To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

My guess is that he is not happy about not being the centre of attention.

exDP was absolute apple of his mother’s eye. She died 2 years before DC1 was born. He had been the centre of her attention all his life. When I hooked up with him, he was also the centre of my attention.

i had some more minor incidents of similar behaviour to what you describe before DC1 was born . When DC1 was 8 weeks, that is when his psychological campaign of domestic abuse started. I eventually left. It was very hard to leave:

He did this deliberately to pay you back for not cooking for him the he gaslit you. Leave and don't look back. Don't tell him where you are, you don't want any involvement with family courts.

He's doing fuck all now and this is an easy time - once you have the baby he'll magically be out all the time working and at the gym and doing his own hobbies and you will get nothing from him.

Leave now and seriously cut him out of your life. Give the baby your surname.

It’s only going to get worse. He’ll be like a second child when you have your baby. Run for the hills.

If cooking 'stresses' him out then a baby will make him walk! He is a selfish prick and I for one would be rethinking my whole future! Good luck!

sounds like he is a very selfish person in general and the cake has been the straw to break the camels back! if he is like this at the start of your pregnancy then he will be 10 times worse if you don't tell him straight how you feel about his behaviours and attitudes, get it sorted now before you run yourself into the ground, you need to take care of you and the baby, not a man-child

Being 31 weeks pregnant I feel you!! I’d be fuminggggg. That’s really horrible of him to eat the entire thing!! And then to pretty much blame you for not feeding him, the audacity. I’d be on a no cooking strike for the next month, see to yourself you selfish cake eating ba….d

You wouldn’t be leaving him over chocolate cake, you’d be leaving him because he’s selfish and lazy and has no concern for you.
If you stay with him, be prepared to do all the night wake ups, all the early morning, all the arranging childcare and having to take time off work every time the baby is sick. He won’t improve.
if he cannot be considerate of his partner when she’s pregnant with his child, he will never be considerate of you.

Have you ever been on Mumsnet before? There’s nothing on here except marketing and bitching.

Let Eve do whatever she’s doing. Posting on here isn’t exactly going to make people decide they suddenly want to order some cake through the bloody post is it. This site is 50% people who claim they never eat cake or UPFs anyway and are slim enough to fit through their own letterbox which they’re hardly going to want sullying with “viral cake”, and the other 50% are pleading poverty so won’t be able to stretch to that.

FFS raise your standards - hes a selfish twat who is not going to be a good father/husband. Leave him now - hes showing you who he is early on, believe him.

This man is going to be fucking unbearable when there’s a newborn around stealing his attention.

Yes and it's free cake. We can agree to disagree, but don't cake block the OP!

I completely disagree.

They are using her to look good. This could have been handled privately if they really wanted to do something nice, without using the company name in the username.

It's cynical, calculated, free marketing.

Who are the 4%? Blimey - the bloke is an utter selfish prick!

There is a time and place. On a thread (if it is genuine) about a woman in a terrible relationship while pregnant, to a man we all know is going to get worse and worse is not the time nor place to get their name out there.

Wow, people are really cnuts sometimes. So what if get baked thought they would get a bit of free publicity. They are also offering free cake. Stop being snarky gits about it and let the woman have her free cake FFS.

But your user name itself means you are marketing just by replying on the thread!

It's cynical and unpleasant and you are using a distressed woman to make your company look good.

Leave her alone ffs. She didn't mention which company made the cake did she? So neither should you.

Edited to add, I've reported your first comment as being spam/advertising.

We were sent it by multiple followers and wanted to help out where possible.

There is no intention to use during marketing. I am not a mum myself so didn't know PM was possible.

I have now reached out to OP personally. Thank you for pointing out the error.

I’d be leaving him because he’s a selfish lazy bastard, the cake is the final straw.

If you have never used Mumsnet before how did you find out about this thread?

This is very unpleasant.

Yeah it’s left a bad taste in my mouth too. @GetBakedEve how did you hear about this thread?

Funny thing is, it almost worked! I’d forgotten about those cakes and since it’s mine and my partner’s anniversary this weekend, I actually thought that I’d order one as a treat. But then you posted and seeing you come onto the thread publicly and do this has changed my mind. I won’t be ordering. It’s either all made up as a marketing ploy, which is a really bad move or you’ve seen a woman in a horrible relationship and decided to try and use her situation to get yourself some publicity and sales. If you wanted to do something nice for her, you should have done it quietly and privately and let the OP post about it if she wanted to. But using her situation to get yourself name out there… nope. I won’t be ordering the cake now.

I never understand posters who start a thread and don't return to respond to the replies. Why start it then? I can understand why some people suspect it was a marketing ploy. It's such weird behaviour otherwise.

This 100%

Hi there.

This is absolutely not a marketing ploy. I have never used Mumsnet before so did not know I could PM. Thank you for letting me know, I will do so now.

Thanks,
Eve