Every single year I make a fuss out of my dhs birthday without fail. We’ve been together for 12 years, out of those 12 years I’d say he’s bothered with my birthday about 4 times and one of the times were because I made a point.
It’s my birthday next week and I already know it’s going to be the same. He has no money (I know this cos he showed me his bank account earlier) and he’s point blank said, don’t expect a surprise cos he hasn’t got me anything not even a card. He then went on to say the car we both bought for both of us (in July) was my birthday present, and the gifts he got me for Christmas (which I must say he only got me gifts for Christmas because again, I made a point) were for my birthday too🤣
Apperently I’m an adult so I don’t need a card or anything. Except this doesn’t ring true when it’s his mum or work mates etc.
AIBU to be annoyed yet again? I’m not being entitled or spoilt but I’d be happy with a card or a cheap bunch of flowers and I don’t even get that. He knows it comes around each year so not sure why it takes him as a surprise?
My best friend knows what hes like so she’s come through and ordered me stuff from the kids cos she knows he won’t and how upset I was last year.
For context , last year he bought me nothing , I was upset so he went round his mums and he gave him
some of her perfume to give to me . I only found this out because I saw the messages from her a few months later. My own family don’t bother with me in like the black sheep of the family so I’m lucky to even get a call from my mum or dad on my birthday let alone a card so I don’t know maybe it feels worse 😔