To be surprised nobody helped me?

I think scam artists bear a lot of responsibility (I'd assume a woman who approached me asking for help probably was one because they usually are, which is depressing)

Second worry would be I'll maybe be here eight hours with this person waiting for an ambulance

I do wish things were different

They’re not really all bad, I’m just a bit grumpy tonight. Glad some people helped you when you passed out in a lift.

I wonder if once one person helps others decided to join in? Waiting for someone to take charge kind of thing.

Haven’t used the tube in ages but used to feel quite nauseous when I did.

If it’s dark and raining they’d be rushing to get to wherever they were and not noticing other people, and especially not the people indoors who’d have to peer out then come out. Even if they had seen, they’d not necessarily have been able to help a vomiting person in the state you describe. Glad you got yourself home safe anyway. People often do help in other circumstances but this wasn’t too surprising given the hour, weather and how it might’ve looked.

It was 9pm, pitch black and heavily raining

If I was jogging past, I doubt I'd noticed you were in distress unless I'd seen you struggling or asked for help. I might have wrongly thought in the second I went past that you were crouching to stretch, tie up shoe or something else. Assuming you felt you were going to die would be my last thought!

I used to live with a good view onto a fairly busy rd. I saw all sorts. I did go outside to help someone. However, I had to change out of PJ's and put bra/clothes/coat on. Get keys, let DH know what I was doing incase it was something dodgy. When I 'helped' I then got yelled at for being helpful and they said they were fine!

I'm sorry you were unwell. Don't you have a friend, family member, partner, house mate you could have phoned to alert them how unwell you felt?

Yeah that's definitely part of it. Sorry you were unwell and hope you're better now x

When i was 16, i was once being strangled by a man alot older than me.
We were standing very close to a busy road that was at a standstill, traffic not moving at all.
Many people would of seen this.
Not one person helped or rang the police
I nearly died that day.

No-one wants to get involved

Ah I wouldn't say londoners are that bad. I always got offered a seat. That incident in the jubilee station was the exception out of my experiences. I wondered afterwards if people thought I was just having a (lying down) rest on the bench because I must have staggered onto it before fainting. Still there's definitely a difference in vibe between some areas vs others, that was my point really.

Anyway, thankfully I'll never be pregnant again so won't repeat that! Hope op is also totally better now.

It's a shame that even if people felt wary about approaching, they didnt get help. I saw a very drunk/drugged man with a head injury stumbling up a main road. I tailed him while calling for an ambulance. Everytime he saw me he turned around angrily so I had to stop following him, but i was able to give the ambulance directions. There are ways to help even if we very reasonably don't want to put ourselves in harms way. And it sounds like an ambulance to your home would have been helpful in this scenario!

If it does happen again you won't be so unawares and will think to call an ambulance or ask for help. I have an issue with my heart and before i was on meds, went into svt regularly. Look up vagus manoeuvres. You sort of breathe in deeply, then breathe out as long as you possibly can. I can normally stop an episode doing this. Also bearing down like when you are trying to poo (tmi) and splashing really cold water on your face can work too. Fingers crossed it doesn't happen again, and im glad your feeling better!

I've been helped lots of times recently when I was unsteady on my feet/collapsed which I was grateful for, it did cross my mind that I was lucky they didn't think I was on spice.

You just got a bit unlucky with the people who saw you unfortunately 🙁

Actually even if someone WAS on spice you'd make sure they were sat down ok/if they needed medical attention/needed water etc

I am sick alot in the street...
Nobody has ever offered to help me or ask if im ok
People just presume im drunk i think..
I wouldnt wanna be near a stranger being sick to be honest...

People don’t like to be near vomiting so that’s probably why. If you had of seemed unwell in another way they probably would have helped?
I would help someone who had collapsed or fainted but probably not someone being super sick in all honesty.

Doesn’t surprise me in London. You could drop dead on the tube and people would walk round you.

I’m so sorry op. I’m glad you are safe now. But can you honestly say if the shoe were on the other foot- you were walking your dog or jogging- would YOU have stopped and helped you?

I was once in extreme distress, crying and tattered post mugging/assault, in London Victoria, at 2pm in daylight on a Thursday, and over 500 people walked past me. Many ignored my pleas for help. I actually approached women and asked for help and they shrugged me off and sped up/ ran away. A homeless man eventually helped me. But that day taught me that people are largely selfish/ uncaring/ avoidant.

I'm sorry OP, I hope your health improves.

If it was dark and heavily raining then my guess would be that people had hoods and umbrellas up and were looking down and just didn't see you.

I’m so sorry you had that experience. It sounds like a full blown panic attack. If so, they are terrifying to go through alone.

I think people are frightened they won’t know what to do having put themselves forward. They hope someone more capable will come along.

I hope you are better now.

That must have been awful. Did you find out what the underlying cause was?

I'm so sorry op that sounds terrifying. I hope I'd have helped you.

I think it's area based.

I had difficult pregnancies and when heavily pregnant was prone to fainting among other symptoms. I commute across London to work, sometimes taking the Northern line and sometimes the jubilee.

Once I fainted at a particular jubilee line station and came round, alone, on a bench in the station, feeling dreadfully sick. I was visibly hugely pregnant and it was rush hour so people would have seen and not bothered. A week later I fainted in one of those northern line station lifts. Omg everyone was so kind and fussed over me no end. I had literally 6 or 7 people crouching round me, fanning me, one person urging the others to give me space etc. These two places less than half a mile apart but it was definitely a non posh vs posh area

In my small, quiet village, I would ask someone in that state if I could help at all. I probably know them anyway.

I wouldn’t (and haven’t) in larger towns/cities though, particularly when it’s dark and there aren’t many other people about. Even if they were calling out for help, I wouldn’t necessarily stop - especially if they sounded very drunk/mentally unwell. I might call the police/an ambulance for them but I wouldn’t stop.

It’s really hard to ask people for help - even more so when they are strangers - but the older we get and the farther we go it is the reality. I had this talk over Christmas with my folks - ask for help LOUDLY - and tell them to call me on the phone. Totally get the shame factor and the shock and the wanting to plough on through. But there does come a time when you have to accept that accidents happen and sometimes we all need help that is unanticipated.