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Is this too much to ask?

40 replies

thismummyslife · 11/01/2026 14:53

I’m not asking to go on a night out with friends, not asking to go and get my nails done or go shopping, not asking to have a bubble bath or a nap, simply asking for my DH to watch the kids whilst I do a deep clean? And it NEVER happens! How does everyone keep on top of things?

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shouldofgotamortage · 11/01/2026 15:55

how does everyone else keep on top of things?
I have a dh who actually cares about his family. Either you tell him to do the deep clean or watch the kids, stop being a wet blanket.

PepsiBook · 11/01/2026 15:54

Why can't he look after his own kid? Why's he not joining in the deep clean? Why's it all on you?

RosesAndHellebores · 11/01/2026 15:54

Leave him the mop, bucket, cloths and sprays, tell him you are taking the DC to the cinema and for pizza and when you get back, you expect the place to be spotless from top to bottom.

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 11/01/2026 15:52

Yeah, it shouldn’t be like that.

somanychristmaslights · 11/01/2026 15:49

Just get on and do it. If a child comes up to you to ask something, tell them go ask dad. If they did something, go ask dad.

Didimum · 11/01/2026 15:49

How does everyone keep on top of things?

I have a DH who cares about me.

WinterWooliesBaa · 11/01/2026 15:48

By not living with such a useless wanker. It is something you should consider.

DaisyChain505 · 11/01/2026 15:47

Your husband shouldnt be “watching” his kids like he’s doing you a favour. He’s their parent, he was 50% responsible for creating them and is still 50% responsible for them now.

Want more for yourself, raise your bar and don’t accept less than any woman, partner and parent deserves.

Bananalanacake · 11/01/2026 15:46

So do you actually go on nights out with friends and on shopping trips on your own or is that not possible as you make it sound like that's completely unreasonable

3luckystars · 11/01/2026 14:59

Why are you having to ask him anything, you are supposed to be in it together.

What age are the children?

Glitterballofdreams · 11/01/2026 14:59

What the heck! If he won’t watch his kids, pass him the mop & bucket. Or even better, show him the door.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 11/01/2026 14:58

I keep on top of things easily because my DH isn't a twat.

Sorry yours is.

I suggest you think about your options.

Sally2791 · 11/01/2026 14:58

He can do the deep clean. Useless parent

InterestedDad37 · 11/01/2026 14:57

Er... why are still with such an arsehole?

Logoplanter · 11/01/2026 14:56

Your DH is a knob. Sorry.