To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

Sorry, he sounds very selfish.

I went through this weaponised incompetence and unpleasant behaviour with my former partner during pregnancy - stuck with him because I felt I had to for the sake of the baby. Then followed a few years of him going into direct competition with the baby, with acts of increasing stupidity, infidelity and bad behaviour. One expensive divorce and years paying off his debts later I wished that I had followed my instincts and struck out on my own before the baby was born - I ended up doing everything alone anyway in a far worse financial situation. Like you, life had been pretty idyllic before pregnancy, although looking back this was just as long as he didn't have to take responsibility for anything. This idiot is showing you who he really is - believe what you see, and walk. You are strong enough to raise your child without Manchild sticking a spoke in your wheels each time he exhales. Be prepared for some soap opera style shenanigans and theatrics though - this comes with the Manchild territory.

Do you honestly think he is a good candidate to be the father of your children? He sounds like a nasty, petulant child himself.

Something similar was the catalyst for my parents divorce. The selfishly devoured food was just a symptom of a wider problem.

its only 7 weeks and he’s acting up. This a flashing neon sign to wake tf up.

you will get more tired and he will be worse and when there is baby he will unbearable. Why sign up for a life tied to this man.

Wow but hope you are as OK as can be.
I'd say lazy and selfish!!! Get a choc cake for yourself and run (or fastish walk if poss in your condition). Jesus, why is he not helping you willingly knowing how you are feeling. Can see you'll be the one doing the caring for the baby and he will just get worse x What is wrong with poxy blokes.

This. It’s not going to get any better

Seriously, I know this is not an easy decision as you are pregnant, but think seriously about what a life with this man child is going to be like?

He will not get better, he will likely not get up in the night to feed/ comfort the baby, he will not do his share of the housework, whilst you are recovering from childbirth . If he is man child now, who cannot feed himself, he will become even more unpleasant and useless when you need to prioritise your babies needs.

Take the trash out - get rid of him! I suggest a serious conversation where you clearly outline what your expectations of a partner are and he isn’t meeting them. Get him to move out and cook his own bloody meals. See if you miss him . . .

I’m so sorry OP - you asked the question knowing the answer yourself already and you are right. He’s exactly as everyone has said and he won’t change. At best (but actually the worst case scenario) he might know the words to say that give you hope and tie you to him a bit longer and at bit longer until you realise 5/10/15/20 years down the line that this magnificent cake was sending you the message that this is your sliding doors moment.
Having a baby with him will tie you to him forever, make no mistake, it’s not until you divorce or the kids go to college, it’s for life.
I’m so sorry men like this exist

My reading of the situation is he thinks you trapped him and will be delighted when you dump him.

“…he was hungry because I didn’t cook last night and didn’t make breakfast this morning”

What the actual fuck….

You’re genuinely insane if you stay with this one OP.

LTB

He is an abuser. It will get worse.

It’s only going to get worse darling, cut your losses now, and leave him. It’ll be for the best for you and your baby.

I feel angry on your behalf. Btw, my dad was like that. He did t get better. He got worse - a lot worse.

I truly find it difficult to believe that such despicable specimens live among us and can exist civilised societies with other humans partnering up with them! Is this for real? Please please expect and demand more from your life choices. Leave this idiot, you’re surely better alone…your cake would be yours to eat.

Oh and you’re leaving on more than the chocolate cake according to your OP?

The only consideration I see here is him picking you up from the station (btw, unless there's a good reason your parents can't travel, when you're pregnant and ill please encourage them to come to you-it seems you're the person doing everything for everyone now-and you should be getting the consideration!)
If it was just taking the cake, that would be one thing. Still rude, but as a one-off, no big deal. It's the other stuff you say that rankles.
If he is genuinely so stressed he can't remember how to cook, he needs to get help. Now. If he won't, then there's going to be real issues after the birth.

There is no doubt he will be a complete pain..bail out now as he should be thoughtful and doing a fair share of household chores. As for eating the cake...thats pure spite.

My ex partner started this when I was pregnant. Suddenly he had to do more and take on more responsibility and he did the same. I had a emergency c section, passed out during it from loss of blood.

The hospital i was in was absolutely horrid, told me I couldn't have any pain relief after due to some medication I was on (i wasn't they'd read it wrong). The very nignt I had him I asked him to please help me sit up in bed (I hate asking for help, I am I'll do it myself kind of woman always have been) and he said "press your buzzer that's what they're there for" I was fueled by rage at that point, so i just sat up, packed everything up & i went home the next day. He slept in till 1/2pm most days so I was on my own seeing to our son, 2 dogs and house work.

He even made me drive 6 days after to get the click and collect food shop bc he had "dodgy belly" and could "s##t" himself it he went. (This was incredibly dangerous i know but it was Christmas week and I couldn't risk not having the food in)

Because the baby had 99% of my attention, he became an absolute knobhead. He knows exactly what he is doing and if he's behaving like this now, he will be even worse when baby is here. Nip this in the bud with him now or you'll be miserable like i was the whole pregnancy & just after and I wouldn't wish that on anyone darling. It should be a magical experience that you look back on & can't wait to do it again xxx

Honestly I’d be considering abortion, this doesn’t sound like a good man to have a child with. Even if you split, he’s still going to be in your life forever. Find a better father for your future child.

He ate the cake as punishment because you didn’t feed him.

He’s a nasty piece of work isn’t he?

What was he like before the pregnancy?

I ask as we were blindsided by ours. I couldn’t ignore it as I got the symptoms and needed to make the life changes. DH was probably in shock the whole time, although we both decided to go with it. Because he was caring beforehand, generally looking out for me and supporting me in a number of ways, I kept with him. We’d been together a very long time. But any mention of a pregnancy symptom or limitation seemed to bring up the thing he couldn’t quite process and was burying - that we were going to be parents.

Now, with a 9yr old, this weekend for example he‘s done far more parenting than me.

You wouldn't be leaving him over a chocolate cake.
You would be leaving him over his lack of care and concern for you.

He sound vile, selfish and thick. Was he nice before? You are having his baby and he tells you to get over yourself. He’s not willing to do anything to help out or make you feel cared for. I’d have been out the door so fast. How old are you? I think I’d be considering all options in your shoes.

Correct. He's not going to suddenly step up and take on chores he can't be arsed to now when there's the aditional stress, fatigue and care of the baby in the mix too.

Sounds like the type that will expect dinner on the table the minute you are home from the hospital! You will be sore, exhausted, feeding a baby and hormonal and he is going to be whinging about there being no food cooked for him or breakfast. I would get out now before baby arrives as he isn’t going to change.