026 00:47

You sound greedy tbh.

Courts will look at needs. If he’s older and can’t get a mortgage, plus he put an additional £200k towards the purchase, he may very well be awarded more than 50% of the assets.

Divorcein40swoman · 12/01/2026 00:46

Squiggles23 · 12/01/2026 00:44

Doesn't sound like you deserve half OP considering you've not put in half (or anything close). Why do you earn more and have no savings?

Because I have to pay my half of the mortgage and then rent and bills on my new place . Feed myself. Travel to work. Going out . Etc

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 12/01/2026 00:46

Why have you posted multiple identical threads? To maximise frothing at the preposterousness?

AwfullyGood · 12/01/2026 00:45

I hope you don't get half. Absolute robbery if you do.

Squiggles23 · 12/01/2026 00:44

Doesn't sound like you deserve half OP considering you've not put in half (or anything close). Why do you earn more and have no savings?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/01/2026 00:42

Why do you want half if he put more in?