To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

It was a really ill judged move from @GetBakedEve

Everyone else was recommending LTB but Eve thought more cake would instantly solve him being a selfish arsehole and make everything OK.

It’s odd though

look how great we are sending cake to a pregnant woman whose abusive husband ate hers when she was craving it so much! Solving the worlds problems one at a time!

🤣 and this ‘Eve’ has just been announced as the new face of social media for GetBaked on Instagram. Someone trying to go viral I think!

Leave him unless you want to be tandem feeding your newborn and baby partner.

Instead of apologising profusely for his greed and trying to make it up to you, he is gaslighting you and being a shit.

Most other partners would be treating you like glass right now. I'm sorry but unless you are happy to be a single parent I would be reconsidering your future.

He on the other hand - "the break up came out of no-where over a slice of cake!"

You deserve better

I’d rather think it is that. I wish in that instance though that they’d come back and say “all sorted, no need to worry, thread closed”.

I can't believe people are still responding to this nonsense

When you moved in he Decided to do nothing round the house because he has a wife appliance now.

Why did you get pregnant by this man?. It will only get worse. Maybe you can try counselling.

You're only just pregnant, it's not going to get any better.

Make him get the train to get you a new one. While he’s doing that kick him out.

Sounds like he kind of hates you a bit? I wouldn't put up with that.

You’re not ending it because he ate your cake, you’d be ending it because he’s a twat.

Leave.. it's not going to get better, you will just get more and more put upon,and more and more resentful. He sounds a spoilt,childish,selfish,smug gaslighting chauvinist .....the more pregnant,than had baby,your ill,life etc the more support,teamwork and understanding is needed in a relationship...he can't even say sorry,he puts it onto your totally reasonable and understandable reaction that's the problem...and if he apologises at a later date it doesn't count or matter,it's just to shut you up...your life will be a depressing up hill battle with him.And your son learns that's how you treat women,and your daughter learns that you accept being treated like that.Your supposedly closest person to you,who loves you so much . Neither gender child needs that as an example of love and partnership..

If you can't face a termination raise the child alone. You will be anyway and it will easier to raise just the baby minus the manbaby.

He hates you.

Imagine all of this while dealing with a little baby postpartum. His behaviour is likely to get worse not better.

Just to add - no one is owed a response from the OP, and to say that the post is fake is pretty unfair!

I myself have posted in the past (some time ago) and all of the responses on here can be really really overwhelming!

I also tend to do things like this and be so completely in my head about the whole situation that I completely forget to come back and update.

so cut her some slack please!

Okay firstly, you wouldn’t be leaving him over a cake, would you? It’s all of the other shit combined.

Secondly, you say you snapped ‘a bit’. I don’t think I’m alone in saying I would have snapped A LOT!

Please don’t stay with this man, you’ll only be making life difficult for yourself and your child.

I know people say ‘leave him’ like it’s easy, and it’s not because I’ve been there. But it’s a whole load easier than staying in the long run.

Talk to him now, tell him you don’t think the relationship is working. Make it clear how unhappy you are and that you don’t want this to carry on.

Whether you keep the baby or not is YOUR decision and no one else’s. But you’d be better off as a single mum than with this lazy man child.

It's not about the cake its about his behaviour. He ate the cake to punish you for not cooking for him. Honestly it will only get worse. You need to leave now. Tesco do a dupe of that cake if its the one I'm thinking of.

Just because they haven’t come back with an update, doesn’t make it fake.

Sure, we would all love an update, but I expect the OP probably has a lot of thinking, and hard decisions to make.

I also suspect the ‘hopefully soon to be ex’, won’t handle her decision like a grown up either and will probably pull other gaslighting shit on her.

She is also very tired and dealing with morning sickness. Maybe she’s dealing with organising a heart breaking termination, we don’t know.

@AreliabfMite We are all rooting for you to do what’s right for you, as long as it doesn’t involve him being in your life anymore.

We would love an update when you can.

@AreliabfMite

Sorry, OP, but this. It’s not about the cake, that was the final straw.

If you’re really wanting the baby, then go solo, but the stress you’ll get from him being in your life but as a useless man baby, just won’t be worth it.

Don’t under estimate the harm from the weaponised incompetence and the role he clearly sees you in now.

Run!!

Well exactly. This is why I struggle to believe people do this. Surely this is an OP who posted in frustration, knows what she needs to do and is now embarrassed with the overwhelming opinion that confirms it. Perhaps no more to add to the discussion than sit quietly and read? Maybe I’m being generous in this interpretation.

He had to eat a massive cake as you didn't cook his dinner or breakfast...He knows you are not his mum right? And he isnt a helpless child?.
I would say it would be wise to grab your stuff and plan a week or 2 with someone you are close to, completely block all contact with him, think about what you want with no rush or interference from him or you may find yourself doing this but in decades time with a huge stash of resentment and regret. If you do stay with him, a few weeks away with no contact will show him that you are not a doormat and he needs to get it together but in all honesty if you need to teach someone how to love you it doesn't feel like the real deal. Someone who loves and values you knows to cook for his pregnant wife when she has done a 10 hour day plus travel, he knows to get the house cosy and clean and he knows not to eat the food you are craving and show some kindness. Surely that's a bare minimum?
Not trying to scare you but with a beautiful brand new baby and having been through birth itself you need support, if he isn't up to the job I hope you have support elsewhere.
Telling you that your valid feelings are just hormonal and you needing to get over yourself is a giant fireball of a flag here.

You will be caring for 2 babies when you have your child.He will not change,will cause you huge anxiety to get what he wants.Get rid.