To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

He's a selfish cunt. Leave.

I'm sorry OP. Unless you've been pregnant, you will never understand pregnancy cravings! Mine were full fat coke (from a plastic bottle only not a can... 🤷‍♀️) I'd have killed someone of they had drunk mine!!!!
Anyway, once the baby is here you will have TWO children to look after. It will be awful and you will hate him so much that you will ask him to leave very early on.
My advice is you sit down with him now and spell it out as clear as day what he has to do in order to salvage whats left of your relationship or he packs his bags tomorrow and leaves. Simple as that. The stress of having a man-child about with a newborn will far out weigh any slight use he will have to the relationship

He sounds dreamy.

Bin him the fuck off. He is a prick

Chuck him out. He's lazy, thoughtless and entitled. He steals your lovely treats even when he knows you got it for yourself; he doesn't pull his weight; he expects you to work full time, cook him food, do the housework all while pregnant and feeling awful while he drifts through a 20 hour week.

It will only get worse when you actually have a baby.

You deserve more from life than this. It's never 'just' about the cake.

Start making a log of all events so that you can build a case against him if need be.

Oh OP, no. Have the baby if you choose, but don't waste a second more of your life on this relationship. I'm sorry.

It’s only going to get worse. He’s dreadful, not partner quality let alone a co-parent.
Do you want to be a single parent? If not you still have time….

You have two ‘good’ options. Leave and be a single mum, or leave and terminate.

You have one ‘bad’ option, stay.

You have one terrible option, terminate and stay.

Choose your hard.

He is showing you what he is, ie a selfish git.
I vote get rid.
The sooner you do it the easier it will be

OP, this is awful.

The reason so many of us are reacting in the same way is that we're picking up on what he isn't doing for you.

Many men have no idea what pregnancy is like or how hard the first trimester is - I went straight to bed after work every evening. You're tired to your bones. And I couldn't eat anything.

Some think we're making up pregnancy symptoms for attention and are resentful that they're expected to be considerate.

It's entirely reasonable to see this as a revealing choice on his part - he chose to eat the full thing rather than just about any other better choice. He could have cooked; had a bowl of cereal; got a takeaway. It's like he was punishing you a few times over - not cooking for him, being away for the weekend, perhaps the pregnancy too because you can't give him your full housework load.

Also: pay attention to the signals that his work are sending him. If they don't have enough work for him, they may choose to make him redundant. He may be anxious about this, fair enough, but bingeing on your cake and slobbing at home feeling sorry for himself isn't going to help the anxiety.

He needs to get his backside into gear and ready to find a new job if he has a child to support, whether you remain together or not.

You have a child already OP. Him. He ate your cake because you didnt feed him? Pathetic

Get out now - he will only get worse

And of course, it’s all your fault he guzzled the entire cake. Of course.
How does that saying go ? … “when someone shows you who they are…

Well he isnt magically going to get any better is he.

Run fast

Run far

At 7 weeks pregnant, you will have been suffering symptoms for only a couple of weeks and he’s this crap already? It will be a million times worse when the baby is here.

I’m going to ask though. How were you unexpectedly pregnant with a bloke who didn’t really want children? If he said he didn’t want kids, you told him contraception was sorted and then had an ‘accident’ you can’t really be surprised if he hasn’t stepped up. Not saying it happened like this but it’s made me think.

OP it would seem he does not want the baby - you say he was ''terrified'' when you told him. He wants to carry on as before. Time to rethink everything asap.

Ignoring the cake i'd be looking to end it.

What you describe arent minor squabble they are fundamental problems

He cant cook a basic meal for 2 working 20hrs a week? Can't manage an omlette, pasta and sauce, beans on toast???

Just no.
My dh was doing 50 hr weeks and making nutritious meals for brealfast lunch and dinner. He would make my lunch every day as I would sleep 12-12.55 and then eat what he made 12.55-1 and go back to work (i worked from home)

I couldn't be with a man like that and honestly i wouldn't want a child as it would mean I was tied to his useless fucking arse for 18yrs plus

There are bigger issues than the cake itself.
You are working long hours, he is at home, yet cannot cook for you both, or even do something simple I presume like beans on toast if he can't be arsed with a proper dinner hence why he didn't eat last night.
The breakfast comment is really pathetic...my children can get themselves cereal or pop a waffle in the toaster to feed themselves. Why is he waiting for you to feed him?
Do you really want a child with this man? He will do absolutely nothing, and create work. You will be better off without him.

That really is so nasty of him. He is Pathetic

You need, you MUST, end this relationship

Sadly, there are far too many threads on mumsnet similar to this one. I think there should be a banner at the top of mumsnet telling women not to have babies with lazy incompetent men.

When someone shows you their true self, believe it!
This is not going to improve, it will only get worse from here on in. You need to leave. I don't really know how to phrase this without sounding cold, but you also need to consider the future of your pregnancy. A baby will tie you to this selfish, red flag waving man-child for at least 18 years (regardless of whether you stay in the relationship, or not).

It’s never just food.

Fuck that id be getting an abortion and leaving him. He will expect you to mother him for the rest of your life.