Would you rather be too hot or too cold?

I hate being too hot, it makes me feel ill and a bit panicky. But being very cold is miserable too.

What temperature is your house? If you're all wearing sensible winter clothes (layers, jumpers etc) and are still cold, he's the problem.

@luxurynuts If you're too cold you can just put on layers and move more and do something active.

My DH gets warm so our house is kept at 19C as a compromise. I just wear lots of layers and make sure I get up and move round lots or do something physical if I start getting too cold.

I also have an oil filled radiator in my study so rather than turning the heating on, I can just use this if I'm working and get too cold.

Too cold, you can always put layers on. What's your DH supposed to do, strip off?

I lived in Australia for 11 years and the hot days are part of the reason I moved back to the UK, just too hot and I hated it.

There has to be compromise of course

I HATE being too hot I get so stressed

It’s not really about preferring to be too hot or too cold. I would prefer to put a jumper on rather than the heating. But once I’ve done that, or if my children are in jumpers and still cold, I’ll put the heating on.

In terms of health, it isn't good for the house or the humans to be too cold on an ongoing basis in winter, the heating should be set to a healthy temperature.

The needs of the children should be prioritised, so he's out of order.

Get him a cool pack.

I think if one person is different from everyone else, you go with the majority. I don't like being either too cold or too hot - both are uncomfortable. But I prefer a cosy house for my kids

Middle ground, surely? So long as you are wearing appropriate clothing.

Too cold cos you can always layer up - it’s far harder to cool down

Rather be too cold , easier to wrap up.
extreme heat feels harder to deal with

Generally I'm team too cold 'cos I agree with his sentiment - I prefer winter because at least once you're home you can whack on the heating and wrap up warm whereas in summer you escape the heat only to come back to your still too hot home.

However as others have said if he's in shorts and a t-shirt whilst you're all wrapped up warm he should see if there's some kind of problem. Also I think it's unfair the rest of you should have to adjust just because of him.

If I'm too cold I can bundle up a bit.

When I'm too hot I feel sick and dizzy and can't concentrate. My skin gets prickly and itchy and I start scratching. After a few hours I'll start puking and pass out. I also end up with a splitting headache.

My parents will turn down the heating when I visit and throw a jumper on. I deliberately wear shorts and a t shirt when I visit them to help mitigate it.

It depends on how cold he wants you to be though - I usually request they drop the temp to 21c from their usual 24c. I don't think they'd be happy if I was telling them to drop it to 18.

I think it's easier to wrap up than cool off however if he's in shorts and you're all ridiculously wrapped up that's quite an extreme difference in how you both feel the temp. You shouldn't need to be so wrapped up its uncomfortable in your own home. I think we need to know the temp in your house!

Too hot. I dont enjoy being hot and sweaty but being cold is far worse.

When it's bitterly cold your fingers and toes feel literally painful and it inhibits your entire body. Having a shower is awful because when you get out it makes you shiver (whereas in heat it's delightful and refreshing). Cold is far worse and it also prevents me from wanting to go outside for walks/runs which do me the world of good.

I think there needs to be some compromise.

In general, I agree with DH - if he is in shorts and a t shirt then either it’s not that cold (and I’m the cold frog in my relationship) or he needs to have some bloods taken/thyroid checked/is it a medication side effect?

It is easier for the cold person to layer up than the hot person to cool down.
You should make sure you wear thermal singlets/socks and be layered up - nothing more annoying than someone in a house upping the thermostat when they haven’t dressed appropriately. Are you moving/exercising enough to get the circulation going?

What temperature are you both wanting? When I’m home alone, I set it at 22 and I still feel cold. When DH is home it’s usually 18 (which is our compromise) and basically off overnight.