I want half in the divorce. Am I likely to get it.

Are you a solicitor?

This was also my first thought reading this @Divorcein40swoman can you enlighten us?

In answer to the first line of your post … am I likely to get it ?
NOPE & NOPE

Op, will you update us with what legal advice you received? It’s in no one’s interest to have a long drawn out divorce only if you want to line the pockets of solicitors. Can you go to mediation?

@OhDear111 she's gone with the third (or maybe fourth?) solicitor she spoke to, the one she found most helpful. They all said pretty much the same though, that because they lived together for a good while prior to getting married it doesn’t qualify as a short marriage. But I’ll tell her to ask about this ruling, thank you.

@justasoul She needs a new solicitor! That’s rubbish after 2 years. Plus there’s a new ruling about what parties had before they married in terms of what’s in the marital pot. She needs better advice!

Friend of mine is in the same situation but she is in your DH’s shoes: married just over 2 years but cohabited for 8 years prior, her XH is potentially walking away with half the house she had paid off the mortgage of, half the pension and savings… he is not even named in the deeds and mortgage was paid off before the wedding. Her solicitor says that unless they agree otherwise between them that’s the likely outcome, 50-50. Fairness doesn’t really come into it.

Your DH paid a good deposit towards the property.
You contributed nothing towards the deposit.

Had his own savings/ISA.
You have neither.

You pay half the mortgage still, which is what should be expected.

Went halves on holidays and meals out,
So your DH paid his way there.

DH saves where he can.
You spend spend spend

You've given some information here but apart from paying half of what was left towards the mortgage, once DH laid out 200k, you've left out what you've contributed towards this marriage.

I figured she would have made it clear. But in any case it's not looking like she's coming back to clear that up.
I guess the answers did not go as she wanted

@whattheysay urgh. Any grist to her mill is sickening.

If he put his £200k into the house purchase then he shouldn't get his £200k back, he should get whatever percentage of the house's value it represented, ie if it was 30% of the house price then he should get 30% of the house's current value. It's not up to him to continue to prop you up because you haven't bothered to save anything.

That’s right just cohabiting without being married gives no legal rights to assets. However a long cohabitation followed by a short marriage will lengthen the time of the marriage. Op lived with him for 9 years followed by a shorter 6 year marriage but that 9 years will be ‘added on’ as such and the marriage will be viewed as longer than 6 years.

@whattheysay @Elektra1 No cohabitation is not the same as marriage. It’s why there are threads that say ‘I was with exDP for 20 years with 2 kids and they have now fucked off with new person and left me financially up the swanny. What do I do?’ Personally I think it’s right. Either commit and have the protection or don’t and I am glad that (hopefully) only a 6 year short marriage counts in this situation.

As it goes, I had property and finance before I married DH. We have a pre-nup protecting that. We have made money together but I will still protect the money that was pre him and given to me from my family. Not that I think I need tho (tho hopefully I will never find out annd his family is a whole other ball game with their levels of entitled twattery if you allowed a foot in the door).

And he just doesn’t interfere with how I work out the money that is now being passed to me because of Rachel Reeves. He knows I am fair (I do all the investments for all the family and he doesn’t come up short) and that I am always ‘team us’ based but my decision on this is final. And I would have the same view if roles were reversed. One thing I am is consistent.

OP - You, however, are the worst type of person. Grabby and entitled and I hope you get your arse handed to you.

I thought it is 15 years in total, but only 6 married.

No they're not.

50/50 is just a starting point.

As there are no kids and he put in the £200k for the deposit then it's unlikely you are entitled to 50%

He should/will get the £200k then half each of any further equity and savings and pensions.

If you can't afford to buy then you'll have to rent.

You need to give him 200k out of house sale and split equity and 30k savings.

Anything else your a grabby nowt

I'm still on very good terms with my ex- from about 1990, who quite reasonably looked elsewhere when I showed no interest in marrying him <on edit ... or anyone for that matter>. By chance, he emailed me today saying he'd been looking through old photos and remembering holidays and could I think of any other places. He also mentioned that divorce from wife #2 had finally come through - it's taken years! I could remember quite a lot, so sent a chatty reply about places he'd forgotten and added a PS: "Congrats on the divorce. Maybe we should celebrate by getting married? I'm sure it would be great, as long as we didn't live together!"

He replied: "Much as I appreciate your suggestion, I don’t think I want to get married again. As Rod Stewart said, “If you want to get married, just buy a house for the girlfriend and don’t bother.” I'm now tempted to send him a link to something outrageous on Rightmove.

Money that he had previously will be ring fenced, in exceptional circumstances it can be taken into the pot for instance if you need to provide for children etc. In this case that does not apply. Since you earn more he might be entitled to your pension. I hope you decide to be fair instead of being so grabby! Or karma will get you!

But why do you think that's his problem (you not being able to buy anywhere), after a short marriage and no children?

If you want to live off a man, you do need to put up with living with him.

It does feel rather like it!

Does anyone else think this is a reverse?

I want 50/50 of everything. The savings. The ISA and especially the house.
He's upset as he's not going to get a decent mortgage at his age . He also wants the £200k he put it to be given back. Us clear the mortgage and come away with about 50k each. I want half !!

YABVVVVVU

Selfish grabbing besom.

And I normally support women in this sort of situation. But not you. No wonder men are wary of marriage when there are gold-diggers like you around.

You'll get what's legally yours.

Taking half the man's savings though - yikes!

I bet he's regretting it 😮

Gosh it sounds like you got married purely to get a financial benefit. Romantic!