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Man knocking telling me to come outside

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AmberHiker · 11/01/2026 01:07

At around 11pm, when all the houses were dark and quiet, an unknown man repeatedly knocked on my door. He didn’t knock loudly like it was an emergency – it was light but constant, which somehow felt worse.

I was home alone with my young child, which already made me feel vulnerable. I didn’t open the door but spoke through the glass. He told me there was an issue with “cars outside” and kept saying I should come out and look. His story was vague and didn’t really make sense. He had a dog right up at my door and he stood a few steps back. I started recording the conversation on my phone.

As it went on, he became more agitated. He then said he was going home but still told me I should come out and check for myself. I didn’t.

After he left, I looked outside properly from my kitchen window . The only car there was mine. There was absolutely nothing wrong with it – no lights on, no windows open, no damage, nothing. There were no other cars like he’d suggested either. There was literally no reason for him to knock on my door late at night.

The fact that he knocked repeatedly, tried to get me to come outside, and used a story that wasn’t true has really shaken me. Being alone at night with my child, in the dark, with someone trying to lure me outside has made me feel unsafe in my own home. I keep thinking how different it could have been if I’d opened the door.

I’ve reported it, but I just wanted to share in case it helps someone else trust their instincts. If something feels off, it probably is.

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Glittertwins · 13/01/2026 19:42

I have a spare battery for my doorbell so I always have a charged one to swap to as we can’t hard wire ours.

ElizabethsTailor · 13/01/2026 19:16

diamondsonasunday · 13/01/2026 07:39

OP has since checked and driven her car and there is nothing wrong with it so clearly this man did have nefarious intentions. I dont know why you are so determined to make out this was an innocent thing when clearly it wasn't. There was nothing wrong with OP's car- she has updated this.

Looks like you might have been confused at the chronological order of the posts - mine and then OPs subsequent update.

NotThisShitAgain121 · 13/01/2026 14:29

Ask the the neighbours nearby if they have any footage of him on their ring doorbell's if they have them.

NotThisShitAgain121 · 13/01/2026 14:23

That is fucked u. I hope you are okay. Time to invest in a ring doorbell.

diamondsonasunday · 13/01/2026 07:39

ElizabethsTailor · 11/01/2026 13:07

I think you are agreeing with me that he wasn’t very articulate.

She said she didn’t go outside to look. Any of those things could be missed by just checking from one angle.

OP has since checked and driven her car and there is nothing wrong with it so clearly this man did have nefarious intentions. I dont know why you are so determined to make out this was an innocent thing when clearly it wasn't. There was nothing wrong with OP's car- she has updated this.

Daygloboo · 13/01/2026 01:25

AmberHiker · 11/01/2026 01:07

At around 11pm, when all the houses were dark and quiet, an unknown man repeatedly knocked on my door. He didn’t knock loudly like it was an emergency – it was light but constant, which somehow felt worse.

I was home alone with my young child, which already made me feel vulnerable. I didn’t open the door but spoke through the glass. He told me there was an issue with “cars outside” and kept saying I should come out and look. His story was vague and didn’t really make sense. He had a dog right up at my door and he stood a few steps back. I started recording the conversation on my phone.

As it went on, he became more agitated. He then said he was going home but still told me I should come out and check for myself. I didn’t.

After he left, I looked outside properly from my kitchen window . The only car there was mine. There was absolutely nothing wrong with it – no lights on, no windows open, no damage, nothing. There were no other cars like he’d suggested either. There was literally no reason for him to knock on my door late at night.

The fact that he knocked repeatedly, tried to get me to come outside, and used a story that wasn’t true has really shaken me. Being alone at night with my child, in the dark, with someone trying to lure me outside has made me feel unsafe in my own home. I keep thinking how different it could have been if I’d opened the door.

I’ve reported it, but I just wanted to share in case it helps someone else trust their instincts. If something feels off, it probably is.

I suppose it's possible he was harmless but maybe a bit mentally instable or ' simple' but not in a dangerous way. Even so, have a plan incase it happens again. There was a post a few months ago on here of a woman who started having things like that happen. Someone suggested the people doing it thought someone else lived at the house and not her and that's why they were doing it. A sort of nistaken identity thing. You ssid about the deliveroo driver. So maybe if other things start happening too it could be someone thinking they are targetting someone else and not you ??

Irritatediron · 12/01/2026 20:44

Did you share this on facebook OP? This exact situation was posted in my local community chat in sussex, otherwise it might be happening in other places ?

Tuesdayschild50 · 12/01/2026 20:33

Glad you reported this and did not open the door.
What person knocks this late and constantly makes me angry just thinking about it.
I'd definitely up your security with a ring doorbell the police will tell you to do this.

MrsOlderButWiser · 12/01/2026 20:26

I live with my partner and we do not answer the door after dark. We've had people knock at 10.30pm and 5am in the morning and we won't answer if it is dark outside.
You have definitely done the right thing OP. I hope it doesn't happen again.

Pessismistic · 12/01/2026 19:32

Hi Op you did the right thing but don’t rule out they are not connected just treat them all the same unwanted. I would say even if there was an issue with your car leave it be as it’s not more important than you or your dc. Cars are replaceable. They could be opportunists working together next time it could be an old lady or a kid just use the bell for any conversation.

LittleVoice11 · 12/01/2026 18:09

How horrible for you, hope you’re ok! Something similar happened to me a few years ago, I was on my own with my daughter who was about 6 at the time, and somebody woke me up banging on my door at 2:30 in the morning, I was absolutely rooted to the spot - petrified!
I did report it to the police and a lovely PCSO came round. She was so helpful and gave me loads of reassurance and advice and told me to get security cameras front and back. She also said to buy a curtain for the front door (it made me really anxious that somebody would be able to see through the glass panels if I moved around). I also put a security motion activated light out the back.
it did happen a couple more times and somebody once knocked before midnight, i never did find out who or why. Maybe some drunk getting mixed up with their mates house or something! Honestly it was still horrible but I felt a little bit safer as I had used that advice, the door curtain was the best I still have it now.. I hope it doesn’t happen to you again x

LandladyofTheValley · 12/01/2026 18:09

Personally I would always say something like, "OK I'll get my husband to look shortly". Doesn't have to be husband, can be brother, partner, anything but someone male. So they don't think you're alone.

OllieKayden · 12/01/2026 12:45

You could always play Dave Edmunds’ no 1 song from 1970 on full blast from an upstairs window. That’ll definitely drive the message home

exiledfromcornwall · 12/01/2026 10:59

AmberHiker · 11/01/2026 23:17

Thanks for all your responses and sharing your experiences . I have learned to never have the ring doorbells not charged for the night time . They are both back on.

i checked my car this morning . Absolutely nothing different - wrong - at all. I drove to town and back. I was on edge last night I stayed up for a long time and today this evening I felt paranoid about not having the curtains closed come evening time . I’ve changed the settings on my doorbell so they notify me critical even if my phone is on do not disturb.

I don’t think I will hear anything from the police . The only other odd thing was a Deliveroo driver came to the door and I checked over the camera it was for this address ? He said it was but then that he was looking for someone called Daniel on the order … that’s never happened before either ! Not connected I’m sure but I don’t want any more unknown males knocking at my door !

Re the delivery driver, do you have any streets nearby with the same first part of the name as yours? E.g. XXX Road, XXX Close, XXX Terrace? This was the issue with the delivery driver that knocked on our door the other night. The delivery was intended for a nearby street with the same first part of the name.

Dery · 12/01/2026 08:02

@CellophanicDreams - that’s fair. I would have explained the whole thing to the police but not with the expectation that they would take action or arrest him for that but in case it helped build up a profile if others were reporting similar.

Morecoombe · 12/01/2026 02:21

AmberHiker · 11/01/2026 23:17

Thanks for all your responses and sharing your experiences . I have learned to never have the ring doorbells not charged for the night time . They are both back on.

i checked my car this morning . Absolutely nothing different - wrong - at all. I drove to town and back. I was on edge last night I stayed up for a long time and today this evening I felt paranoid about not having the curtains closed come evening time . I’ve changed the settings on my doorbell so they notify me critical even if my phone is on do not disturb.

I don’t think I will hear anything from the police . The only other odd thing was a Deliveroo driver came to the door and I checked over the camera it was for this address ? He said it was but then that he was looking for someone called Daniel on the order … that’s never happened before either ! Not connected I’m sure but I don’t want any more unknown males knocking at my door !

Police should investigate and find him. This is how people like Wayne cousins slip through the net until they commit a terrible crime - which could be preventable if police took things like this as seriously as they should

AmberHiker · 11/01/2026 23:17

Thanks for all your responses and sharing your experiences . I have learned to never have the ring doorbells not charged for the night time . They are both back on.

i checked my car this morning . Absolutely nothing different - wrong - at all. I drove to town and back. I was on edge last night I stayed up for a long time and today this evening I felt paranoid about not having the curtains closed come evening time . I’ve changed the settings on my doorbell so they notify me critical even if my phone is on do not disturb.

I don’t think I will hear anything from the police . The only other odd thing was a Deliveroo driver came to the door and I checked over the camera it was for this address ? He said it was but then that he was looking for someone called Daniel on the order … that’s never happened before either ! Not connected I’m sure but I don’t want any more unknown males knocking at my door !

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CellophanicDreams · 11/01/2026 19:45

Dery · 11/01/2026 09:22

“butterpuffed · Today 08:02
I was married to a policeman and he sometimes worked nights [from 10pm]. He used to say if someone knocks , don't actually open the door , talk through it [like the OP] but as you go up to it call out 'It's okay, I'll go' so they don't think you're alone in the house.”

This is great advice. Give the impression you’re not alone and also ideally that there’s a man in the house.

Not quite the same thing but for when you’re in the street: i have raised my now young adult DDs to be wary of adults (particularly men) who approach young women to ask for help. If they need help, they can get it from another adult male. I had a taste of this many years ago when walking home late at night. I was vaguely aware of a man walking towards me on the other side of the road. He had been walking normally. Then he saw me and suddenly leaned down on a crutch he had been carrying and asked if i would help him up the steps to his front door (some of the houses on that road have front steps). I refused and kept walking. I wasn’t particularly scared because traffic-wise this is a reasonably busy road, but i still get a chill thinking about what might have happened if i’d helped him. Nowadays, i would report this just so the police have a note of it but it happened about 20 years ago.

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So you would report someone asking for help and you saying no and walking away without incident?
I'd be surprised if they did anything about that.
You did the right thing by not doing it but you said no and continued he didn't follow or attempt to do anything to you so I can't see how that's report worthy or that they'd do anything.
Perhaps nothing would have happened even if you had helped.
Again you did the right thing, I'd have refused too but I wouldn't have seen me refusing and walking away without further incident report worthy.

As for the OP someone knocking on the door of her house at night would definitely be report worthy.

Catsforeverr · 11/01/2026 18:09

Friendlygingercat · 11/01/2026 03:18

I once had men knocking on my door pretending to be doing a gas leak check. Not late at night but they were pushy. I told them I was calling the police to check their ID before I opened. They left quickly. When the police arrived they checked with the gas company and there were no eams out looking for leaks. It was an attempted scam.

You could have told him "Thanks for letting me know about the cars. Im calling the police (or some mates who live in the next street) now to come and check." My guess is that he would leave very quickly.

I actually opened a door to Gas meter bloke, well what i thought it was.
It was dark winter rainy day, few years ago, around 6.30pm, also had black clothes on and also hoodie on.
He knocked on, I opened -thinking its a courier I was expecting.
He said he came to take down a gas meter readings and he waved some lanyard with some vague id.
I let him, gas meter located in the kitchen, had to walk through the living room.
As soon he walked into living room, he spotted DH sitting on the sofa, he looked well taken aback but continued following me to the kitchen, where pointed to the meters door.
He looked briefly at it and said ok and quickly walked out.
He didn't even typed the numbers down or looked long enough!
A hour later a neighbour in our road posted that a same looking man tried to get into her house, her teen daughter opened the door and said to him to come another day when mum will be home, he put his foot into the door trying to push the door open, luckily her boyfriend was upstairs so she quickly called him and the bloke just run out quickly.
I actually couldn't believe it when I read it, I also contacted my Gas company to confirm if anyone checking meters in our street today, they confirmed 100% nope.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 11/01/2026 15:45

RhannionKPSS · 11/01/2026 01:18

Get a Ring door bell, it’s worth it for peace of mind

I don't necessarily agree that it gives piece of mind. A handful of friends and one of my neighbours have become over anxious and mildly paranoid with the false positives it throws up. I've had to check out my neighbour's property a good number of times because of their bloody ring door bell (don't mind though as she does so much for me)

Datafan55 · 11/01/2026 15:31

Comewhatmay25 · 11/01/2026 08:32

I was thinking this. One night my dodgy neighbour was banging on my door quite loudly past midnight. I was scared so didnt answer. Turns out I had left my keys in the door and he was trying to wake me up to take them in 😂

People can have genuine and helpful reasons, definitely. Recently I had to get the gas board out and the engineer had to rouse all the neighbours in the early hours, in essence to save their lives. Took her ages as people weren't answering.

However we always need to be cautious/sensible as predators will try anything.

Shorten · 11/01/2026 15:28

CremeCarmel · 11/01/2026 15:21

I love living alone but I take precautions. I have an alarm which I put on at night. It is one of those where if it goes off they ring and ask if you are ok and I can call them if I someone was to break in during the night. The alarm would probably have gone off if someone knocked on my door at night.

I haven’t got a ringdoor bell. I need to get one.

I want to buy a door jammer I saw for sale on Amazon. Apparently it stops people getting in but you can swiftly disarm it if you need to get out yourself. Does anyone have one?

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I haven’t heard of that but I don’t think you need that tbh. The cameras will be more value for money.

You don’t only want to protect yourself in case a conflict occurs, you want to prevent the conflict from happening to begin with - cameras are a big deterrent. It might be the case that some invader unable to enter your house due to the door jammer, would not have targeted you to begin with if they saw visible CCTV in the first place. Because then it moves from opportunistic crime to something they have to plan out and consider evidence in advance. Cameras don’t prevent every crime but I’d rather invest in that than a door jammer.

ERthree · 11/01/2026 15:26

LovesLabradors · 11/01/2026 03:24

Really sinister. May have been someone with mental health issues, or something much worse. Hope you sleep tonight!

I think anyone that is knocking on your door to try and entice you to open the door has more than MH issues. They are evil wrong un's.

CremeCarmel · 11/01/2026 15:21

I love living alone but I take precautions. I have an alarm which I put on at night. It is one of those where if it goes off they ring and ask if you are ok and I can call them if I someone was to break in during the night. The alarm would probably have gone off if someone knocked on my door at night.

I haven’t got a ringdoor bell. I need to get one.

I want to buy a door jammer I saw for sale on Amazon. Apparently it stops people getting in but you can swiftly disarm it if you need to get out yourself. Does anyone have one?

Daytimetellyqueen · 11/01/2026 15:12

Hope you’re ok Op.

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