To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

He will get worse. Baby crying will be too stressful, he won't manage to change a nappy. Making bottles?, far too complicated. 7 weeks into the pregnancy and he's this pathetic already? Why bother, you'll have enough baby to look after when the 9 months are up, so why burden yourself with a man shaped baby too.

Do not have a baby with this utter incompetent twat. Your life will be a misery

It was absolutely a punishment.

OP imagine in 8 months, having given birth, possible stitches, trying to establish breastfeeding, no sleep ....and this pathetic creature expects you to cook for HIM??

I’m joking! I understand perfectly well. This man is a prick and OP should dump him

Literally why would you tie yourself to this man he will get worse and worse
Cooking breakfast for him? Are you taking the piss or just happy to be a mug

Especially since he's working 20 hours only a week....

Yeah, he’s no good.

Run. You deserve so much better than this. You will be better off on your own.

You didn't make breakfast? Is he incapable of putting some cornflakes and milk in a bowl? Can he make a cup of tea?

OMG, he's showing you who he really is OP, a lazy misogynist pig who expects you to do all the cooking and housework because you're the woman. He has no empathy for your sickness and fatigue either. It won't get any better. Consider carefully if you want to stay with this twat, and also whether you want to co-parent with him. You'll be the one doing all the work in the home and for the baby. I doubt if he'll step up.

His excuse was that he was hungry because I didn’t cook last night and didn’t make breakfast this morning.

It wouldn't surprise me if he threw it away as a punishment.

So many 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 OP!

He is a prick and things will be much harder if you have this baby.

Did you skip comprehension classes in school?

OMFG what a selfish prick. Id be raging.

What a way to miss the point.

All, by him.

Without even asking.

If he wants to eat all the babies food, that’s for him too of course.

Bloody hell the cake is just the final straw! He is showing you that he will be completely handing over ALL childcare duties to you and will also not lift a finger with household stuff. If you want to raise two babies go ahead. I’d be sitting him down and TELLING him he has to man up and be an adult. I’m afraid though that he will not stick around (or will if you are happy to mother him too).

I think you’re being MASSIVELY unreasonable painting this in the way a typical selfish man would. This isn’t over a piece of chocolate cake.

He’s selfish, he’s thoughtless, he’s lazy, he sees unpaid shitwork as your job. He chronically under functions.

AND he’s a gaslighting cunt.

Get a termination (because getting him to step up in any way is going to be more bad there that you won’t need) l, leave him and go be happy.

you have one precious life -and I say that as a 50 year old woman who’s had more than her fill of gaslighting, chronically under functioning, emotionally toxic, cunts.

its just food OP, its there to be eaten

I would be really upset about this @AreliabfMite. Firstly refusing to cook even though you feel sick and are working longer hours than him at the moment. And then the cake thing would really feel like the last straw

I would urge you to leave him and have a termination.

if you leave him but have the baby, you will never get a penny of maintenance from him. If he ever has the baby you’ll be worried about him being incompetent/neglectful. Worst case scenario he will deliberately be neglectful and abusive to your child knowing it’s a way to abuse and control you, and the family courts WILL give him access.

please cut your ties with this awful man.

He was forced to eat a giant slidlce of chocolate cake that his pregnant partner bought, because she was mean and didn't cook him dinner or breakfast? That's absolutely pathetic and would make me lose all respect for him.

It's quite common for people to revert to the roles their parents had, or become abusive, in pregnancy. And it doesn't normally get better.

I'd be seriously considering whether I wanted to continue with this pregnancy and relationship

Leave him or marry him but don’t move forward without some financial security in place.

He’s mean and selfish, I can’t imagine for a moment he’ll do his share of parenting.

YWBU to leave him if it was just over chocolate cake but this isn’t.
He is showing you no respect and I think this may be down to the fact you said he “came round to the idea” of the baby.
It doesn’t sound like he has and YWNBU to leave him over this and the way he has treated you.
Id think very hard about having a child with someone as incompetent as him.
He sounds awful

The cake thing is symptomatic of his whole personality and attitude to your relationship. I’d go nuclear.

He's useless and he's going to remain useless. Worse, when you try to pick him up on it, he will flip it to being your fault (hormonal etc) or be defensive or consider it to be nagging. I would consider getting rid of him and consider whether you want to be tied to such a selfish useless twat for the next 2 decades with a baby.

He is a self centered man child. Unless he can offset his uselessness by being willing to learn and/or earning a lot of money so that his shortcomings can be fixed with help from people like cleaners/similar, you are condemned to a lifetime of idiocy.