To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

He's selfish and immature. I wouldn't expect him to be much of a father, unfortunately.

Parenting solo is hard but it’ll be easier than looking after a baby and a manchild. He clearly is selfish, and blaming it all on you.

@Rosealea

do you think OP should just put up and shut up?

I read this out to my OH and his reply was "run for the hills".

He is showing you who he is, and he won't suddenly get better after the baby is born. You'll be even more exhausted and trying to raise 2 children. Selfish prick.

I hate to suggest thinking about termination, but he sounds downright nasty and will surely - at best - use any child as a weapon where he can to torment you. Think carefully on whether you want that for the next 18 years.

LTB

It's good he's shown you who he is properly. LTB!

Honestly I wouldn’t be procreating with him. He doesn’t sound like someone you want to be lumbered with if things turn nasty

Probably hard to read for OP, but nicely summed up.

Jesus Christ OP - I can’t even understand what you ever saw in this prick. Does he have a cock made of gold?
You’re pregnant, he’s not; he’s barely working yet you work FT, yet he doesn’t cook and expects you to cook for both of you, then he eats all your pregnancy-craving cake.
I honestly think that nothing good can come of this. Once the baby is here you’ll be doing EVERYTHING, for all 3 of you, plus work.
What a scummy man-child. Good luck with everything OP.

This is an ethical failure on his part.

Plus, you both see relationship responsibilities differently. He has some social conditioning that that makes him feel that he is entitled to be some little lazy Lord of the Manor in the house, while you run domestic goddess rings around him.

Honestly, I think you know that he didn't really want the baby, and he's really struggled to come to grips with the pregnancy.

It seems he's still confused, and is now acting out.

Unfortunately, this kind of confusion coupled with the deep societal conditioning around men's roles and women's roles is a really tough one to unpick. I don't get the feeling that he's actually got the emotional bandwidth to grow up in the way you need him to show up.

Obviously you're going to need to have a serious chat with him.

But, I had a lazy partner once. Weaponised incompetence. Complete victim mentality. Brutally unfair domestic situation. I tried. Hell, I adored the guy. I really tried. It did not get better.

Life is utter bliss without that chaos in my life. I'd rather be single any day than put up with a lazy, entitled partner. It's 10x more stressful being with a lazy person than going solo.

Good luck, OP. You've got a lot to think about.

If he was my son I would be mortified that he was such a selfish and self absorbed prick. Do not do this with him, you will likely be back in a years time asking how to leave him. Why is he expecting you to cook for him? Sorry, I’m struggling to get my head around this.

How is she being dramatic?

FWIW I also think the 'only seven weeks' bit is daft ... tons of people feel shit in the first trimester and fly through the later ones; it's not like pregnancy is a game with levels that gets progressively harder up to 40 weeks.

I cannot believe you are even considering having a child with this sorry specimen. He sounds an utter cunt. I hope you can get free and clear of him.

He blamed you because you didn’t feed him dinner or breakfast? So he didn’t eat anything then? Selfish prick.

He is an utter cunt .

In a nutshell, he doesn't give a shit about you.

She may have stopped responding but I do hope she's still reading and taking it in.

@3luckystars

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Your life will be shit if you stay with this man baby. Fgs leave.

You’re not leaving him over a cake, you’re leaving him because he’s a selfish man child. YANBU.

He’s a twat, dump him please

Was it Bruce though @AreliabfMite ? If so was it good? I’ve tried to get a slice loads of times but never managed it.

OP has gone it seems.

What do you think he will be like when you have a newborn and have been up all night? Run now whilst you can.

He sounds awful and will only get worse. When you’re on Maternity leave he’ll claim “you’re not working” and won’t lift a finger. He’s not pulling his weight now, is pushing boundaries and will continue to do so. He’ll gaslight you even more and you won’t know whether you’re coming or going, and he’ll make it sound like he’s doing you a favour by being around.

For your own sanity and you and your child’s future PLEASE listen to what those of us who’ve “been there and done that” are saying and leave. He’s adding nothing good to your life and if he can’t do that now, he won’t do it ever.

Why do I think, no I’m sure, you will be on here when baby is around 10 weeks old asking how you can get rid of ‘D’ P. If he’s like that now, what a shock you are in for. Start preparing now for life as a single parent.

You won't be leaving over a chocolate cake. You will be leaving as he is an abuser.