To want to leave my partner over a chocolate cake

You have been given the gift of finding out early on what he is, and hearing from the women on here what your life will be if you stay. Please don't choose that.

Truly I'd be reconsidering the pregnancy as this is not a man to procreate with. If you are only 7 weeks you still have choices and I'd be thinking long and hard about what you want and who you want it with. This man will not be a good father who will share in the hard work.

Currently showing 96% YANBU with 3700 votes by the way

It’s so much easier to split now than when you have children to feel guilty about. Trust me, life with him acting like a child while you try to care for an actual child will be miserablel. You can have a happy home with just you and your baby (and 10% of his wages via CMS).

What planet do you come from?

'chocolate cake is for children'

utter nonsense.

I can't agree chocolate cake is for children.

I don't think I can imagine anything more pathetic than a grown man spontaneously tucking into a chocolate cake.

(the exception would be stoically eating a portion to be polite)

My thoughts exactly. Don’t stay with him at the very least.

Agree with this 100%. Unfortunately having a baby will mean always having a connection to him and he could make you and your child’s life miserable.

Perfectly ordinary men eat chocolate cake FFS.

Leave and have a long hard think as to whether you want to have his baby. You are early enough to have options.

Terminate and leave. No necessarily in that order. You do not have to tell him how the pregnancy ended.
You can have a baby in the future with a human being and not this monster.

He's painting a picture of how your life will be and how little he respects you. Believe everything he is showing you as the reality if his behaviour.
It will not improve.

Nothing new to add but I have to comment to show support.

He is awful, leave.

And what sort of grown man eats chocolate cake anyway?

I’m sorry OP, whatever he is telling you in words about wanting this baby is a lie. His actions are telling you that he clearly doesn’t.

You need to decide if you want to continue the pregnancy alone. Obviously the relationship is over.

It's when you are pregnant and/or unwell that you see the real 'them'. You see their real true colours. If they step up to the plate. He failed the test, and BIG TIME. He didn't even make you dinner (anything you could manage to eat even), and to boot ate your entire cake and blamed YOU for not serving him dinner like a slave and dutiful wife, and you're not even 2 months pregnant yet, let alone the baby has been born. He has sexist and misogynist attitudes and expectations, and he won't lift a finger when the baby is born. He's a lazy misogynist pig. Do you really want to be tied to this pig for the next 18 years? You chose the wrong person as a partner and father. Ditch him in the gutter now, and book a clinic appointment. He showed you his real self when you were unwell. He failed big time!

It sounds like you already have a child because he seems more like a very selfish teenager than an adult man

I don't believe he can't cook either, anyone can put food in an oven for the right time or put bread in the toaster for breakfast. Its not like you expect michelin star level meals just basics.

Leave him - you'll be much happier

This isn’t just over a bit of cake. LEAVE THIS ASSHOLE! I can’t state this strongly enough. He’s cruel and he’s going to get more sadistic when you have a baby and aren’t being his maid/ nanny/ cook.

The OP only posted it after 5pm yesterday! Only around 9 hours ago! Give her a bloody chance! It's after midnight now, ffs. If they don't come back after two days, then you'd have a point.

I don’t know what you say in the UK, but in California we call this behavior chicken shit.

And worse, instead of rushing out to replace your cake he tried to shame you?

Leave the selfish bastard.

No man is better than a selfish arsehole.

Another non returning OP

think we've been had! Again.

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It was not at all clear you were joking. I too thought you were serious, as did plenty of others.

Leave the twat and do it alone. Babies are cute, man babies are a turn off. If you are not brave enough right this minute I promise in a few weeks from now you will hate much more about him. Be brave

I hope you’ve gone through the replies on here. I have friends with kids and have seen the effect on women of having children with the wrong person. One in particular is a single mum, the father to her 13 year old son does absolutely nothing as a parent. Badmouths her to the son; doesn’t contribute a penny in child maintenance or even expenses towards special occasions and keeps his bedsit so filthy that the son hates coming to visit.

He is a textbook narcissist so tries to control my friends life even though they’ve been apart years, she can’t meet a new man without him finding out and intimidating the new person. Police won’t get involved, it is believed that he is an informant for them so any time she has tried to get a protection order they simply don’t show up in court to give evidence. All the details I’ve written are very circumstantial and particular to this case but the point is my friend couldn’t have anticipated this being the outcome when having a child with this man, or when she left him.

Think long and hard about what your future looks like with and without this man and baby. I think he very possibly doesn’t want this baby but now that you’re pregnant his shortcomings are becoming more obvious.

Basically this :)

He's eaten an entire slice of Big Bertha?! How has he managed that? I wouldn't be surprised if he actually threw it away.

You aren't leaving because of cake, you're leaving because that was the straw that broke the camels back. He's shown his true colours now.

Kick his ass out of the house and don't let him back in again until he's gone and taken whatever trains are necessary, and gotten you a replacement cake! :)