To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

I've got a great solution.
You obviously dont want to be ' Cooking ' now as it ' s too tiring. MY suggestion is : go to the store and stock up on Salad items; put it all in the Fridge with plenty of Cold Meats and Salad dressings. Then he can help himself to this when he's hungry and you can have a sabbatical rest for a few days. Keep these items always in the fridge for him , for when he's hungry; then that let's everyone relax abd not worry about meal prep .

Oh wow is that what's happening? I thought it was weird how some posters never come back.

She’s never come back. It’s another long AI scam post. So many long posts on here now with an Op who never comes back. Ruining this site.

So very sorry it has taken the pregnancy for you to see what type of person he really is deep down. No-one deserves such a knobhead for a father. Don't do it to your child.

@Granddama

such bad advice.

what do you mean “at this point in her pregnancy”. Now is the easiest time for her to end things (including the pregnancy if she so wishes)

Get help. If you want to stay in relationship with a fella who won’t do much.. use his money to pay for help.. so a cleaner and hello fresh?

Get out now why you can ! You might feel vulnerable and needy because you are pregnant and feel like you need him in your life. Seriously you dont! Please believe me, i had children with somebody like this and it was the biggest mistake of my life! Everything just got worse and worse especially when the baby came along. If you really want this baby, do it on your own.You can do it and you will manage and you will be so much happier. I would seriously think about it though, do you want a baby with a man like this? You have options at the moment and think about what you really want in life. Do not settle just because of the situation. You deserve so much more than this waste of space.

He should be pampering you not eating your favourite cake all on his own.
He's utterly selfish and I honestly don't think men like this have any desire to change.

You need to decide whether or not you want to go ahead with the pregnancy while it's still early days.

This guy is not a partner - you're his friend with benefits, cook, cleaner and most important of all, his new mammy.

Ditch him and move on.

Tell him you are not his slave and why couldn't he cook dinner and breakfast?? WTF. Stop running round after him. If my DH had done this (he would not have) I would have asked if he had lost the use of his legs being so lazy and selfish. I am sorry to say it but if he is this bad before the baby is born he will be worse afterwards.

So sorry Op..... you deserve better.

Why do so many women...( or is it just on MN?... think it's OK to put up with these men who are useless and selfish??

I've had a few relationships and every one of them have been kind and supportive and proper gentlemen... have I just been lucky???

Try Marriage counselling. It's a hard road alone and every child deserves to be bought up in an atmosphere of love. It sounds like he resents you working and probably feels guilty for not working whilst you are. Money isn't the issue here, it's male pride. It does sound as if you need to point out a few home truths and tell him exactly how you feel about his attitude. Remind him that you're in an equal partnership. Alternatively you could go on strike!!!! Feed yourself [and the baby] at work. Leave his washing as he folds it and do your own. He might just realise just how much you do for him. Whatever you do, don't leave him, the last thing you need is the upheaval of finding somewhere to live at this point in your pregnancy.

Another one saying it will only get worse. He should be bursting a gut to care for you. He is showing his true colours. This is very subtle abuse - he is setting out the map for the future...... not stepping up and blaming you for all his shit.

Im sorry. This is difficult. As someone else said, its early enough for decisions tp be made.

He ate the cake becaus he is selfish and greedy and was punishing you. He could have had a bit or a quarter or half. He would have thought of you and thought f*ck her. And when you quite rightly ask about it, you are blamed.

He could share parenting - he wont. He could support you when you are ill and have a baby/toddler to look after. He wont. He could do a fair or equal share of planning/shopping/cooking/cleaning/laundry/admin - he wont. He is showing he wont do that now, even when on reduced hours and you are growing a human.

Another way to look at it - what positive things has he done for you and baby?

All the best to you. Take care.

He was hungry because YOU didn’t cook him dinner and YOU didn’t make him breakfast? Is he four? What grown adult can’t grab himself a bite to eat for tea when his wife is sick in bed? And can’t get his own BREAKFAST? FFS.

Nah. Leave. Once baby comes he will be much worse and you will resent him for not lifting afinger

Don't stay with this man. Don't. Run far far away from him. He's screaming who he is and what you can expect from him. Listen. Oh I am so sorry you're in this position.

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time" Maya Angelou (or something like this). He will get steadily worse when baby comes or you will stick at it for sake of child, then children and eventually your life will become such a misery you will have to claw your way back out taking years to rid yourself of the dead weight of him. Please get out now. My ex finished off our wedding cake (a hummingbird bakery one when that was a big deal) without offering to share with my family who had traveled from overseas to attend wedding or with me, new wife. My mother has never forgotten this. It didn't get better.

I can't figure out if you truly think the cake is the issue, and don't recognize that issue is that you seem to have a lazy inconsiderate partner there.

Exactly how is he your partner?

I agree. You've got 4-5 weeks until it would be sensibly, really too late to terminate.
Call in all your support network - if you have one (not everyone does) - you need to do some crash thinking.
If you decide to go solo you'll need to work out a survival plan. Quickly.

Thank God you've seen this side of him now before it's too late. Get rid of him, leave him whatever but you do not need this useless, pathetic scumbag in your life.

Alarm bells are ringing with his laziness and eating all of your treat. I would have a deep chat before baby comes as you may be doing more for the baby than him.

@AreliabfMite has posted once then gone.

it must be hard to read all these posts against this idiot @AreliabfMite but there's a reason everyone is saying the same.

He was hungry because pregnant exhausted you didn't make HIM breakfast ?? WTAF !!!!! How hard is it to make toast or cereal ? He wants a mum or nanny not a partner !

No one should eat someone else’s GetBaked without consent. Not least a pregnant lady.

LTB. Seriously. Wishing you all the best throughout your pregnancy. But seriously it's easier on your own than with a lazy selfish prick of a partner