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Should husband have got taxi at 4am after finishing work late?

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Groay · 10/01/2026 18:12

Husband is a pilot. He ended up at an airport that is not his home base. This meant he stayed overnight in a hotel. I was fine with this. But I have since learned that everyone except him chose to get in a paid for taxi in the very early hours. Husband’s taxi was for 2pm the next day. Everyone else wanted to gain that day back by getting the travel over and done with.

It meant that I had to cancel an event I wanted to go to. Dh knows I was trying to figure out alternative childcare but the hassle wasn’t worth it in the end so I sacked it off.

Do I have a right to be mad? Dh could’ve slept for three hours in the taxi and then driven the 20 mins home. And had basically the whole next day to chill with the odd drop off here and there for kids.

He said he was knackered. He FaceTimed me from bed and he was definitely tired but I can tell when he’s exhausted. He was actually quite talkative and I had to say get some sleep to him! I was up with poorly baby

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Octavia64 · 10/01/2026 18:16

Taxi at 4am for three hours and then drive?

after presumably a longer than normal shift plus diversion as he landed at an airport where his car wasn’t?

I’d have got some sleep too.

vanillalattes · 10/01/2026 18:15

I'm not sure if anyone is BU, really.

It's fine for you to be annoyed your plans were disrupted, it's also fine for him to want to sleep properly after work, and not catch a taxi at 4am.

Spoodles · 10/01/2026 18:14

Is your husband good at sleeping in cars because if not then getting a hotel after flying, having some sleep and then coming home the next day seems much more sensible.

Fidgety31 · 10/01/2026 18:14

If he had to work again the next day then he would’ve needed a decent sleep . So I don’t blame him for staying at the hotel .

If he just couldn’t be arsed go watch his own kids then yeah he’s shit .

Bombinia · 10/01/2026 18:14

He was three hours away and exhausted, I'm team DH on this. I would have chosen the hotel too.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 10/01/2026 18:14

It meant that I had to cancel an event I wanted to go to.

He sucks

Whats your marriage like generally?
Is this a one off?

strangerjackets · 10/01/2026 18:13

I agree with you I think

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