To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

This is only going to get worse. My exdp was shocked when I showed him the pregnancy test. We were trying but didn't think the first time we had sex I'd catch!

He took me out to buy vitamins that afternoon, and cooked for mE when I asked (which wasn't often as I enjoy cooking), done all the washing and ironing, done all the hoovering and all the washing up. And he carried on doing those things until he moved out.

You're with a man who showing his true colours and it is only going to go down hill from here. He's shown you that he doesn't prioritise you and neither will be the baby. I'd be seriously considering the relationship. Sorry.

It sounds like you’re going to be doing everything once the baby arrives, so why not start as you mean to go on. Otherwise it’ll be like looking after two kids; a baby and a man-child.

Well, the relationship may have been ‘fine’, but it isn’t now and probably will get a lot worse when the baby arrives. Sounds like you’re in for a life of drudgery with this loser, or you’re going to be a single parent.

You need to have a serious talk with this lazy arse - but please do not put up with it.

Are you sure you want to continue with this pregnancy because this is going to be the father of your child and he hasn’t shown one slightest bit of care

The MN consensus that poor OP should terminate both her relationship and her pregnancy seems a bit drastic to me. Yes, it was thoughtless of him, and he should do better, but you should probably cut both him and yourself some slack in the circumstances. If you do take the MN advice, I'd recommend, next time you are about to start a family, having a bit of a clearer idea that both prospective parents want and are ready for it, and committed to the long-term obligations that go with it.

Well it's not going to get better.

He ate it because you didn't cook for him?

That's not on. It's not too late for you to dump him and make alternative arrangements.

What a selfish asshole. I would be making him drive to said shop tomorrow and buy a replacement cake. He’s pretty much part time so he has plenty of time on his hands.

So he's only working 20 hours a week and doing nothing around the house.

You are pregnant, working 45 hours a week and doing all the cooking and he deliberately ate all the cake that you had bought to relieve your pregnancy cravings.

He is a toxic wanker and I'd reconsider having a baby with him. If you want keep the baby, you would probably be better off as a single parent as he is equally selfish and useless.

This Makes me so sad. You poor thing, Op. you deserve much better. I hope you will get it.

GURL

Him eating that all was the ICING ON THE CAke, pun very much intended.

This guy is a total douche bag and doesn’t deserve you in the slightest.

This won't get any better. He is lazy and will still be lazy if you stay together.

I don't know how far along you are, but it sounds like you will be a solo parent to two people in your household. if you continue with the pregnancy and stay with this manchild.

Do you want to be a single parent or do you still have options?

There was a viral trend about men eating women’s food

https://www.buzzfeed.com/sienaegiljum/men-weaponize-food-stories

Yanbu to expect him not to touch your fucking food.

Three years you have wasted on this loser. You are basically his mammy now.

This looks like deliberate nastiness. Really worrying with the pregnancy. You need some support in deciding what to do.

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Never mind leaving him I think I'd actually kill him.

Is he incapable of putting cereal in a bowl and pouring milk on top? Of course not. He wanted to eat your treat.

LTB now and consider a termination. Or your absolute best look out is 18 + years of parenting alone ahead. He won't help. Worse still would be you'll be running round after him too.

How dud he survive begore you came along?
You want a partner who will be competent to cook for you and child at very least.
Consider options.
Do not cook for him.
What will happen?
Are you renting or mortgage?
Hope you have a good income and mat pay because you will be alone in carrying everything

Stop doing him any meals or washing. You're not his maid, he needs to man up and quick. He's a man child. Let's hope he vomits after being such a glutton eating the cake. Give him 2 options. 1 he bucks up and starts being a supportive partner and contributes towards household duties to make life easier and become a responsible parent or 2 , if nothing changes, bin him off

LTB

So hes lazy and incompetent, and you think your relationship is good??

He is not going to suddenly get better when you have a baby. He will get worse.

Do you want to have a baby? You have options.

If you do want to have the baby, then kick him out first

You’ve lived with him for 2 years, has he always been like this? If so why on earth would you have kept him for that long? If not, and this is new “pregnancy” behaviour I’d run for the hills. He’s showing you exactly what to expect as a parent.

Throw him out. The cake incident is a metaphor for your doomed future if you don’t.

Sounds like you’re already taking care of a baby.